Luminescence said:
Judging from the past few responses it's looking pretty pointless to continue this discussion further (but not for reasons mentioned above.)
Don't know what sort of responses you were hoping to get. Rejection is part of the game. If it wasn't,this forum wouldn't even exist. Of course your confidence takes hits from time to time when dealing with women,especially when you're first starting out.
I read a book a long time ago that really helped me out as far as confidence goes when it comes to women. Don't worry,I'm not going to tell you to go read it,I remember some specific parts that really stick out in my mind.
One part said that the problem with most guys is that they allow their self-worth/confidence to be determined by women's responses to them approaching them. It's like if a woman smiles at them,they feel good about themselves. If she's cold or snotty towards them,then they feel bad about themselves. They let the way the feel about themselves be determined by complete strangers! If she smiles at you,you think,"Yeah,I'm the man. I feel like a million bucks! I'm on top of the world! If she turns you down or turns her back to you,you think,"I'm nothing. I'll never get a girl. What was I thinking? No girl will ever want me".
So what happens is you being a good person has nothing to do with the type of person you are or your character,it's determined by whether a "hot" woman smiles at you or not. It's determined by whether some woman who you've never seen before,a complete and total stranger,accepts a date with you or not. NO WAY. I
REFUSE to let my sense of self be defined by someone who I approached and have have known for 2 minutes. Ridiculous.
Women wear makeup,jewelery,fake hair,fake nails, have fake breasts,and the majority of them feel worthless unless they have constant male attention.
So why would I let some chick who needs all that fakeness added onto herself to feel good,and not only that,she needs constant reenforcement from men herself to feel like somebody,you think I'm going to allow someone like that to decide how I feel about myself? She has horsehair on her head,and a bag of gel stuffed in her chest!
We're better than that guys. Look,yeah every now and then we'll have some confidence problems. But let them be short-lived. Just put it behind you,and keep on truckin'!!!