Great interest level, who would complain, right? I'd see this as a red flag myself. From my experience, attractive women just don't do this...they don't have to. If they are interested, they won't text/call everyday or pursue you, but they will leave themselves open to getting together and respond promptly if you do contact them.DJinTraining06 said:This girl I been talkin to since last Sunday night off of match.com cancelled our date for 2day. Tell me wat u think of this.
She gave me her number immediately that night and we talked for 10 mins. She texted me right after and said - "great talkin to u"
She texted me again in the morning and said "have a great day cutie!"
Then she called me during her lunchbreak, and called again that night. She then in the next 4 days texted me every single day. I would respond, and then she'd send like 2 or 3 more texts thoughout the day. She also called almost every single night, mon, tues and thurs. i think thurs i called her(only time)
Another trap to fall into is matching her frequency of communication. If she's writing several times a day, you may start to feel comfortable and start doing the same back to her. If you do, there's a good chance of her growing bored. I've seen it happen many times. No matter how interested she is, you always have to remain somewhat of a challenge.
Always, always make plans on the spot...none of this calling later to make plans. If you call and figure out a date she's available, then name the place and the time right there and then.DJinTraining06 said:I suggested we meet up sometime like thurs night but she said she was too tired, and suggested friday. I say yea i think im free. Then she texts me and says, is it ok if my friend is with me? So i text her back, "why dont we just wait till ur free" So she says ok how bout sunday afternoon we could meet up after i drop my friend off from connecticut at the bus. Friday night she called me again on the way to pick up her friend (who was staying with her all weekend from connecticut), she said she was so excited to meet me sunday to see happy feet! She then texted me 3 times that night too. She said she was gonna call sat afternoon to make plans wit me for sunday.
She doesn't call when she's supposed to, so you call AND text her back? You've just reinforced that it's OK for her to not call you, because you'll eventually call her anyway. If she doesn't call when she says she is, you make other plans.DJinTraining06 said:She never called, so i call her and she never called back. So it's like midnight and i wanna know wat im doin with my sunday, so i text her to ask wat's goin on.
Maybe you just need to develop less tolerance for this type of behavior. There came a point where I decided to stop dealing with women who pulled this stuff on me. Sure, I had 50% fewer plates to spin, but I also had 100% less bullshyt and drama to deal with.
Also, this all could have been avoided if you had made solid plans earlier.
Family drama? A bit convenient for that to be happening now. Perhaps true, but I don't think so.DJinTraining06 said:She texts me that shes having a dramatic family prob, but shed call me tom to let me know wat time we're meeting. Then at 5 AM my text message beep goes off and wakes the crap outta me. She said, hey i just got up to go to the bathroom, im still having alot of drama with my family, call me at 2 tomorow and ill let u know if i can or not. If not we can do it during the week,
Translation: "There are three other guys from match I'm trying to meet, so I can't make plans with you until I work out when I'm going to meet with them."
Again, this could all have been avoided if you had made plans beforehand, instead of the planning to make plans.
"I know I'm flaking and you're growing frustrated, so here's a carrot-and-stick to keep you interested"DJinTraining06 said:I really wanna meet u!
My analysis, from what you wrote about her appearance and the "I'm not the skinniest girl" comment, you're dealing with a fat chick who happens to have some great (perhaps very old) pictures of her rack on match and is getting a high off all the attention she's getting from guys there. She wants you to keep after her, and will be throwing out enough compliments to keep you interested despite all her flaking.
Probably. If you still want to meet her after all this (I wouldn't), then wait for her to call you and then make solid plans right there.DJinTraining06 said:So then i call her at 2 and leave a voicemail. She never calls back but she texts me at 4 pm saying sorry hunny i dont think its gunna happen today. I'll def make it up to u. I dunno seems weird the whole 5 am text. Wish she had let me know sooner i wouilda called this other girl who i know wanted to meet. I'm a real chump for waiting around. isnt this weird? the bathroom thing is odd. The fact that she says "ill make it up to u" is also annoying, cuz shes the one who's been obsessed with me texting constantly. and seeing happy feet this afternoon was her idea not mine. Kinda rubs me the wrong way, like oh shes gonna do me a favor now. That's alot of texts anyhow, she's prob nuts.