I moved to a condo in a new state about one month ago. Many dog owners live here and you run into a lot of residents on the property walking their dogs. A few days after moving in, I met my neighbor who stays right down the hall from me while walking her dog. I have a very cute puppy, Riley, and she immediately went crazy over him wanting to pet him and every thing like many people do when I walk him. So now, every time I see here, I get this good vibe from her but I am not sure if it’s because of my dog or if she is actually interested in me.
Whenever I see her walking her dog, she seems to slow down so I will catch up with her. Last week I inquired about finding someone to let Riley out while I am at work. She immediately volunteered to do it for free even though I offered to pay her. She declined. During the conversation, she said she didn’t want to be nosey but asked if I had moved to this new state for a job. I told her yes but did not offer information on what I do for a living because once I tell someone what I do for a living it usually becomes the focus of a lot of the conversation because it is sort of a prestigious profession and I was enjoying our small talk whenever we ran into each other.
She told me that she works from home and that she is usually just home all day sitting around in sweats and a T-shirt. I usually dress the same when I am on the property. The following day, her and I were coming out of our respective apartments at the same time. She lives three doors down from me and her dog start pulling her towards me while on the lease. The dog is very small but she just let the dog pull her over to me and she began to ask me how was my weekend and just talking small talk as always. She is always upbeat and in a good mood when I see her and seems to be single and home most of the day.
Anyway, I started work at my new job a couple of days ago so I gave her a key to my place so she could go in and walk my dog which is pretty common practice in this condo complex that we live in. I was thinking how nice of her it is for her to walk my dog and clean up after him while walking him for free. Once I arrived home after my first day of work, I called her cellphone to ask her how it went but just got her voicemail. I left her a message thanking her for walking Riley and told her I hoped everything went okay at about 6pm. Once I hung up the phone, I noticed a note stuck under my door (was not sure if I missed it or if she just stuck it under the door while I was calling her). She told me that Riley was very good and that she walked him and would be available to do it the following day if I needed her. She never returned my call that night though. While in my home I figured she would find out what I did for a living because my diplomas are on the walls of my condo. I couldn’t help but to wonder if maybe she was now, somehow, intimidated by my status. It is no big deal for me but some women tend to think that I may have women throwing themselves all over me because I am in a lucrative profession but that is really not the case at all although I am an okay looking guy.
Well, today I picked up a Thank You card for her and slid it under her door. She called me to thank me for the card and sounded upbeat about it. She explained that she didn’t call me back yesterday because she didn’t get my message until 9:30pm and she didn’t want to call to late. She told me that it was no problem to walk Riley and it was a pleasure doing so. She then I said “well, I am sure I will be seeing you when we walk our dogs but have a great holiday weekend.” I wished her the same and hung up.
Now, I am wondering if I should just let things continue as this sort of neighborly thing and just see if it takes us anywhere or should I make a move and ask her out to lunch or something. The only thing I have to lose is that if she turns me down, she may then feel too uncomfortable to walk Riley while I am at work and then I would have to find another dog walker. On the other hand, she could be waiting for me to make a move and if I don’t, she could possibly give up on me and just become interested in someone else if she is interested in me. It is hard to tell if I am getting a vibe of interest from her or not or if she just has this really outgoing personality. I need some input.
Whenever I see her walking her dog, she seems to slow down so I will catch up with her. Last week I inquired about finding someone to let Riley out while I am at work. She immediately volunteered to do it for free even though I offered to pay her. She declined. During the conversation, she said she didn’t want to be nosey but asked if I had moved to this new state for a job. I told her yes but did not offer information on what I do for a living because once I tell someone what I do for a living it usually becomes the focus of a lot of the conversation because it is sort of a prestigious profession and I was enjoying our small talk whenever we ran into each other.
She told me that she works from home and that she is usually just home all day sitting around in sweats and a T-shirt. I usually dress the same when I am on the property. The following day, her and I were coming out of our respective apartments at the same time. She lives three doors down from me and her dog start pulling her towards me while on the lease. The dog is very small but she just let the dog pull her over to me and she began to ask me how was my weekend and just talking small talk as always. She is always upbeat and in a good mood when I see her and seems to be single and home most of the day.
Anyway, I started work at my new job a couple of days ago so I gave her a key to my place so she could go in and walk my dog which is pretty common practice in this condo complex that we live in. I was thinking how nice of her it is for her to walk my dog and clean up after him while walking him for free. Once I arrived home after my first day of work, I called her cellphone to ask her how it went but just got her voicemail. I left her a message thanking her for walking Riley and told her I hoped everything went okay at about 6pm. Once I hung up the phone, I noticed a note stuck under my door (was not sure if I missed it or if she just stuck it under the door while I was calling her). She told me that Riley was very good and that she walked him and would be available to do it the following day if I needed her. She never returned my call that night though. While in my home I figured she would find out what I did for a living because my diplomas are on the walls of my condo. I couldn’t help but to wonder if maybe she was now, somehow, intimidated by my status. It is no big deal for me but some women tend to think that I may have women throwing themselves all over me because I am in a lucrative profession but that is really not the case at all although I am an okay looking guy.
Well, today I picked up a Thank You card for her and slid it under her door. She called me to thank me for the card and sounded upbeat about it. She explained that she didn’t call me back yesterday because she didn’t get my message until 9:30pm and she didn’t want to call to late. She told me that it was no problem to walk Riley and it was a pleasure doing so. She then I said “well, I am sure I will be seeing you when we walk our dogs but have a great holiday weekend.” I wished her the same and hung up.
Now, I am wondering if I should just let things continue as this sort of neighborly thing and just see if it takes us anywhere or should I make a move and ask her out to lunch or something. The only thing I have to lose is that if she turns me down, she may then feel too uncomfortable to walk Riley while I am at work and then I would have to find another dog walker. On the other hand, she could be waiting for me to make a move and if I don’t, she could possibly give up on me and just become interested in someone else if she is interested in me. It is hard to tell if I am getting a vibe of interest from her or not or if she just has this really outgoing personality. I need some input.
.” She drew a grand total of two smiley faces in the card. She also wrote her Chinese restaurant recommendations in the card. I called her to thank her for the card but got her voicemail. I left a message (because you always should leave a message if you call once or it will seem creepy and never call afterwards to ask if she got the first message, right?) I thanked her for the card and recommendations and told her she should come with me when I go and told her just to let me know when she was open to go. I wanted to leave the ball firmly in her court but felt I should have planned that message a little better but oh well, the older you get, the less you give a **** sometimes and I don’t want to overanalyze things too much.