Unlike presumably most of you here, I have no problem getting women into the bedroom. In areas where most men fail, controlling the relationship, becoming boring or stale, etc. I succeed. This site was a big reason why and all AFCs who are struggling should heed the GOOD advice found here. However, one issue greatly restricts my success and overall fun, sexual anxiety.
Nervousness rips through my body like a tidal wave. It gets to the point where I get so worked up, that frequently prior to messing around, I have to vomit. I have to watch days where I will be seeing a sexual partner so I don’t eat before seeing them. However, sometimes, I will go out to eat with a girl, bang her and not have any issues whatsoever. Other times my stomach is in knots simply driving to her house. A minute or two into the car ride and I’m ready to hurl. Whenever I first became sexually active, I diagnosed the problem as inexperience and lack of confidence, as I gained more experience and knowledge in the bedroom the problem would simply take care of itself. Now as I sit, I have been sexually active for about a year now and the problem is as bad as it was the first day. Looking back on my success with the issue, I am not thinking about sex or anything that can go wrong with it at all. An obvious answer would be to not think about it at all, but that is much easier said than done. There was a good 2 to 3 week period where my confidence was high and sexual anxiety seemed like a thing of the past. A pregnancy scare brought me back down to earth and welcomed me back to anxiety’s sad embrace. To put it quite simply, has anyone gone through anything similar to this and how did you overcome the issue?
Any advice would be much appreciated. Thank you in advance.
Nervousness rips through my body like a tidal wave. It gets to the point where I get so worked up, that frequently prior to messing around, I have to vomit. I have to watch days where I will be seeing a sexual partner so I don’t eat before seeing them. However, sometimes, I will go out to eat with a girl, bang her and not have any issues whatsoever. Other times my stomach is in knots simply driving to her house. A minute or two into the car ride and I’m ready to hurl. Whenever I first became sexually active, I diagnosed the problem as inexperience and lack of confidence, as I gained more experience and knowledge in the bedroom the problem would simply take care of itself. Now as I sit, I have been sexually active for about a year now and the problem is as bad as it was the first day. Looking back on my success with the issue, I am not thinking about sex or anything that can go wrong with it at all. An obvious answer would be to not think about it at all, but that is much easier said than done. There was a good 2 to 3 week period where my confidence was high and sexual anxiety seemed like a thing of the past. A pregnancy scare brought me back down to earth and welcomed me back to anxiety’s sad embrace. To put it quite simply, has anyone gone through anything similar to this and how did you overcome the issue?
Any advice would be much appreciated. Thank you in advance.
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