I have long been a reader on this site, but never felt the need to post until tonight. I really respect the opinions of the people here, so I ask it of you now. I'm pretty sure this situation sounds ridiculous, but, being in it right now, well, you know - sometimes it's hard to see what you need to see through all the smoke you know? I guess I just need to put this out there.
I had been dating this hottie for about 8 months before we decided to enter a relationship on Friday night. Tonight (Monday) she tells me that on Saturday she kissed this one dude. Now this guy was the reason her and I weren't in any sort of relationship or anything, as I was dating other chicks and she was talking to this dude for quite some time.
But she tells me first that he kissed her, and then paused for me to say something. I mean what am I supposed to say? She dated this guy for like 4 months before her and I knew each other and she has known him her whole life. I proceeded to find out that not only did she kiss back, but they messed around (no sex). I do feel fairly confident this is the truth.
Now there is a small part of me that wants to honor the fact that she told me, and also a part that says well it was only the first day of the relationship. She says she just wasn't thinking and just wasn't in the mindset yet of having a boyfriend. I know that as men though we need to only look at girl's actions and ignore their words because the words are usually bull****, but it's hard..
The frustrating thing is she had a conversation with this guy that same night about her and I. He flat out asked about me. He kinda seems like a good dude, and I am beginning to deduct my girl is the real problem. From what I gather from her confession, she evaded letting him know we were exclusive. How does that not come up when he asks about me? This is what truly pisses me off - not only did she mess around on me but she completely ignored me for almost a complete night.
Anyhow, what do you think? I mean just one day into the relationship, I just move on, forget about it right? This chick is so hot and I spent a long time trying to get to the point where I thought I was with her. She says she's over it, she just needed to get it out of her system, and it will never happen again blah blah blah.
Thanks for any advice, I think I have a feeling what you guys are going to say, but I think I need to hear it. Do I give her another shot? I am not sure if the newness of the relationship works in her favor or against it. .
I had been dating this hottie for about 8 months before we decided to enter a relationship on Friday night. Tonight (Monday) she tells me that on Saturday she kissed this one dude. Now this guy was the reason her and I weren't in any sort of relationship or anything, as I was dating other chicks and she was talking to this dude for quite some time.
But she tells me first that he kissed her, and then paused for me to say something. I mean what am I supposed to say? She dated this guy for like 4 months before her and I knew each other and she has known him her whole life. I proceeded to find out that not only did she kiss back, but they messed around (no sex). I do feel fairly confident this is the truth.
Now there is a small part of me that wants to honor the fact that she told me, and also a part that says well it was only the first day of the relationship. She says she just wasn't thinking and just wasn't in the mindset yet of having a boyfriend. I know that as men though we need to only look at girl's actions and ignore their words because the words are usually bull****, but it's hard..
The frustrating thing is she had a conversation with this guy that same night about her and I. He flat out asked about me. He kinda seems like a good dude, and I am beginning to deduct my girl is the real problem. From what I gather from her confession, she evaded letting him know we were exclusive. How does that not come up when he asks about me? This is what truly pisses me off - not only did she mess around on me but she completely ignored me for almost a complete night.
Anyhow, what do you think? I mean just one day into the relationship, I just move on, forget about it right? This chick is so hot and I spent a long time trying to get to the point where I thought I was with her. She says she's over it, she just needed to get it out of her system, and it will never happen again blah blah blah.
Thanks for any advice, I think I have a feeling what you guys are going to say, but I think I need to hear it. Do I give her another shot? I am not sure if the newness of the relationship works in her favor or against it. .
