Outofexile
Don Juan
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- Jun 23, 2008
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Ok 35 yr old male divorced a little over a year now after being married six years. Was a complete AFC during my divorce. I mean, they make doormats now with my initials on them in reference.
So after the divorce, I took some time off and worked on me. I shed 50 lbs and got back into the shape I used to be pre marriage. Saved some money, got a new wardrobe (losing 50lbs makes that necessary anyway), and basically rebuilt me.
I dated some pretty girls after a while but it seems that it has been one reoccurring complaint theme with them all...that I am too self absorbed. Not enough time with them. Not giving and caring enough. That I put too much into the gym and my son and my hobbies and not enough into the relationship.
So what is it? DJ principals is to love your passions and never let a woman take them away. Also to never change yourself for a woman. Ok did both of these but still went sour because I was too self absorbed and wouldnt change. I wouldnt bend over and kiss their asses and revolve my life around them. Im not crying grapes here because everything is a learning experience and it wasnt like they were keepers or I was in a position to want to keep anyone.
Just trying to figure out for future when it may count one day in the future. Is it that they were like three bad apples who I oddly got in a row or what?
So after the divorce, I took some time off and worked on me. I shed 50 lbs and got back into the shape I used to be pre marriage. Saved some money, got a new wardrobe (losing 50lbs makes that necessary anyway), and basically rebuilt me.
I dated some pretty girls after a while but it seems that it has been one reoccurring complaint theme with them all...that I am too self absorbed. Not enough time with them. Not giving and caring enough. That I put too much into the gym and my son and my hobbies and not enough into the relationship.
So what is it? DJ principals is to love your passions and never let a woman take them away. Also to never change yourself for a woman. Ok did both of these but still went sour because I was too self absorbed and wouldnt change. I wouldnt bend over and kiss their asses and revolve my life around them. Im not crying grapes here because everything is a learning experience and it wasnt like they were keepers or I was in a position to want to keep anyone.
Just trying to figure out for future when it may count one day in the future. Is it that they were like three bad apples who I oddly got in a row or what?