PIPE-DJ2002
Don Juan
hi fellow djs, its been almost 7 months since the last time i posted, but im really exited because i have learned many incredible things.
I FEEL I HAVE SOMENTHING TO SAY, AND I WANNA SHARE IT WITH YOU.
i have been studying NLP for myself, for those who dont know, nlp, is the study of your inner communication, what you tell yourself, how you use your physiology, and how it affects your moods, your nevous system.
its like if you press one button, you will get one response inside
if you press the wrong buttons, you will get another response.
its like you have 2 ways to react to your world, a positive or a negative, and it will depend, in the frame of reference you have, with this i mean your dominant thoughts are either positive or negative, its been proved that 70% of what you think in a day is negative and holds you back
this means that since the day we are born we were pre-programmed to not succed!
thats why sometimes we try and try and fail, thats why things always seem to not work. in time you have created a negative frame for yourself and thats the way u see everything.
example:
when, you try something new, and it doesnt work, you have two ways to look at it depending on your frame of attack,
a negative frame says:
I TRIED THIS, AND IT DIDNT WORK, IT MEANS I FAIL AND IT MAKES ME FEEL BAD..... ( we all have been here)
a positive frame says:
I TRIED THIS ,and ITS NOT THAT I FAILED... I HAVE SUCCESSFULLY DISCOVERED HOW NOT TO DO IT, AND THIS GETS ME CLOSER TO THE ONE THAT WILL WORK,,, SO IM EXITED.... (yea)
do you see the difference? different reactions in your body? different buttons that create different messages to your nervous system, trust me the one with the negative frame will give up, and the one with the positvie frame, will keep on and keep on, cuz he knows that whatever the case, he is closer to success.
another one.
lets say your girl dumps you after a 4 year relationship, or whatever you just get rejected.
a negative frame will say.
" OH NO, SHE LEFT ME, CUZ IM UGLY, IM A LOSER, NOW MY LIFE IS OVER,, POOR ME IS DEPRESSED NOW... lol
a positive frame will say.
" ALLELUYA, THANK GOD SHE LEFT, NOW I HAVE SOME SPACE TO FIND SOMEONE THATS GOOD ENOUGH FOR ME, YEA!!!
or
" I DIDNT GET REJECTED, I SUCCESSFULLY DISCOVERED THAT THIS GIRL DOESNT HAVE A GOOD TASTE, AND IT SHOWS ME HOW STUPID SHE IS, POOR HER.. HER LOSS.
this is basic reframing, see how what you say to yourself, affects your behavior? in any situation... IF YOU TRY SOMETHING NEW AND IT DOESNT WORK, YOU DONT HAVE TO FEEL BAD, OR IF A WOMAN REJECTS YOU, YOU DONT HAVE TO FEEL BAD,,, OR DO U?
so reframing, is taking an experience that is bad, upseting , frustrating, undesirable, and making it a GREAT advantage! THIS IS CONTEXT REFRAMING.
CONTENT REFRAMING means taking an exact situation and changing what it means... remember that nothing has any meaning but the meaning you give to it,,, you have the final desicion of what something means, for good or bad.
some people say that death is graduation to a higher level of existance, and they are exited about it, and make like a party when someone dies.
other people get sad, and depressed, i think our society is programmed for this type of reaction.
this reminds me of a story of a master reframe soldier, they were on a battle, and they were advancing, suddendly this soldier saw
the enemies, and he turned back and began to run,,, his men followed him with shock, and asked the reframe soldier,,,, " captain, are u high, why are we retreating????..... the soldier said.. " NO, WE ARE NOT RETREATING, WE ARE ADVANCING IN THE OPPOSITE DIRECTION." lol
again reframing is putting what others see as limitations as a great advantage
FIND THE MOST USEFUL MEANING FOR EVERYTHING SO THAT YOU CAN TURN IT INTO SOMETHING THAT WORKS FOR YOU, AND EMPOWERS YOU. so that no matter what happens outside,u stay positive you stay vibrant, and exited and in control of your life.
USING REFRAME:
a powerful way to use reframe is use it instantly and inside yourself everytime you detect a negative, limiting belief, so that you are aware of its uselessness and then you can change it.
thats why some people use positive thinking but they dont believe it, cuz in their mind they have not let go of their limiting beliefs. thats why u need to reframe it, and we will do it with challenging questions,
if you are going to question anything, question your own limitations. once you have the handle of this, you can use the principle of
"YOUR THOUGHTS VIVIDLY IMAGINED, CHARGED WITH EMOTION, BECOME YOUR REALITY"
you must construct your reality first,
ok lets do it! ( get exited by the way, this is the best gift you will give yourself)
there are endless limiting beliefs we have, and with patience we can eliminate them all, remember there is no instant gratification, this is hard work, you must reframe constantly not just once, until someday, this global positive frame of reality will come to you and you will feel like in the MATRIX, or your new reality.
this might take months of hard work.
THIS IS NOT FOR WUSSES.
COMMON LIMITING BELIEFS.
if i try something and it doesnt work, means i fail
if a girl rejects me, i feel bad, i cant handle it. it would be devastating. horrible, id fall in pieces,,, lol
its terrible to make mistakes
i need to be liked and have everybodys aproval to be happy
if a girl doesnt react positive to me, means she doesnt like me.
IF i aproach a woman, she will get upset
if a woman gets upset, means she doesnt like me which means im undesirable
if a woman rejects me, everyone in this place will laugh at me and disrespect me.
if i aproach a girl, its impossible to get her number, etc
because im not tall, women dont like me, and the list goes on...
NOTICE THAT a limiting belief has an external behavior, and an internal state, you must find both.
for instance the last limiting belief i wrote.
THIS GIRL DOESNT LIKE ME ( this is an internal state)
you need to find the external behavior.
what causes women to not like you?
BECAUSE IM SHORT, UGLY ETC ( this is an external behavior)
now we have the chain..
BECAUSE IM SHORT, WOMEN DONT LIKE ME.
EXTERNAL BEHAVIOR = INTERNAL STATE ( u need this)
now we can reframe, i have a list of powerful question you must ask yourself, whenever you wanna change a limiting belief.
ask yourself:
1) change external behavior
im tall enough to be successful with women, its thanx to my height that i can be a chick magnet.
2) change internal state
its not that women dont like me, its just that some have a bad taste, they are stupid to not see the opportunity in front of them (me). its a great advantage to find out.
3)if i reject this limiting belief, what is the worst thing that could happen?
4) if i reject this limiting belief, what good things will happen?
5) what forces you to think that way, do you have to?
6)how can you view this as positive and valuable? what positive intention did that person have?
7)can you think of a time when a woman has liked you, or has liked a guy as tall as you ( from the example)
8) (this one smokes) whats gonna happen to your success level if you keep thinking this way, what does this belief leads to, what will your life be like in 20 or 30 years. does this belief serve you well in your goals? in the long run does this give u peace of mind and makes your life like a party?
9) does this happen to everyone, always? ( in example, do u think that every short guy in history has lived without having even one woman like him?) duh!
10) is this who you want to become? arent you a human being?
11)in what ways this action,flaw, event, can make you succeed, than if you didnt have it?
12) how is the whole thing totally opposite of what i thought?
13) in the long run its better to be positive, does this belief take acount the positive?
14) this belief has not worked for me in the past, and wont in the future, what am i going to do?
15) what if this particula thing happend and you still felt good about yourself? why not? you deserve all the good in life.
do you guys feel the shift?
16) in other words, i probably shouldnt like you either because you are short,ugly whatever? are you trying to tell me that if i wasnt tall no women will like me after that no matter what i do? duhhh!
17) how does the sequence goes specifically, for a woman to go from not knowing you to not liking you because you are short without you having any say in the matter or influence whatsoever?
BONUS MATERIAL.... ( handling fears)
the way to eliminate any fear, is to get your self a piece of paper write down your fear, put the worst case scenario in real life, and realize that if that happens, you could actually handle it and live through.... once you know it, close your eyes and visualize yourself doing the thing you fear, and the fear happens, the worst case scenario happens, and look at yourself happy and tottally confortable with it. was it big of deal? whatever you imagine becomes your reality... BRIAN TRACY!
so right now take a piece of paper and write down your fears
_ if i approach, she will get really upset, and insult me
if i try to kiss her, she will push me away.
if i try to take her clothes off, ill be embarrassed
if i call her, and she is rude to me on the phone.
if i hold her hand, and she says no,
if i ask her out, ask her to be my gf, and she says no.
come up with the worst case scenario u can imagine, make it real life.
if i walk up and she with the rudest meanest tone tells me, **** off you loser, who u think u are to come and talk to me? just get away or ill hit you with my purse. lol thats comedy isnt it?
can i hear reframe???
I FEEL I HAVE SOMENTHING TO SAY, AND I WANNA SHARE IT WITH YOU.
i have been studying NLP for myself, for those who dont know, nlp, is the study of your inner communication, what you tell yourself, how you use your physiology, and how it affects your moods, your nevous system.
its like if you press one button, you will get one response inside
if you press the wrong buttons, you will get another response.
its like you have 2 ways to react to your world, a positive or a negative, and it will depend, in the frame of reference you have, with this i mean your dominant thoughts are either positive or negative, its been proved that 70% of what you think in a day is negative and holds you back
this means that since the day we are born we were pre-programmed to not succed!
thats why sometimes we try and try and fail, thats why things always seem to not work. in time you have created a negative frame for yourself and thats the way u see everything.
example:
when, you try something new, and it doesnt work, you have two ways to look at it depending on your frame of attack,
a negative frame says:
I TRIED THIS, AND IT DIDNT WORK, IT MEANS I FAIL AND IT MAKES ME FEEL BAD..... ( we all have been here)
a positive frame says:
I TRIED THIS ,and ITS NOT THAT I FAILED... I HAVE SUCCESSFULLY DISCOVERED HOW NOT TO DO IT, AND THIS GETS ME CLOSER TO THE ONE THAT WILL WORK,,, SO IM EXITED.... (yea)
do you see the difference? different reactions in your body? different buttons that create different messages to your nervous system, trust me the one with the negative frame will give up, and the one with the positvie frame, will keep on and keep on, cuz he knows that whatever the case, he is closer to success.
another one.
lets say your girl dumps you after a 4 year relationship, or whatever you just get rejected.
a negative frame will say.
" OH NO, SHE LEFT ME, CUZ IM UGLY, IM A LOSER, NOW MY LIFE IS OVER,, POOR ME IS DEPRESSED NOW... lol
a positive frame will say.
" ALLELUYA, THANK GOD SHE LEFT, NOW I HAVE SOME SPACE TO FIND SOMEONE THATS GOOD ENOUGH FOR ME, YEA!!!
or
" I DIDNT GET REJECTED, I SUCCESSFULLY DISCOVERED THAT THIS GIRL DOESNT HAVE A GOOD TASTE, AND IT SHOWS ME HOW STUPID SHE IS, POOR HER.. HER LOSS.
this is basic reframing, see how what you say to yourself, affects your behavior? in any situation... IF YOU TRY SOMETHING NEW AND IT DOESNT WORK, YOU DONT HAVE TO FEEL BAD, OR IF A WOMAN REJECTS YOU, YOU DONT HAVE TO FEEL BAD,,, OR DO U?
so reframing, is taking an experience that is bad, upseting , frustrating, undesirable, and making it a GREAT advantage! THIS IS CONTEXT REFRAMING.
CONTENT REFRAMING means taking an exact situation and changing what it means... remember that nothing has any meaning but the meaning you give to it,,, you have the final desicion of what something means, for good or bad.
some people say that death is graduation to a higher level of existance, and they are exited about it, and make like a party when someone dies.
other people get sad, and depressed, i think our society is programmed for this type of reaction.
this reminds me of a story of a master reframe soldier, they were on a battle, and they were advancing, suddendly this soldier saw
the enemies, and he turned back and began to run,,, his men followed him with shock, and asked the reframe soldier,,,, " captain, are u high, why are we retreating????..... the soldier said.. " NO, WE ARE NOT RETREATING, WE ARE ADVANCING IN THE OPPOSITE DIRECTION." lol
again reframing is putting what others see as limitations as a great advantage
FIND THE MOST USEFUL MEANING FOR EVERYTHING SO THAT YOU CAN TURN IT INTO SOMETHING THAT WORKS FOR YOU, AND EMPOWERS YOU. so that no matter what happens outside,u stay positive you stay vibrant, and exited and in control of your life.
USING REFRAME:
a powerful way to use reframe is use it instantly and inside yourself everytime you detect a negative, limiting belief, so that you are aware of its uselessness and then you can change it.
thats why some people use positive thinking but they dont believe it, cuz in their mind they have not let go of their limiting beliefs. thats why u need to reframe it, and we will do it with challenging questions,
if you are going to question anything, question your own limitations. once you have the handle of this, you can use the principle of
"YOUR THOUGHTS VIVIDLY IMAGINED, CHARGED WITH EMOTION, BECOME YOUR REALITY"
you must construct your reality first,
ok lets do it! ( get exited by the way, this is the best gift you will give yourself)
there are endless limiting beliefs we have, and with patience we can eliminate them all, remember there is no instant gratification, this is hard work, you must reframe constantly not just once, until someday, this global positive frame of reality will come to you and you will feel like in the MATRIX, or your new reality.
this might take months of hard work.
THIS IS NOT FOR WUSSES.
COMMON LIMITING BELIEFS.
if i try something and it doesnt work, means i fail
if a girl rejects me, i feel bad, i cant handle it. it would be devastating. horrible, id fall in pieces,,, lol
its terrible to make mistakes
i need to be liked and have everybodys aproval to be happy
if a girl doesnt react positive to me, means she doesnt like me.
IF i aproach a woman, she will get upset
if a woman gets upset, means she doesnt like me which means im undesirable
if a woman rejects me, everyone in this place will laugh at me and disrespect me.
if i aproach a girl, its impossible to get her number, etc
because im not tall, women dont like me, and the list goes on...
NOTICE THAT a limiting belief has an external behavior, and an internal state, you must find both.
for instance the last limiting belief i wrote.
THIS GIRL DOESNT LIKE ME ( this is an internal state)
you need to find the external behavior.
what causes women to not like you?
BECAUSE IM SHORT, UGLY ETC ( this is an external behavior)
now we have the chain..
BECAUSE IM SHORT, WOMEN DONT LIKE ME.
EXTERNAL BEHAVIOR = INTERNAL STATE ( u need this)
now we can reframe, i have a list of powerful question you must ask yourself, whenever you wanna change a limiting belief.
ask yourself:
1) change external behavior
im tall enough to be successful with women, its thanx to my height that i can be a chick magnet.
2) change internal state
its not that women dont like me, its just that some have a bad taste, they are stupid to not see the opportunity in front of them (me). its a great advantage to find out.
3)if i reject this limiting belief, what is the worst thing that could happen?
4) if i reject this limiting belief, what good things will happen?
5) what forces you to think that way, do you have to?
6)how can you view this as positive and valuable? what positive intention did that person have?
7)can you think of a time when a woman has liked you, or has liked a guy as tall as you ( from the example)
8) (this one smokes) whats gonna happen to your success level if you keep thinking this way, what does this belief leads to, what will your life be like in 20 or 30 years. does this belief serve you well in your goals? in the long run does this give u peace of mind and makes your life like a party?
9) does this happen to everyone, always? ( in example, do u think that every short guy in history has lived without having even one woman like him?) duh!
10) is this who you want to become? arent you a human being?
11)in what ways this action,flaw, event, can make you succeed, than if you didnt have it?
12) how is the whole thing totally opposite of what i thought?
13) in the long run its better to be positive, does this belief take acount the positive?
14) this belief has not worked for me in the past, and wont in the future, what am i going to do?
15) what if this particula thing happend and you still felt good about yourself? why not? you deserve all the good in life.
do you guys feel the shift?
16) in other words, i probably shouldnt like you either because you are short,ugly whatever? are you trying to tell me that if i wasnt tall no women will like me after that no matter what i do? duhhh!
17) how does the sequence goes specifically, for a woman to go from not knowing you to not liking you because you are short without you having any say in the matter or influence whatsoever?
BONUS MATERIAL.... ( handling fears)
the way to eliminate any fear, is to get your self a piece of paper write down your fear, put the worst case scenario in real life, and realize that if that happens, you could actually handle it and live through.... once you know it, close your eyes and visualize yourself doing the thing you fear, and the fear happens, the worst case scenario happens, and look at yourself happy and tottally confortable with it. was it big of deal? whatever you imagine becomes your reality... BRIAN TRACY!
so right now take a piece of paper and write down your fears
_ if i approach, she will get really upset, and insult me
if i try to kiss her, she will push me away.
if i try to take her clothes off, ill be embarrassed
if i call her, and she is rude to me on the phone.
if i hold her hand, and she says no,
if i ask her out, ask her to be my gf, and she says no.
come up with the worst case scenario u can imagine, make it real life.
if i walk up and she with the rudest meanest tone tells me, **** off you loser, who u think u are to come and talk to me? just get away or ill hit you with my purse. lol thats comedy isnt it?
can i hear reframe???
