Hi Fellas. I met this chick (she is 30 so should be mature enough by now surely) several months ago in a bar. We exchanged numbers but then it came out she had a b/f so wouldn't meet up with me as she didn't want to be a cheater.
Anyway, we still exchanged SMSs off and on for about 5 months and she would instigate them probably 40% of the time. Well on Xmas Eve I got a call from her saying her 1 year relationship was off (prior to that she had an 11 year relationship) and did I want to meet up. So we met up and had a great evening, but she made the comments that she didn't want a relationship with anyone at the moment therefore I never pushed anything. We went out a couple of weeks after and again I didn't push anything apart from the odd cheeky kiss on the lips, but she seemed to be happy with that.
Anyway, we went out for the 3rd time last night and again had a really good evening, but this time I ended up confessing that I was very keen on her, but not in an AFC way and I thought the timing was right. Despite this her body language remained very positive and she was completely shocked and surprised and said no man had ever told her this things I said before and she was quite flattered. However, I have been shoved into the friends zone and I am frustrated because I genuinely thought this would go somewhere. I just can't believe for a second that she didn't know I fancied her.
She has admitted that she thinks I am good looking and I make her laugh and she always has a good time with me. So, what more does she want? I am now paranoid it is because I have no real status in life at the moment. I don't have a great job, no car anymore and my living arrangements are not ideal. I'm making ground to get back on track but this is going to take time.
I seem to have this problem with many women. I meet them, they think I am attractive and a good laugh, but then they don't want to take it any further. Believe me guys I am far from being an AFC, but over the last few months I have had more knock backs than I can handle.
Any opinions? Thanks.
Anyway, we still exchanged SMSs off and on for about 5 months and she would instigate them probably 40% of the time. Well on Xmas Eve I got a call from her saying her 1 year relationship was off (prior to that she had an 11 year relationship) and did I want to meet up. So we met up and had a great evening, but she made the comments that she didn't want a relationship with anyone at the moment therefore I never pushed anything. We went out a couple of weeks after and again I didn't push anything apart from the odd cheeky kiss on the lips, but she seemed to be happy with that.
Anyway, we went out for the 3rd time last night and again had a really good evening, but this time I ended up confessing that I was very keen on her, but not in an AFC way and I thought the timing was right. Despite this her body language remained very positive and she was completely shocked and surprised and said no man had ever told her this things I said before and she was quite flattered. However, I have been shoved into the friends zone and I am frustrated because I genuinely thought this would go somewhere. I just can't believe for a second that she didn't know I fancied her.
She has admitted that she thinks I am good looking and I make her laugh and she always has a good time with me. So, what more does she want? I am now paranoid it is because I have no real status in life at the moment. I don't have a great job, no car anymore and my living arrangements are not ideal. I'm making ground to get back on track but this is going to take time.
I seem to have this problem with many women. I meet them, they think I am attractive and a good laugh, but then they don't want to take it any further. Believe me guys I am far from being an AFC, but over the last few months I have had more knock backs than I can handle.
Any opinions? Thanks.
