MOTU
Master Don Juan
GF had surgery last week and I have been caring for her. First night out of the hospital, I set my alarm on my phone to get up and give her meds when they were due. I had to get up at 2 and 5. When I got up at 5 she was awake, so I gave her the 6am pill and told her to take it at 6. She fell asleep and didn't.
So last night she made some comment about it. I think she was half joking and busting my b@lls but I didn't like it. I told her complaining about that was like someone dying of thirst b!tching there was no ice in the water. She said she wasn't b!tching just saying I should have gotten up. I was tired and it aggravated me.
So I kind of withdrew my attention. Later she kept asking me what was wrong. I said I had a long day and was tired. She said she could tell something was bothering me and wished I would tell her. I told her to put her monkey brain to bed (that's what I tell her when she is being emotional or over-thinking). She said she wasn't being unreasonable and she could tell something was wrong and she wished I would just tell her so she could fix it. She said that giving her the cold shoulder instead of telling her was being passive agressive.
I didn't really reply and she let it go. Later she went on about how much she appreciated all I had done for her and how it was great how I got up all night to give her meds. So she knew it was the meds comments that frustrated me.
So, did I play this right? I didn't want to bring up the meds thing because I didn't want to seem overly sensitive or something and I felt like I addressed it at the time and she knew. But part of me agrees with her that it was a little P-A and could make me come off like a moody b!tch.
I should add - the discussions were actually productive. She was neve disrespectful or condescending, nor was I.
Thoughts?
So last night she made some comment about it. I think she was half joking and busting my b@lls but I didn't like it. I told her complaining about that was like someone dying of thirst b!tching there was no ice in the water. She said she wasn't b!tching just saying I should have gotten up. I was tired and it aggravated me.
So I kind of withdrew my attention. Later she kept asking me what was wrong. I said I had a long day and was tired. She said she could tell something was bothering me and wished I would tell her. I told her to put her monkey brain to bed (that's what I tell her when she is being emotional or over-thinking). She said she wasn't being unreasonable and she could tell something was wrong and she wished I would just tell her so she could fix it. She said that giving her the cold shoulder instead of telling her was being passive agressive.
I didn't really reply and she let it go. Later she went on about how much she appreciated all I had done for her and how it was great how I got up all night to give her meds. So she knew it was the meds comments that frustrated me.
So, did I play this right? I didn't want to bring up the meds thing because I didn't want to seem overly sensitive or something and I felt like I addressed it at the time and she knew. But part of me agrees with her that it was a little P-A and could make me come off like a moody b!tch.
I should add - the discussions were actually productive. She was neve disrespectful or condescending, nor was I.
Thoughts?