Happiness Renewed
Don Juan
I put together a handy list of crucially important things to do when you approach a beautiful woman.
1. Have a canned opener ready -- This is NOT a night at the improv. Going "situational" (e.g., "it sure is crowded here" or "that's a nice purse") will rarely work. . Use a canned opener -- something that has been repeatedly tested with women and is proven to work.
2. 3-2-1-GO -- The three-second rule was created for a reason. When you see a girl you like, GO. Open her group within three seconds. The failure to do this will "stale you out". Women like confidence. They don't like to be stalked. They like spontaneity. Wandering around circling her, looking at her, trying to figure out what to do next will turn her off and creep her out. Get into the habit of seeing attractive women and GO in. You've already got your opener ready, right?
3. Approach at an angle -- Do not walk straight up to the group. Approach at angle, tilt your head over your shoulders, and say your piece. Done correctly (and you almost need to see it to do it properly), you raise your value significantly by demonstrating that you do not need their attention or approval.
4. Smile on the approach -- Don't grin like a moron through the entire interaction, but smile as you walk to the set, and in the first few seconds of the opener. Smile with your eyes, not just your mouth.
5. Be loud enough -- Everyone in the group should hear your opener. Your opener should be loud enough that it cuts across whatever conversations they are already having. Don't shout, but make it socially awkward for them not to pay attention to your opener.
6. Don't lean in -- This is connected to being loud enough. You should project your voice enough that they can hear you from a normal standing position (or leaning slightly back). _
7. Engage the group -- Do NOT go into a group and talk to the woman you want to meet (the target). Engage the whole group. Pay LESS attention to the target.
8. Neg the target -- You should know what negs are by now. The hotter the girl, the quicker you have to neg.
I also wanted to talk about some basic fashion and style tips.
1. Untuck that shirt -- Don't go out to a social gathering
with a collared, button-down shirt that is tucked in. It's not
in style.
2. Be taller -- There are plenty of brands of very
fashionable shoes and boots that give you extra height. I'm
5'10 normally and 6'1 in the kick-ass pair of black buckled
dress shoes that have a couple of inches underneath. Just by
itself this has made me more attractive to a large number of
women and has given me a chance with some women who wouldn't have talked to me before.
3. Burn that t-shirt -- Don't wear a white t-shirt under your
dress shirt. That's so late 80s. It conveys a lack of sexuality.
Undo the top two buttons of your shirt (no more!) and show a
tiny bit of your chest. If this exposes mounds of chest hair,
then get that taken care of too. While you're at it, get rid
of short-sleeved button-down shirts too.
4. Get some ornamental stuff -- Earrings, funky shoes, rings,
hats, scarves, neck-chains, wrist bands, whatever. Get something. What is purely ornamental (e.g., a double breasted suit, cuff links, a peacock's tail) is sexy. What is purely functional
generally is not.
5. Make your clothes fit -- Why spend $80 on a shirt off
the rack that doesn't fit if you won't spend $5-$10 to have
it altered? If it doesn't fit you perfectly, spend a couple
of bucks, take it to a dry cleaner/alterations place, and get
them to make it fit.
6. Remove excess hair -- If you have any hint of your eyebrows
touching, wax or shave them so there is separation. Nose and ear hairs are sexy to NO ONE. Make sure your sideburns, if you have them, have a neat line and definition and are at the same length on each side. Most women prefer shaved chests too, though this depends somewhat on individual preferences.
7. Squelch acne -- First, if you're still getting acne, see a
dermatologist. Second, for your acne scars, consider laser skin
care (expensive) or makeup (cheap). Get a female friend to help
you buy a cover up stick and some powder. You can make your zits vanish for the night.
8. Whiten your teeth -- It's cheap and easy. Go through your
dentist, not those white strips. No excuses.
9. Work out -- No excuses. Just do it.
10. Glasses -- Glasses are sexy on some men. They are not on
most men. Try contacts or surgery.
11. Relax -- Have you done all of this? Great. Now you're out
meeting women, don't worry about this anymore. You've done the best you can with what you have. Girls WILL notice. A 6 who takes care of himself (and looks like an 8 because of it) is infinitely more attractive to a woman than an 8 who is a slob (and stays an 8).
1. Have a canned opener ready -- This is NOT a night at the improv. Going "situational" (e.g., "it sure is crowded here" or "that's a nice purse") will rarely work. . Use a canned opener -- something that has been repeatedly tested with women and is proven to work.
2. 3-2-1-GO -- The three-second rule was created for a reason. When you see a girl you like, GO. Open her group within three seconds. The failure to do this will "stale you out". Women like confidence. They don't like to be stalked. They like spontaneity. Wandering around circling her, looking at her, trying to figure out what to do next will turn her off and creep her out. Get into the habit of seeing attractive women and GO in. You've already got your opener ready, right?
3. Approach at an angle -- Do not walk straight up to the group. Approach at angle, tilt your head over your shoulders, and say your piece. Done correctly (and you almost need to see it to do it properly), you raise your value significantly by demonstrating that you do not need their attention or approval.
4. Smile on the approach -- Don't grin like a moron through the entire interaction, but smile as you walk to the set, and in the first few seconds of the opener. Smile with your eyes, not just your mouth.
5. Be loud enough -- Everyone in the group should hear your opener. Your opener should be loud enough that it cuts across whatever conversations they are already having. Don't shout, but make it socially awkward for them not to pay attention to your opener.
6. Don't lean in -- This is connected to being loud enough. You should project your voice enough that they can hear you from a normal standing position (or leaning slightly back). _
7. Engage the group -- Do NOT go into a group and talk to the woman you want to meet (the target). Engage the whole group. Pay LESS attention to the target.
8. Neg the target -- You should know what negs are by now. The hotter the girl, the quicker you have to neg.
I also wanted to talk about some basic fashion and style tips.
1. Untuck that shirt -- Don't go out to a social gathering
with a collared, button-down shirt that is tucked in. It's not
in style.
2. Be taller -- There are plenty of brands of very
fashionable shoes and boots that give you extra height. I'm
5'10 normally and 6'1 in the kick-ass pair of black buckled
dress shoes that have a couple of inches underneath. Just by
itself this has made me more attractive to a large number of
women and has given me a chance with some women who wouldn't have talked to me before.
3. Burn that t-shirt -- Don't wear a white t-shirt under your
dress shirt. That's so late 80s. It conveys a lack of sexuality.
Undo the top two buttons of your shirt (no more!) and show a
tiny bit of your chest. If this exposes mounds of chest hair,
then get that taken care of too. While you're at it, get rid
of short-sleeved button-down shirts too.
4. Get some ornamental stuff -- Earrings, funky shoes, rings,
hats, scarves, neck-chains, wrist bands, whatever. Get something. What is purely ornamental (e.g., a double breasted suit, cuff links, a peacock's tail) is sexy. What is purely functional
generally is not.
5. Make your clothes fit -- Why spend $80 on a shirt off
the rack that doesn't fit if you won't spend $5-$10 to have
it altered? If it doesn't fit you perfectly, spend a couple
of bucks, take it to a dry cleaner/alterations place, and get
them to make it fit.
6. Remove excess hair -- If you have any hint of your eyebrows
touching, wax or shave them so there is separation. Nose and ear hairs are sexy to NO ONE. Make sure your sideburns, if you have them, have a neat line and definition and are at the same length on each side. Most women prefer shaved chests too, though this depends somewhat on individual preferences.
7. Squelch acne -- First, if you're still getting acne, see a
dermatologist. Second, for your acne scars, consider laser skin
care (expensive) or makeup (cheap). Get a female friend to help
you buy a cover up stick and some powder. You can make your zits vanish for the night.
8. Whiten your teeth -- It's cheap and easy. Go through your
dentist, not those white strips. No excuses.
9. Work out -- No excuses. Just do it.
10. Glasses -- Glasses are sexy on some men. They are not on
most men. Try contacts or surgery.
11. Relax -- Have you done all of this? Great. Now you're out
meeting women, don't worry about this anymore. You've done the best you can with what you have. Girls WILL notice. A 6 who takes care of himself (and looks like an 8 because of it) is infinitely more attractive to a woman than an 8 who is a slob (and stays an 8).
