TheException
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Many times men fumble the handling of a woman seeking validation in the relationship(jealousy sh1t tests mainly). Briefly let's explain why women intuitively do this....
Men should enter LTRs with being the higher value figure. Men should be "the prize" and the woman should feel like she has "caged you". She should feel like she has stolen you off the sexual market from all the other females, because you are such an attractive guy. If the reverse dynamic is true(women higher value), do not enter a LTR. This beginning step is so important. Never do the chasing......be the chasee.
So now why do women seek to validate themselves? I firmly believe throughout the course of a relationship, the biology of women seeks to rip down the big alpha man and turn him into a provider chump. In essence she will constantly be testing the waters to see if she has high value in comparison to you. This is not to be viewed negatively by the man.....consider it a form of flattery, as she has acknowledged your high value. React by simply......not reacting. Now....on to the real life experience....
Girlfriend texts me from work the other day.
GF: Had a service provider offer to take me to breakfast today lol (validation attempt)
Exception: I like the approach
GF: I was giving him information blah blah blah and he was saying blah blah blah
Exception: Cool. Sounds like work is going good today.
GF: So far! He said he was going to get me chocolate pancakes and coffee blah blah
Exception: Solid. He covers all the basics.
GF: Seriously! Sweetest guy ever
END CONVERSATION
That is how you handle it........
I laugh a little to myself and reply nonchalantly. I just don't care enough to get mad, angry, depressed, insecure, fearful, etc. It's not a big deal. It's really not.....
Majority of guys will start thinking of worst case scenarios and say stupid sh1t like "he knows you have a boyfriend, right?" or "blah blah Ill beat him up". Then they will feel insecure all day thinking about if this guy will ever REALLY ever take her out to breakfast.....he lets FEAR DETERMINE HIS MOOD.....no bueno.
Contrary to the core beliefs of CWAFs.....women WILL have to deal with other men in their lives. Period. Statement goes double if she is attractive(and she better be). Women will also say statements like this in a subconscious attempt to make you jealous. This would prove to her, that you are not as high value as she originally thought. This raises her value and lowers yours.....lower value = loss of attraction.
You should not worry about your women going out on dates with people from work lol. If you have to honestly worry about this, you have failed to screen for a good woman. Instead, the real worry should happen if your girlfriend ever STOPS testing you....it means she no longer views you as higher value.
Destination: Splitsville in the near future.
Men should enter LTRs with being the higher value figure. Men should be "the prize" and the woman should feel like she has "caged you". She should feel like she has stolen you off the sexual market from all the other females, because you are such an attractive guy. If the reverse dynamic is true(women higher value), do not enter a LTR. This beginning step is so important. Never do the chasing......be the chasee.
So now why do women seek to validate themselves? I firmly believe throughout the course of a relationship, the biology of women seeks to rip down the big alpha man and turn him into a provider chump. In essence she will constantly be testing the waters to see if she has high value in comparison to you. This is not to be viewed negatively by the man.....consider it a form of flattery, as she has acknowledged your high value. React by simply......not reacting. Now....on to the real life experience....
Girlfriend texts me from work the other day.
GF: Had a service provider offer to take me to breakfast today lol (validation attempt)
Exception: I like the approach
GF: I was giving him information blah blah blah and he was saying blah blah blah
Exception: Cool. Sounds like work is going good today.
GF: So far! He said he was going to get me chocolate pancakes and coffee blah blah
Exception: Solid. He covers all the basics.
GF: Seriously! Sweetest guy ever
END CONVERSATION
That is how you handle it........
I laugh a little to myself and reply nonchalantly. I just don't care enough to get mad, angry, depressed, insecure, fearful, etc. It's not a big deal. It's really not.....
Majority of guys will start thinking of worst case scenarios and say stupid sh1t like "he knows you have a boyfriend, right?" or "blah blah Ill beat him up". Then they will feel insecure all day thinking about if this guy will ever REALLY ever take her out to breakfast.....he lets FEAR DETERMINE HIS MOOD.....no bueno.
Contrary to the core beliefs of CWAFs.....women WILL have to deal with other men in their lives. Period. Statement goes double if she is attractive(and she better be). Women will also say statements like this in a subconscious attempt to make you jealous. This would prove to her, that you are not as high value as she originally thought. This raises her value and lowers yours.....lower value = loss of attraction.
You should not worry about your women going out on dates with people from work lol. If you have to honestly worry about this, you have failed to screen for a good woman. Instead, the real worry should happen if your girlfriend ever STOPS testing you....it means she no longer views you as higher value.
Destination: Splitsville in the near future.