1. if you didn't care what she thought you wouldn't be posting this on this forum don't kid yourself.
2. you came off as trying way too hard. ronniel is correct.
3. if that is the way you normally act, then you don't have any game. what you have is a tool that you are overusing. if this is how you entertainyourself, frankly you suck.
look, think of game like a toolbox. there are some times when you need to use a hammer. there are sometimes you need to use a socket wrench, there are sometimes when you need to use a screwdriver, there are sometimes you need to use some wireplyers. Game is a set of tools, not A tool. and having game is the ability to know when to use what.
what you are saying is "i don't give a **** if the there is a nail hanging out the wall, if the board is 5 inches thick, or whatever, I"m going to use my hammer to do everything and if the the hammer doesn't work, than the board just sucks at life" j
Kent Syndrome
I call this Kent Syndrome because this reminds me of my old business partner, whose name is Kent. Watching him with women was like watching a bad train-wreck in very slow motion. He had a very strong personality. I liked that above him. He was a Type A guy. I liked that about him. But he tried way too hard with women and he always came off as creepy and obnoxious. He didn't know how to do sutble things like change the tone of your voice when you crack a joke as to hint that you aren't serious. moreso than anything he thought he was god's gift to mankind and could not resist talking about himself around women and women, all of them, despise that, regardless of who you are. they don't give a ****.
You don't have to talk about confidence, confidence is a by product of action. anytime you try to show confince in the form of words it will end bad.
let me give you an example last night i took this chick named amanda out for dinner. (yes my wife is that pimp where she let me take another chick out for dinner, it was for the girl's 1 year soberity anny). i thought it would be nice, i know she doesn't have a lot of money and she's going through some **** i figured i'd be nice. anyway , went up to here and i didn't ask her anything. i said hey after the meeting we are going out to eat. she said okay sounds good lol.
that's confidence. i KNEW she would say okay. even though i wasn't trying to **** her or anything (And make no mistake i could, she tried everythign short of blowing me to get me to stick around longer). I didn't have to ask her did she have plans, I assumed that she was waiting for me to ask hdr to go out to eat. i assume every girl i met wants to **** me. rightfully or wrongfully. and it shows in my actions, i don't have to say ****. i don't have to be ****y, i'm confident.
and when we were out i don't think i said 5 words about myself. i wanted to know how she was doing and how she was holding up and ****.
and to playermans point, here is the deal. you are making excuses for why you aren't getting laid. the girl i took out, i'm ont interested in her. she's got 2 kids, she's got a baby daddy in prison that reeks to me of someone with bad decision making skills. all on top of that i'm very very happily married. but i gurnatee you if i CHOSE to, i could **** her.
posters like warrior, myself, samspade, desi, we decide who we are going to **** and who we aren't 9 out of 10 times. we don't make excuses for not ****ing. if she's interested enough to go on a date with me, i' going to **** her eventually, more times than not. and if i don't **** her, it's because i deemed she's not worth ****ing.
that's game. this girl could have been ****ed and you blew it. and that's the bottom line. because you don't have game. you have a hammer. the reason i'm being somewhat harsh is because you need to be more introspective. the girl gave you a pretty ****ing imoprtant bit of info and instead of using it to your advantage to bed hb+s from here on out you are more concerned about procting your ego by saying she is the problem
