chellikwaja said:
I've realized over the past few days why it is that when girls like me, they aren't dying to have sex.
Because of my facial features being "fine and intelligent." Which is what I was told the other day. That I don't look like someone who would have one night stands or have sex with someone before knowing them for a while. Because although girls find me attractive, they say that I look aristocratic, since I have high cheekbones, blue eyes, light brown hair and lighter skin. So I look "beautiful," ugh. Which seems to be the worst thing for a male to be.
Add to that that my style is more conservative, with a conservative hair cut and clothes, and that I'm on the skinny side, I have no luck finding girls who aren't conservative with sex.
I would "make a good husband." Which is sh_t. I don't want to be someone who is expected to do what he's told. Whose girlfriend thinks they'll never cheat, resulting in getting bored and cheating with a guy who has "sex appeal."
What I'm wondering is, will a change in hair style and clothing style cancel out the pretty boy features I have? Forget about tanning, I can't get that dark.
Before I begin to give you any advice on regarding matter, I would like to say that I know exactly where you are coming from. You probably have a very similar appearance to my own.
Just like you, I also have very pale skin and find it difficult to get a tan - In fact, my skin burns to the color of a red lobster anytime I stay out in the Sun for a bit too long... Chances are, I would probably burn my skin severely if I ever decided to visit a tanning salon. My eyes are a very light blue - the color many refer to as "baby blue" (which is probably one of the least masculine colors in existence). I've always been extremely skinny. Even to this day (I've only started working out hardcore a little over a month ago), I'm definitely on the slender side compared to other men my age.
You say that you have very "aristocratic" looking features - Just as yourself, members of both sexes have often told me that I look beautiful for a man. You probably have a lot of Northern European ancestry in your blood - Which is something to be quite proud of, since we are the descendants of the biggest bad-asses in human history - the Vikings! Look at the Scandinavian warrior picture displayed in my avatar under my public profile - you probably have more than a few features in common with him.
Now listen up my brother, cause now I'll tell you how I use essentially the same look to my advantage. As previously mentioned by other posters, men such as yourself have absolutely nothing to complain about - you're not ugly! Quite the opposite, from what I understand, you are strikingly good looking! When men such as ourselves walk down the street, we immediately turn heads a lot more often than any of your stereotypical alpha male meat-heads. (Not to mention that men like you and me are more likely to recieve positive eye contact and choosing signals from attractive females).
Although looks are nowhere near as important to women as they are to men, we already have a significant advantage over our less physically attractive brethren. Men fitting your description are the only ones shown in all of the girls' teen magazines. Hence, through use of modern media advertising, they are conditioned to be sexually attracted to the male model types - slim, slender men possessing the more "feminine features."
I of course, exploit this appearance to my fullest advantage. When women meet me begin talking to me for the very first time, they are pleasantly surprised that I act differently from the preconceived notions that they had when they first laid eyes on me. Rather than act like the typical aristocratic gentleman that they would expect from a man of my physical appearance, I act in a much more masculine manner. This is quite a treat to the girls that I meet. In a certain way, these women are experiencing the best of both worlds when they are with me. They begin to feel the emotions that are can only be experienced when being in the presence of an ultra-machismo man (they usually only experience these feelings when in the presence of a typical meat-head who pounds pvssy left and right). Similarly, they are also physically stimulated by the sheer beauty found in men of the more "aristocratic" persuasion. Hence, women are faced with a win-win situation when meeting me.
Chellikwaja, you're problem isn't in your appearance. Quite the contrary, with the right player mindset, you would be almost unstoppable if placed into a large group of beautiful women. The problem you are experiencing stems from the the many insecurities that you hold. You are blaming your lack of success with women on your outside appearance. But nothing could be further from the truth. You would actually be described as very sexually attractive if women were to judge you solely from your looks. Your current situation with women stems from a lack of confidence and social skills. I suggest you work on your "Inner Game" before trying to change anything about your appearance. You can do this by reading the Book of Pook, the Don Juan Bible or by listening to my man Supreme's podcasts.
It is pretty obvious that you are rather new to all of this and your are searching for answers in all the wrong places. Remember the age-old proverb,
"As you think, you shall become." It is only once you truly realize the true meaning of the proverb above that you will be able to succeed in all aspects of life.
I actually see a large part of my former self within you - Hence, I'm actually more inclined and better able to help you than usual. If you have any further questions, feel free to ask me via private message.
Good luck on your journey through life my brother!
- Master Don Juan OTB
