I've been reading this material for a few months now. I've also watched a few seminars, listened to a few audio casts, read a few books..
Not just on dating, but on self motivation itself.
I've just started reading the DJ boot camp PDF and I plan on following through on it.
But the biggest obstacle that I’m still trying to get over or ignore is my height.
So a bit about myself first. I’m 22, college graduate, good paying, full time job. I’m also 5 foot 4. And that’s on a good day.
I’m in good physical shape, good looking in my opinion and I have a good personality.
I've had a 4 or so girlfriends in my life, and we've always manage to have fairly decent relationships. I have a great network of friends, and life’s generally pretty good.
But I still want more in my social life. Now that I'm out of school, Im forced to actually meet girls at other locations rather then dorm parties..
Bars, clubs, ect have never been my scene, because I become to conscious of my height. 5' 4 is noticeably short.
I've read a lot of material recently and I've been trying to put it into practice when I've gone out, but I’m not having a lot of success.
I don't feel sorry for myself for being short, really Im ok with it. But I can't seem to project that.. And having convinced myself that I can’t project that, I don’t think I can
Women test me, say things like 'You’re a little short for me..'
I normally comment with something like 'well you’re a little tall for me anyway. i don’t want to be looking up all night, i tend to get a stiff neck'..
which I think is a pretty good example of an answer..
I’ve been trying to learn all manner of things about meeting girls. From ‘C+F’ to ‘negging’, to being the alpha-male, and pretty much everything in-between.
Im just not sure these are the right ‘techniques’ or what have you, that I should be learning. I know every article and author out there says ‘It doesn’t matter who you are it can work for you!’. But I’m not sure if I should buy that or not.
I don't mean for this to be an outlet for my whining. Really I'm just looking for some advice or opinions that apply to my specific situation. I feel almost as though a lot of the techniques that aren't aimed for someone my height. I think about going out and applying the things I’ve learned, and it just never seems to fit in my situation. I always find myself thinking ‘well this probably won’t work for me, it was aimed at all the guys of average height in this room’. I know that’s negative thinking, but I haven’t seen anything yet that’s shown me otherwise. Are there any articles or authors that have something that could help me out with this? Will the things I’m reading/watching/listening to help someone like me? Am I just completely wrong and missing something big time?
Any input would be appreciated. Even if it’s just yelling and me and telling me to stop being stupid about this. I’m new at this, and I don’t have really have any ‘mentors’ to look up to and follow. My friends are either in long-running relationships, or incredibly shy when it comes to girls. I don’t know enough about this to guide myself right now. Any direction would be greatly appreciated.
Thanks,
D
Not just on dating, but on self motivation itself.
I've just started reading the DJ boot camp PDF and I plan on following through on it.
But the biggest obstacle that I’m still trying to get over or ignore is my height.
So a bit about myself first. I’m 22, college graduate, good paying, full time job. I’m also 5 foot 4. And that’s on a good day.
I’m in good physical shape, good looking in my opinion and I have a good personality.
I've had a 4 or so girlfriends in my life, and we've always manage to have fairly decent relationships. I have a great network of friends, and life’s generally pretty good.
But I still want more in my social life. Now that I'm out of school, Im forced to actually meet girls at other locations rather then dorm parties..
Bars, clubs, ect have never been my scene, because I become to conscious of my height. 5' 4 is noticeably short.
I've read a lot of material recently and I've been trying to put it into practice when I've gone out, but I’m not having a lot of success.
I don't feel sorry for myself for being short, really Im ok with it. But I can't seem to project that.. And having convinced myself that I can’t project that, I don’t think I can
Women test me, say things like 'You’re a little short for me..'
I normally comment with something like 'well you’re a little tall for me anyway. i don’t want to be looking up all night, i tend to get a stiff neck'..
which I think is a pretty good example of an answer..
I’ve been trying to learn all manner of things about meeting girls. From ‘C+F’ to ‘negging’, to being the alpha-male, and pretty much everything in-between.
Im just not sure these are the right ‘techniques’ or what have you, that I should be learning. I know every article and author out there says ‘It doesn’t matter who you are it can work for you!’. But I’m not sure if I should buy that or not.
I don't mean for this to be an outlet for my whining. Really I'm just looking for some advice or opinions that apply to my specific situation. I feel almost as though a lot of the techniques that aren't aimed for someone my height. I think about going out and applying the things I’ve learned, and it just never seems to fit in my situation. I always find myself thinking ‘well this probably won’t work for me, it was aimed at all the guys of average height in this room’. I know that’s negative thinking, but I haven’t seen anything yet that’s shown me otherwise. Are there any articles or authors that have something that could help me out with this? Will the things I’m reading/watching/listening to help someone like me? Am I just completely wrong and missing something big time?
Any input would be appreciated. Even if it’s just yelling and me and telling me to stop being stupid about this. I’m new at this, and I don’t have really have any ‘mentors’ to look up to and follow. My friends are either in long-running relationships, or incredibly shy when it comes to girls. I don’t know enough about this to guide myself right now. Any direction would be greatly appreciated.
Thanks,
D