when you take a girl on a date most people say youre supposed to agree to go see the movie she wants to see...which is usually some terrible chick flick. and youre supposed to sit thru it and endure it for her.
or if she wants to go to a concert with some band you hate, youre supposed to go anyway. everybody seems to think youre supposed to please a girl to get her to like you. especially on the first date.
even in your approach youre supposed to compliment her and be nice. anything to please her.
ive never been one to be a d1ck to people. i didnt want to offend or hurt their feelings. trying to be nice and appease everyone. lately ive practiced saying exactly what i want with no hesitation or deliberation whatsoever. not trying to be an azzhole, but acting with no attachment whatsoever to anyones reaction. if i hate something i hate it. if i like it i like it. completely blunt honesty, my bare real self. i do exactly what i want.
so if i take a girl out on a date...
girl: i want to see this bs romantic comedy
me: um no im not watching that. lets watch this awesome action flick.
she could be like im not watchin that or take me home blah blah. or she might start thinking wow this guy is fearless i love him. but the point of this zen thing is to be me and not pretend. yet theres a chance i can ruin the whole thing by being the real me and i wont get laid. especially on the first date. i cant get this programming out of me that holding nothing back would ruin it.
lets take it up a notch in scenario #2
me: hey you got a nice ass
girl: excuse me???
me: uh oh
that might not work as well
do agree with this?
or if she wants to go to a concert with some band you hate, youre supposed to go anyway. everybody seems to think youre supposed to please a girl to get her to like you. especially on the first date.
even in your approach youre supposed to compliment her and be nice. anything to please her.
ive never been one to be a d1ck to people. i didnt want to offend or hurt their feelings. trying to be nice and appease everyone. lately ive practiced saying exactly what i want with no hesitation or deliberation whatsoever. not trying to be an azzhole, but acting with no attachment whatsoever to anyones reaction. if i hate something i hate it. if i like it i like it. completely blunt honesty, my bare real self. i do exactly what i want.
so if i take a girl out on a date...
girl: i want to see this bs romantic comedy
me: um no im not watching that. lets watch this awesome action flick.
she could be like im not watchin that or take me home blah blah. or she might start thinking wow this guy is fearless i love him. but the point of this zen thing is to be me and not pretend. yet theres a chance i can ruin the whole thing by being the real me and i wont get laid. especially on the first date. i cant get this programming out of me that holding nothing back would ruin it.
lets take it up a notch in scenario #2
me: hey you got a nice ass
girl: excuse me???
me: uh oh
that might not work as well
do agree with this?