So a while back, I set up a date with a girl and we hit it off.
We're now in an exclusive relationship, and whatnot.
So i've had a lot of time to reflect on the philosophy of game, and how I can apply it to improve my character, and i'm completely lost. These are some questions about things i'm having difficulty understanding:
1. What does game turn into now that i'm in a relationship? Have the rules changed? What do they change to? Do I still need to pull all this "be mysterious, tell her very little about yourself, be aloof" and etc. Why are we meant to do that anyway? Where do all these principles come from?
2. Why can't we just ask women what they want? I read that what women want, and what they say they want, are two different things. Why can't I just ask her what she wants, and do that? I'm certain your average girl will say "I want a nice guy," but react to something different, but is it possible for some people to actually know what they respond to?
3. Contradicting information. There's a lot of contradictory information, like:
* You need to flirt with other girls in front of her in order to make her jealous / If you do that she will become irritated with you because you're being a disrespectful piece of **** and will dump you faster than diarrhea
* You can't ever start an approach with a compliment, it shows you're a desperate, needy, low value clinger! / You should be manly and direct as **** and tell her she's cute if you think so. Even if the approach doesn't work out, you'll have made her day
* Women are ****ing lying *****es that shouldnt be trusted with jack **** because they'll stab you in the back / Women are just like other people too, and you shouldn't take a mysogynistic view towards them
* USE ALPHA-AS-**** DIRECT GAME, THATS WHAT REAL ****ING MEN DO AWWW YEAHHH / Bring up something situational and make a conversation about it / "Who lies more?" IS THE BEST OPENER EVER YOU RETARDS OMG / ALL YOUR OPENERS NEED TO BE QUESTIONS EVERYTHING ELSE IS WRONG / Your opener doesn't mean jack ****, it's all about HOW you say it. You could say "Bouncing pandas" and it'd start conversation.
With all this contradictory info, what am I supposed to follow? Why does it even exist? What are the central beliefs that all this stuff stems from?
4. Rewards and attention. I read something like, "When she does something you like, reward her with your attention. When she does something you dislike, revoke your attention and call her out on it." How does this work? Is this manipulative? Is manipulation part of the game, or is it wrong, or what?
Any input is appreciated.
We're now in an exclusive relationship, and whatnot.
So i've had a lot of time to reflect on the philosophy of game, and how I can apply it to improve my character, and i'm completely lost. These are some questions about things i'm having difficulty understanding:
1. What does game turn into now that i'm in a relationship? Have the rules changed? What do they change to? Do I still need to pull all this "be mysterious, tell her very little about yourself, be aloof" and etc. Why are we meant to do that anyway? Where do all these principles come from?
2. Why can't we just ask women what they want? I read that what women want, and what they say they want, are two different things. Why can't I just ask her what she wants, and do that? I'm certain your average girl will say "I want a nice guy," but react to something different, but is it possible for some people to actually know what they respond to?
3. Contradicting information. There's a lot of contradictory information, like:
* You need to flirt with other girls in front of her in order to make her jealous / If you do that she will become irritated with you because you're being a disrespectful piece of **** and will dump you faster than diarrhea
* You can't ever start an approach with a compliment, it shows you're a desperate, needy, low value clinger! / You should be manly and direct as **** and tell her she's cute if you think so. Even if the approach doesn't work out, you'll have made her day
* Women are ****ing lying *****es that shouldnt be trusted with jack **** because they'll stab you in the back / Women are just like other people too, and you shouldn't take a mysogynistic view towards them
* USE ALPHA-AS-**** DIRECT GAME, THATS WHAT REAL ****ING MEN DO AWWW YEAHHH / Bring up something situational and make a conversation about it / "Who lies more?" IS THE BEST OPENER EVER YOU RETARDS OMG / ALL YOUR OPENERS NEED TO BE QUESTIONS EVERYTHING ELSE IS WRONG / Your opener doesn't mean jack ****, it's all about HOW you say it. You could say "Bouncing pandas" and it'd start conversation.
With all this contradictory info, what am I supposed to follow? Why does it even exist? What are the central beliefs that all this stuff stems from?
4. Rewards and attention. I read something like, "When she does something you like, reward her with your attention. When she does something you dislike, revoke your attention and call her out on it." How does this work? Is this manipulative? Is manipulation part of the game, or is it wrong, or what?
Any input is appreciated.