gspshields2 said:
How do I kill this nice guy image, I wasn't trying to be nice or anything at all. I was just asking her questions and listening as suggested.
Well, there a few things that can give that impression of a "nice guy". It can range from something small like the tone of your voice, to something as big as you not trying to sleep with her on the first date. It's hard to pinpoint exactly without witnessing the interaction.
My assumption is that you were simply sitting there giving her a reason to talk. She thought of you as a friend. Were you just sitting at a bar/restaurant talking the whole time? Consider these two scenarios:
1) You and her meet up. You shoot the sh!t for a little while and start getting into normal conversation. While you eat/drink, you keep asking her questions about her, and she just rattles off her answers. In other words, she's reading her personal story to you. Reliving her own events, her own thoughts, for the purpose of telling you about herself. You finish your drink/food and this same thing continues. By the end of the date, she has probably told you a lot about herself, and you have added in a bit about you. Date ends, and she goes home with the memory that she shared part of her life story with you.
2) You and her meet up. You shoot the sh!t for a little while and start getting into normal conversation. You have a quick drink while you guys talk about yourselves for a bit. Then before you get to any break in the conversation, you suggest going for a walk. You guys leave and continue your conversation while you are walking. Except this time, topical conversations come up, and instead of her simply rattling off those answers, you two are experiencing things together, laughing about things you see. Then you see an ice cream shop, you take her hand and bring her there. Again, you two are still talking, but it's about what is going on at the time, not the written in stone answers about her past. By the time this date ends, she's thinking about all of the things you did: got a drink, went for a walk, took her to get ice cream, etc. And most importantly, this scenario opens up more opportunities for a kiss, or at the very least, some kino throughout the date.
I don't think anyone needs to tell you that you are both going to enjoy scenario #2 more than #1. And aside from the possible going for a kiss, notice that there isn't much in the second date to "kill the nice guy image", but you wouldn't get that response as often with that date. You don't need to be an a$$hole or "dangerous" to get women. But being an ear at the other end of a table isn't going to excite her, so she will go to that conclusion.
And keep in mind, there are many things you can do. This is just a simple scenario. And I don't know if scenario #1 describes your date with her. I'm just trying to point out a common issue people have, that I feel may somehow help your situation.
on POF it shows a picture of a devil at the end of the message. Just copy and paste it and spam it out to the cutest chicks.