mahon83050
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Lately, I have been doing posts about looks and whether beauty is really in the eye of the beholder or not and sometimes I sound like I am contradicting myself.
However..."beauty really IS in the eye of the beholder" and another man's 10 is another mans 6!! Allen Thompson is 100% correct and I always feel more confident after I read his article!!
BUT WAIT................
Isn't there a scientific standard for facial beauty and aesthetics?
YES
Isn't is true 99.9% of men would find a woman with a hook nose, bad skin, a recessed chin and a gummy smile unattractive?
YES
HOWEVER....a few things hit me today that made me know this post is accurate.
1.) Bartender and I at work were talking about certain women at work and we only agreed on 1 out of 3 girls whom we thought were attractive. He thinks my one supervisor is very attractive and I do not see it at all. Of course, this same scenario has happened various other times with other friends, acquaintances.
2.) While watching VH1 today, Christie Brinkley was on TV and I said to myself...."gee...she has a perfect symmetrical face and great facial balance YET SHE DOES NOTHING FOR ME. Why is that? How come she does not get my heart pumping and she fits the ideal standard of beauty. Same thing applies to other actresses like Mischa Barton or Kate Bosworth. My father thinks Heather Locklear is a goddess, but she DOES NOTHING FOR ME. WHY? Her facial features (while having good facial balance and harmony) remind me of some old ***** boss I used to have.
THESE WOMEN HAVE GREAT FACIAL BALANCE, YET I DON'T SEE THEM AS 9's or 10's!!! I actually find their facial symmetry for some reason to be QUITE BORING and plain. ALOT OF THESE "PERFECT" FACES LACK CHARACTER!!!
Another example.....My friend thinks Cameron Diaz is a goddess and I think she is nothing special. Our previous interactions and positive and negative responses from certain women throughout our lives SHAPE our differences in tastes!!!
Another example....there is a girl I work with whom has a slight piggish nose and a little more than normal amount of gum tissue when she smiles, yet I see her as a 9-10.
Face it, we HAVE ALL seen women at school, work, on the street, subway etc, who have "something indescribable" or maybe quirky about their face that we find attractive and it gets our blood pumping. Yet, most of these women do not subscribe to the science of ideal beauty nor do they have perfectly balanced features.
......It could be the color of her eyes, her small mouth, the shape of her eyes, the slight gum tissue she exposes when she smiles, her hair style, hair color, length, the slight protrusion or bump on her nose that makes her attractive.
SO, WHAT IS MY POINT TO ALL OF THIS?????
A.) Just because a woman has GREAT FACIAL BALANCE and HARMONY, does not mean every guy thinks she is a goddess.
B.) When you see a girl you find as attractive (your 9-10): Sure, some other guys will find her attractive BUT NOT NEARLY AS MANY AS YOU THINK. It is a huge confidence booster to know that you ARE NOT in competition with EVERY MAN out there NOR will you be HATED and the object of ENVY by EVERY GUY out there for being with your "9-10". The LESS MEN that WANT HER, the LESS you feel UNWORTHY.
So, do this as a test. Sit back and think of a girl(s) that you find extremely attractive. Which scenario will you have more confidence in?
a.) viewing the world in a VERY EGOCENTRIC fashion and thinking EVERY MAN on the face of the planet is feeling his heart rate increase when he sees "your girl"
or
b.) realizing that ALOT OF OTHER MEN, have different subjective standards of beauty and their past experiences have skewed what they find attractive or not. They will see your "9" as maybe a 6 or 7.
ANSWER B certainly takes alot of pressure off and makes you feel more worthy of the girl.
However..."beauty really IS in the eye of the beholder" and another man's 10 is another mans 6!! Allen Thompson is 100% correct and I always feel more confident after I read his article!!
BUT WAIT................
Isn't there a scientific standard for facial beauty and aesthetics?
YES
Isn't is true 99.9% of men would find a woman with a hook nose, bad skin, a recessed chin and a gummy smile unattractive?
YES
HOWEVER....a few things hit me today that made me know this post is accurate.
1.) Bartender and I at work were talking about certain women at work and we only agreed on 1 out of 3 girls whom we thought were attractive. He thinks my one supervisor is very attractive and I do not see it at all. Of course, this same scenario has happened various other times with other friends, acquaintances.
2.) While watching VH1 today, Christie Brinkley was on TV and I said to myself...."gee...she has a perfect symmetrical face and great facial balance YET SHE DOES NOTHING FOR ME. Why is that? How come she does not get my heart pumping and she fits the ideal standard of beauty. Same thing applies to other actresses like Mischa Barton or Kate Bosworth. My father thinks Heather Locklear is a goddess, but she DOES NOTHING FOR ME. WHY? Her facial features (while having good facial balance and harmony) remind me of some old ***** boss I used to have.
THESE WOMEN HAVE GREAT FACIAL BALANCE, YET I DON'T SEE THEM AS 9's or 10's!!! I actually find their facial symmetry for some reason to be QUITE BORING and plain. ALOT OF THESE "PERFECT" FACES LACK CHARACTER!!!
Another example.....My friend thinks Cameron Diaz is a goddess and I think she is nothing special. Our previous interactions and positive and negative responses from certain women throughout our lives SHAPE our differences in tastes!!!
Another example....there is a girl I work with whom has a slight piggish nose and a little more than normal amount of gum tissue when she smiles, yet I see her as a 9-10.
Face it, we HAVE ALL seen women at school, work, on the street, subway etc, who have "something indescribable" or maybe quirky about their face that we find attractive and it gets our blood pumping. Yet, most of these women do not subscribe to the science of ideal beauty nor do they have perfectly balanced features.
......It could be the color of her eyes, her small mouth, the shape of her eyes, the slight gum tissue she exposes when she smiles, her hair style, hair color, length, the slight protrusion or bump on her nose that makes her attractive.
SO, WHAT IS MY POINT TO ALL OF THIS?????
A.) Just because a woman has GREAT FACIAL BALANCE and HARMONY, does not mean every guy thinks she is a goddess.
B.) When you see a girl you find as attractive (your 9-10): Sure, some other guys will find her attractive BUT NOT NEARLY AS MANY AS YOU THINK. It is a huge confidence booster to know that you ARE NOT in competition with EVERY MAN out there NOR will you be HATED and the object of ENVY by EVERY GUY out there for being with your "9-10". The LESS MEN that WANT HER, the LESS you feel UNWORTHY.
So, do this as a test. Sit back and think of a girl(s) that you find extremely attractive. Which scenario will you have more confidence in?
a.) viewing the world in a VERY EGOCENTRIC fashion and thinking EVERY MAN on the face of the planet is feeling his heart rate increase when he sees "your girl"
or
b.) realizing that ALOT OF OTHER MEN, have different subjective standards of beauty and their past experiences have skewed what they find attractive or not. They will see your "9" as maybe a 6 or 7.
ANSWER B certainly takes alot of pressure off and makes you feel more worthy of the girl.