Had a lunch date with a hottie earlier this week, she is a pharma sales rep. Like most women who do pharma sales she was very attractive. This was our first meet n greet. Prior to this she initiated much contact and we had a flirty rapport.
During lunch, against my better judgment I asked her if she knew my ex wife, who is also in pharma sales in a different company.
Her eyes widened with shock: "OMG you were married to HER?!"
She said "Yes I met your ex wife a year ago. I was introduced to her by a mutual friend who said 'she's the black version of me.' Your ex wanted me to go to happy hour with her but no way, she's way out of my league."
My ex wife, who I've been divorced from 8 years now, has been in pharma sales a long time and is SUPER social, SUPER outgoing, SUPER gregarious - I mean a whole 'nother level, a consummate sales person. She's also very loud, but very personable and has a way of making you feel like you're her best friend, even though you just met.
So I see what my date meant by the "she's out of my league" comment because my ex can intimidate people...
I tried to play it off, say no she's not out of anyone's league, she's just a regular person once you get to know her blah blah blah.
Don't think it worked. My date said why does Kansas City have to have such a small dating pool where it seems there's always a connection to someone else.
Date ended, she gave me a huge hug, I told her "I'm gonna hit you up soon to go out again" She said that's fine but she still couldn't believe it....
Contacted her again a few days later to go on a real date, she says "sorry I have my boys all weekend" - no counter.
Sucks because we had a rapport but it's gone now. I shouldn't have brought up my ex because chances were 99% they had run into each other at some point.
Her and my ex are not friends, not even facebook friends - any way to salvage this or at least position myself for a chance of a better outcome??
During lunch, against my better judgment I asked her if she knew my ex wife, who is also in pharma sales in a different company.
Her eyes widened with shock: "OMG you were married to HER?!"
She said "Yes I met your ex wife a year ago. I was introduced to her by a mutual friend who said 'she's the black version of me.' Your ex wanted me to go to happy hour with her but no way, she's way out of my league."
My ex wife, who I've been divorced from 8 years now, has been in pharma sales a long time and is SUPER social, SUPER outgoing, SUPER gregarious - I mean a whole 'nother level, a consummate sales person. She's also very loud, but very personable and has a way of making you feel like you're her best friend, even though you just met.
So I see what my date meant by the "she's out of my league" comment because my ex can intimidate people...
I tried to play it off, say no she's not out of anyone's league, she's just a regular person once you get to know her blah blah blah.
Don't think it worked. My date said why does Kansas City have to have such a small dating pool where it seems there's always a connection to someone else.
Date ended, she gave me a huge hug, I told her "I'm gonna hit you up soon to go out again" She said that's fine but she still couldn't believe it....
Contacted her again a few days later to go on a real date, she says "sorry I have my boys all weekend" - no counter.
Sucks because we had a rapport but it's gone now. I shouldn't have brought up my ex because chances were 99% they had run into each other at some point.
Her and my ex are not friends, not even facebook friends - any way to salvage this or at least position myself for a chance of a better outcome??