Sometimes I wonder if I'm like Dale in "King of the Hill," I feel like people think I'm paranoid, but am also being cheated on, or am about to be. I think she probably wouldn't cheat on me sober, but when she's drinking, I'm pretty sure that if a guy was persistent enough, and he advanced on her and kissed her a bunch, she would eventually make out with him and suck his **** or something if no one stopped her. To understand what I'm thinking and my questions, I need to include the back story. I have been going out with the same girl for almost a year, and if you include the stage of the relationship in which we weren't "official," but were "talking" (messing around), for a year and a half. She lives 2 hours away, but since we spend 8 months of the year at college, I don't really consider it a long distance relationship and we see each other every day and we talk on the phone every day, especially at night before bed. I was a senior when we met, and she was a freshman, but now I'm a 5th year senior and she's a sophomore. She is 4 years younger than me and she said I took her v-card. That's the background, and here's why I wonder and what I'm currently working on to figure out what's up with her.
I don't trust her because of my cautious nature for one thing probably, but I don't think I have no reason for my suspicions. The following are my reasons:
1) When we go to parties, she seems flirty and drunken guys with that glazed horny eyed look will come up to her and talk in front of me, and I haven't done anything because I hear that acting jealous or suspicious will just make me look needy and make her more careful if she is cheating. She has male friends, although most seem like they could be gay or nerdy and not really players, although a few seem like they could be.
2) I was not able to spend New Year's Eve with her, and I know she was at a place where there was drinking, and I have not seen her facebook pictures yet. I asked her about this, and she said that her friend with a camera who I know was there is one of those people who is always taking pictures and posting them to facebook. I asked her about this, and she said her friend hasn't posted them yet.
3) Onetime I looked over her shoulder at her facebook page, and this guy (a boyfriend of the friend who takes all the facebook pictures) seemed to be flirting, or hinting at some sort of innuendo. She looked flustered and annoyed and was like "what is he talking about?"
4) Her dad cheated on her mom, and that's why they're divorced. A risk factor for cheating is genetics, I've read.
5) She said "I'm 19 and I want to meet people," and added that her dad told her that she is young and shouldn't limit her options. Its like saying, "I want my cake and to eat it too." (I want a boyfriend for emotion support, when I feel like it and easy ****, but I want to window shop too).
6) She'll often accuse me of infidelity, somewhat seriously sometimes, jokingly other times. I've been told by a psychologist that sometimes people who accuse others of something often do it themselves, this is called a projection. I know for a fact I've never cheated on her or any other girl.
7) When we met, she was "talking to" this other guy, and I was the "other guy", she left him for me. I wonder if she's just a floosy I've temporarily tamed. I must be a nice treat for her, a guy who more mature, cooler, and ambitious than most of the teenagers she knows. But still, once a cheater, always a cheater.
8) She lives in Northern Virginia (NOVA), and this guy once told me, with her standing there, "lookout man, watch these NOVA girls, they brag about cheating on their boyfriends." My girlfriend and I were shocked and talked about statement and were confused about what it meant. I do know that that guy liked her at one point, and tried to hook up with her before we were an official couple. She says she resisted him, who knows if that's true, but I do know that more than once he tried to get her to come home with him, but she chose to stay with me instead.
Is anyone familiar with the Washington, D.C. area? Are girls there supposed to be more unfaithful than the national average?
I know this is a long message, but I'll appreciate and consider each response. Such seeds of doubt are very annoying and need to be plucked out.
I don't trust her because of my cautious nature for one thing probably, but I don't think I have no reason for my suspicions. The following are my reasons:
1) When we go to parties, she seems flirty and drunken guys with that glazed horny eyed look will come up to her and talk in front of me, and I haven't done anything because I hear that acting jealous or suspicious will just make me look needy and make her more careful if she is cheating. She has male friends, although most seem like they could be gay or nerdy and not really players, although a few seem like they could be.
2) I was not able to spend New Year's Eve with her, and I know she was at a place where there was drinking, and I have not seen her facebook pictures yet. I asked her about this, and she said that her friend with a camera who I know was there is one of those people who is always taking pictures and posting them to facebook. I asked her about this, and she said her friend hasn't posted them yet.
3) Onetime I looked over her shoulder at her facebook page, and this guy (a boyfriend of the friend who takes all the facebook pictures) seemed to be flirting, or hinting at some sort of innuendo. She looked flustered and annoyed and was like "what is he talking about?"
4) Her dad cheated on her mom, and that's why they're divorced. A risk factor for cheating is genetics, I've read.
5) She said "I'm 19 and I want to meet people," and added that her dad told her that she is young and shouldn't limit her options. Its like saying, "I want my cake and to eat it too." (I want a boyfriend for emotion support, when I feel like it and easy ****, but I want to window shop too).
6) She'll often accuse me of infidelity, somewhat seriously sometimes, jokingly other times. I've been told by a psychologist that sometimes people who accuse others of something often do it themselves, this is called a projection. I know for a fact I've never cheated on her or any other girl.
7) When we met, she was "talking to" this other guy, and I was the "other guy", she left him for me. I wonder if she's just a floosy I've temporarily tamed. I must be a nice treat for her, a guy who more mature, cooler, and ambitious than most of the teenagers she knows. But still, once a cheater, always a cheater.
8) She lives in Northern Virginia (NOVA), and this guy once told me, with her standing there, "lookout man, watch these NOVA girls, they brag about cheating on their boyfriends." My girlfriend and I were shocked and talked about statement and were confused about what it meant. I do know that that guy liked her at one point, and tried to hook up with her before we were an official couple. She says she resisted him, who knows if that's true, but I do know that more than once he tried to get her to come home with him, but she chose to stay with me instead.
Is anyone familiar with the Washington, D.C. area? Are girls there supposed to be more unfaithful than the national average?
I know this is a long message, but I'll appreciate and consider each response. Such seeds of doubt are very annoying and need to be plucked out.
