bballkilla
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this is kind of a long post, but i really want to post this up here because i think it's the reason why a lot of you guys don't feel confident talking to a girl. please read this, this basically outlines how to go from weird/unpopular to cool with everyone.
there's a huge difference between the cool kids and the nerds, and if you are a nerd you have no shot at getting girls, so you need to learn how to be a cool kid.
for a long while, ever since middle school, i've been carefully studying the difference between cool kids and unpopular kids because i figured their had to be a noticeable difference, i mean, some people aren't born to be cool while others aren't. i have a really analytical mind, i have to break down everything. i actually went so far as to take notes on it.
so here are my results:
the difference is that cool kids are cool, they're chill, they're collected. they always show an appropriate amount of emotion in response to whatever happens to them. uncool kids somehow managed to give negative vibes to the people they reacted to, so all these people got negative impressions of them.
for example, an uncool kid might come up to you randomly in class and tell you he got a new comptuer and start telling you all the features or something, and start smiling and laughing too much. on the other hand, a cool kid just lays back, and if the conversation drifts to computers, then he will start talking about his computer, but he won't get overly excited and start rambling off the features unless actually asked. he avoids arguments (arguing with somebody gives off negative vibes about you that they will spread to others)
basically just have a chill attitude in life, it helps a lot.
i used to be real "un-chill", always kinda jittery, or when i speak i say stupid things. it got to be a real problem, because people started to say i was stupid, even though i'm actually really intelligent, all because i didnt know when to speak and when to stay quiet, and what to say.
then, i learned to just slow life down in my head, and i only talk if i know what i'm gonna say isn't gonna make the other person think "Oooo-kayyy...." or somehow get a negative impression of me.
ever since then, i've been getting respect and a lot less enemies, because i don't offend anyone with what i say or make them think i'm weird. before, when kids would talk about me they'd say "oh, bballkilla? that kid's weird". now they say "oh, bballkilla? yeah, he's cool" and no one would have a negative word to spread about me. there are still some people that hold on to their old impressions from the old me, but by the end of the year i'm gonna be pretty much cool with everyone, which is my goal.
this helps with girls too. before, i would only attract weird girls that think i'm funny when i said strange things. now, i know i can confidently talk to any girl and make her like me, because she sees someone who is collected, confident, and isn't a weirdo, so she's gonna at least give me a chance. even if you don't get girls (being really ugly is the only way this won't get you girls) you will at least be cool with all the guys at your school, and that makes hs a hell of a lot easier.
so yeah, it's basically that simple. just slow down, and chill out. only talk when you have something to say, or else just stay quiet. don't smile too much, don't ever get too excited, or too sad, or show too much emotion. it's not chill. just be laid back, see what's coming at you in life and take time and think before you react.
there's a huge difference between the cool kids and the nerds, and if you are a nerd you have no shot at getting girls, so you need to learn how to be a cool kid.
for a long while, ever since middle school, i've been carefully studying the difference between cool kids and unpopular kids because i figured their had to be a noticeable difference, i mean, some people aren't born to be cool while others aren't. i have a really analytical mind, i have to break down everything. i actually went so far as to take notes on it.
so here are my results:
the difference is that cool kids are cool, they're chill, they're collected. they always show an appropriate amount of emotion in response to whatever happens to them. uncool kids somehow managed to give negative vibes to the people they reacted to, so all these people got negative impressions of them.
for example, an uncool kid might come up to you randomly in class and tell you he got a new comptuer and start telling you all the features or something, and start smiling and laughing too much. on the other hand, a cool kid just lays back, and if the conversation drifts to computers, then he will start talking about his computer, but he won't get overly excited and start rambling off the features unless actually asked. he avoids arguments (arguing with somebody gives off negative vibes about you that they will spread to others)
basically just have a chill attitude in life, it helps a lot.
i used to be real "un-chill", always kinda jittery, or when i speak i say stupid things. it got to be a real problem, because people started to say i was stupid, even though i'm actually really intelligent, all because i didnt know when to speak and when to stay quiet, and what to say.
then, i learned to just slow life down in my head, and i only talk if i know what i'm gonna say isn't gonna make the other person think "Oooo-kayyy...." or somehow get a negative impression of me.
ever since then, i've been getting respect and a lot less enemies, because i don't offend anyone with what i say or make them think i'm weird. before, when kids would talk about me they'd say "oh, bballkilla? that kid's weird". now they say "oh, bballkilla? yeah, he's cool" and no one would have a negative word to spread about me. there are still some people that hold on to their old impressions from the old me, but by the end of the year i'm gonna be pretty much cool with everyone, which is my goal.
this helps with girls too. before, i would only attract weird girls that think i'm funny when i said strange things. now, i know i can confidently talk to any girl and make her like me, because she sees someone who is collected, confident, and isn't a weirdo, so she's gonna at least give me a chance. even if you don't get girls (being really ugly is the only way this won't get you girls) you will at least be cool with all the guys at your school, and that makes hs a hell of a lot easier.
so yeah, it's basically that simple. just slow down, and chill out. only talk when you have something to say, or else just stay quiet. don't smile too much, don't ever get too excited, or too sad, or show too much emotion. it's not chill. just be laid back, see what's coming at you in life and take time and think before you react.
