“There are over (insert ungodly number here) women on the planet.”
In the Manosphere, the above is the default response for anybody suffering through oneitis, scarcity, a dry spell, or just plain feeling down and out. On the surface it seems to make a great deal of sense. Why get hung up on one woman when there are billions of them, right?
And yet it rings false to me. Yes there are over 3 billion women on the planet or some such number. But of those 3 billion, how many of them are attractive? I think most sensible men will agree that there are far more unattractive women than there are attractive ones. Go to your local supermarket and tell me how many women are there that you would take to bed.
So let’s assume that of those 3 billion females, 30% of them are attractive (and I think I’m being very generous here). That leaves us with 900 million or so. Now from that number, how many of those attractive women are currently in your area?
If you reside in one of the world’s big sexy metropolises, odds are there is a higher density of those sexy women within your grasp. If not, the odds of you crossing paths with these women are much lower. So let us find a middle ground. What if you live in Pittsburgh? Pittsburgh is a fairly large city but has nowhere near the level of culture and clout that places like New York, LA and London do. There are 175,444 females in Pittsburgh (http://pittsburgh.areaconnect.com/statistics.htm).
So of those 175,444, how many of them are even somewhat attractive? What are the odds that you will run into one of these attractive women in any given day in a city like Pittsburgh?
Do you see what I’m getting at? Scarcity is a real problem for men. It can’t really be solved by simply adopting an “abundance mentality”. Low abundance is low abundance no matter what your mentality is. Yes, you can go out and actively seek women at bars and clubs. But most men over 25 have life obligations that prevent them from putting the time and effort into the kind of Game needed to succeed in those environments on a regular basis. Yes, you can try online dating, but the women on these sites are past their prime, seeking marriage, and more often than not unattractive.
In the aftermath of the end of my last LTR, I’ve come to realize that a man without abundance should never allow himself to be in a relationship. This means that a great majority of men in the world should never be in relationships.
Why? Because the reality of scarcity hits much harder when that relationship ends. I am 29 years old and my last girlfriend was 21. On the scale, a solid 8. Now that it’s over, I look around me and I see nothing but second best. I have yet to set eyes on a girl that even remotely approaches my ex in attractiveness. There have been entire weeks where I’m lucky to even see a woman that isn’t sinfully ugly.
Scarcity is very real.
In the Manosphere, the above is the default response for anybody suffering through oneitis, scarcity, a dry spell, or just plain feeling down and out. On the surface it seems to make a great deal of sense. Why get hung up on one woman when there are billions of them, right?
And yet it rings false to me. Yes there are over 3 billion women on the planet or some such number. But of those 3 billion, how many of them are attractive? I think most sensible men will agree that there are far more unattractive women than there are attractive ones. Go to your local supermarket and tell me how many women are there that you would take to bed.
So let’s assume that of those 3 billion females, 30% of them are attractive (and I think I’m being very generous here). That leaves us with 900 million or so. Now from that number, how many of those attractive women are currently in your area?
If you reside in one of the world’s big sexy metropolises, odds are there is a higher density of those sexy women within your grasp. If not, the odds of you crossing paths with these women are much lower. So let us find a middle ground. What if you live in Pittsburgh? Pittsburgh is a fairly large city but has nowhere near the level of culture and clout that places like New York, LA and London do. There are 175,444 females in Pittsburgh (http://pittsburgh.areaconnect.com/statistics.htm).
So of those 175,444, how many of them are even somewhat attractive? What are the odds that you will run into one of these attractive women in any given day in a city like Pittsburgh?
Do you see what I’m getting at? Scarcity is a real problem for men. It can’t really be solved by simply adopting an “abundance mentality”. Low abundance is low abundance no matter what your mentality is. Yes, you can go out and actively seek women at bars and clubs. But most men over 25 have life obligations that prevent them from putting the time and effort into the kind of Game needed to succeed in those environments on a regular basis. Yes, you can try online dating, but the women on these sites are past their prime, seeking marriage, and more often than not unattractive.
In the aftermath of the end of my last LTR, I’ve come to realize that a man without abundance should never allow himself to be in a relationship. This means that a great majority of men in the world should never be in relationships.
Why? Because the reality of scarcity hits much harder when that relationship ends. I am 29 years old and my last girlfriend was 21. On the scale, a solid 8. Now that it’s over, I look around me and I see nothing but second best. I have yet to set eyes on a girl that even remotely approaches my ex in attractiveness. There have been entire weeks where I’m lucky to even see a woman that isn’t sinfully ugly.
Scarcity is very real.
