I have met a lot of women of dating sites. I'm goodlooking, normal, fun personality, dress very nice, nice teeth, talk show host type questions, kidding around, flirting, etc.
I meet hot women on dates after they see my photos so obviously I am handsome. Then when I meet them they tell me I look like my photos.
If this is the way you describe yourself, you need to work on yourself. So they see your picture and see that your handsome and when you take them out, you do in fact look like your picture. Congrats, you passed the FIRST test.
The problem is I cannot get them interested in me after the first date. I have gone through 50 women this year and all of them were "1 daters." I had a few lays in between. But the most part women ditch me after the first date.
They're speaking to you bro, if 50 women aren't interested, then get interesting. Nobody wants to go out on a date with a talk show host, unless of course they were an actual talk show host.
They love talking to me and feeling comfortable. They will even hang with me for 5 hours on a first date. But the result is always the same--goodbye and goodluck with a kiss on the cheek or a hug or maybe a kiss on the lips. Some have even turned their cheek when I went to kiss them. The ultimate insult. I would love to smack them in the face for the insult. Why waste my time?
Bro, you wasted their time. The only reason you would spend more then 5 hours with the girl on the first date is if the girl is the 'one', which even so you shouldn't do anyways. Try 1 hour or even shorter, cut it off at a high point.
If they do not find me attractive then why hang out with me for 5 hours on a first date? I sometimes will force myself to flirt with them early on in the date to detect interest and if its not there--I end the date quickly. I hate time wasters.
Just because you are good looking doesn't make you attractive, this is only the FIRST test, when you start talking you need to keep up the image that you 'Can talk the talk, and you can walk the walk' (Good looking and interesting). Why would you not try to detect interest right at the beginning every time? If they're interested and you spend 5 hours with them, I can only think that if they're not interested, you must spend 1 hour with them. Try if they're interested spend 1 hour with them, if they're not cut it shorter. You sound like they are the ones that control your time, wrong, you do.
I finally asked one woman a month ago after our 2nd date(luckily made it that far) why she lost interest? She said I was needy, controlling, and insecure. She came over and I cooked for her. Actually I never found her attractive--but wanted to get laid. I showed her photos an old house I grew up in that was later destroyed(sharing stuff with her), how is that insecure? I even wrestled with her on the floor and we kissed. How is that controlling? I cooked for myself and she thought I cooked for her. How is that needy?
Women aren't stupid. She was probably shocked or dumbfounded that you had photos of your old house that was destroyed, how does this translate to getting laid and how did you expect HER to feel? Women cook for their men, I believe that is what the stereotype is, don't go against it unless you're a chef and you know the way you cook will get you laid. It looks like you have a reason that you weren't any of those things that she said, however, they're more like excuses.
I think women are FULL OF THEMSELVES and have big egos. I think they are image conscious and want a handsome man to be around to make themselves feel good. Maybe I am not handsome and thats turning them off. They are just lying to me not to hurt my feelings. I cannot understand what I a doing wrong? So many ladies are slipping on by me. I used to get laid a lot. But nowadays when women meet me they have their arms folded. They dont flirt back when I flirt with them or they are just quiet or when I kiss them they turn their cheek. Maybe give them a challenge?
The last girl I had a date with we spent kissing on parking lot when it ended. Then she called me 3 times that night after date and I didnt answer her calls. Then i finally did on 3rd call. She said she had agreat time. I said lets meet again. She said ok! I texted her to say hi the next day. And she blows me off. I havent heard from her since. Flake! Im sick of the BS.
Any suggestions? Im ready to move to the woods and be a monk.
I know this thread will take a twist.
More like, now I will give you my problem
But it sucks because you wonder what this other person is giving to my ex that I'm not, whether it be money/looks/whatever. It makes you question a lot of things, including yourself as a person. Even if I am not fond of my ex in general, I would still think its stupid for her to be with someone new, you’d think "Why them?"
You are not over your ex, obviously. Now that you have broken up with her you think that since you had it once, it will be easy it get it again, wrong. I think that many times when a guy gets a girl he stops growing within himself and I believe that's what happened to you.
My advice: Take a break from dating. Become the MAN you want to be, no more focus on getting laid instead focus on having fun (enjoying yourself), CONTROL your urges. This should do you some good.
