TheTraveller
Don Juan
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Hi there,
So this is a follow-up thread to the thread started here a year and half ago:
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=94473
Its been a while since this thread (over a year), but I thought I'd give you an update since there as there is something new that has hashed up again from this:
So now it's July 2007, and I've been with this same girl since Sept 2005. At the time I wrote the original thread, I had some external stress from work and childhood stuff that came back to haunt me. That was dealt with through therapy and I feel great now. Yet, I decided to stick with my girlfriend. My love for her is still there, but now here is where I am today. Last August 2006 I moved away for 2 years of grad school. We both agreed to try long distance and have succeeded the past 7 months, with trips every other month to see each other.
Well, now she's here, with me for 6 weeks for her vacation while I'm in school. So when she was away I forget about her looks and my issues with her plain face and her gaining about 5-10 pounds in the past year (a lot for someone 5 feet tall).
Since she's here now, my mind says I can do better looks-wise. And I guess I've been more testy with her. We have a great time together, but the stress of this distance, where I will get a job after (hoping with her but who knows) and her plain looks is just getting to me.
What would you advise me to do? Should I get out there once she goes back to her home and in my final year here sarge and just meet other women? I don't mean to cheat, but just to see what's out there as a way to justify my logic of being bothered by her plain looks? It doesn't help that she hasn't orgasmed over these two years at all, or never. I am also immensely more confident with my looks than I was in the past.
I'm at a loss here. I was willing to give her a shot and I have thus far. To me, looks are definitely not everything and I by far prefer a great personality over looks. But there's something there, like me being embarrassed at times to introduce her to acquiantances or friends, and seeing most other girls who are more attractive and this hurts. I know I have a great girl, but how great? I think, "fine, get a better looking girl, but then will I still have these feelings of wanting better?"...
Thanks,
- T
So this is a follow-up thread to the thread started here a year and half ago:
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=94473
Its been a while since this thread (over a year), but I thought I'd give you an update since there as there is something new that has hashed up again from this:
So now it's July 2007, and I've been with this same girl since Sept 2005. At the time I wrote the original thread, I had some external stress from work and childhood stuff that came back to haunt me. That was dealt with through therapy and I feel great now. Yet, I decided to stick with my girlfriend. My love for her is still there, but now here is where I am today. Last August 2006 I moved away for 2 years of grad school. We both agreed to try long distance and have succeeded the past 7 months, with trips every other month to see each other.
Well, now she's here, with me for 6 weeks for her vacation while I'm in school. So when she was away I forget about her looks and my issues with her plain face and her gaining about 5-10 pounds in the past year (a lot for someone 5 feet tall).
Since she's here now, my mind says I can do better looks-wise. And I guess I've been more testy with her. We have a great time together, but the stress of this distance, where I will get a job after (hoping with her but who knows) and her plain looks is just getting to me.
What would you advise me to do? Should I get out there once she goes back to her home and in my final year here sarge and just meet other women? I don't mean to cheat, but just to see what's out there as a way to justify my logic of being bothered by her plain looks? It doesn't help that she hasn't orgasmed over these two years at all, or never. I am also immensely more confident with my looks than I was in the past.
I'm at a loss here. I was willing to give her a shot and I have thus far. To me, looks are definitely not everything and I by far prefer a great personality over looks. But there's something there, like me being embarrassed at times to introduce her to acquiantances or friends, and seeing most other girls who are more attractive and this hurts. I know I have a great girl, but how great? I think, "fine, get a better looking girl, but then will I still have these feelings of wanting better?"...
Thanks,
- T
