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badboyjmm

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I feel stuck when it comes to females. For the longest time I was trying to spin plates and it wasn't happening. Tinder is dead, don't really feel like checking out another dating website and even when I go out I don't have the drive to approach although there's couple interested chicks.

For the past 3 months, I've been going to the gym and have a better body. Getting better at sports but I feel like my failures with women is holding me back. I used to go out by myself and now, I go out with friends not too interested with trying to pick-up chicks.

Unfortunately, it got me to start gambling and I lost money that I got of used to pay my car. It got bad because I wasn't feeling like a lost anything, until it was pointed to me by my father that I'm always broke, always out late and that I have nothing to show for. I ended breaking down and started crying. I realize that I'm complaining about stuff not being done but when I have the money, I go out and lose it (because I was chasing gains for the past)

Been sick for 2 weks with a constant cold and headache. It seem like depression was settling in. My dad is asking me what wrong. I don't say anything because I feel the advice will be empty. Same thing with my friends.

I give them advice with their relationship or when they are going for girls but when it comes to me I get nothing. Or I'll get the "I wish you can have a girlfriend" or they keep mentioning to other friends that this year I kept getting friendzoned.

For whatever reason, a plate that I was banging got a boyfriend and it got me depressed. Not because I want to bang her anymore (she got super fat) but because ever since I broke up with my ex a year ago, there's no consistency although I'm trying. Friendzoned left and right.

I probably hit my low when I banged a hooker, alcohol and winning money at the casino suddenly didnt well. The hooker wasn't that good and I was working the next day (barely slept 3 hours before going to work)

Not sure if porn addiction is killing me slowly, but I'm on day 1 hopefully I can keep at it (my record is one week)

Sorry for the rambling, i just feel really disconnected with females, although when I speak to them, we generally have a good report but when it comes dating, sex, nothing happens.

Since I'm the common denominator, I know I'm the problem but I don't know what is the actual problem.

What steps can I take to find out.

Thanks guys
 
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