Kenny Powers
Senior Don Juan
Ok I've had this problem since I started pick-up and I know its common but I feel like I must be doing something wrong at this point. I get the vast majority of my digits from bars because thats where im just the most comfortable cold approaching girl (im very outgoing and bars are such a social environment that i find it very easy).
Obviously night game has its problems but I've had some solid encounters with girls who display high interest. I'll get the digits, text a joke about something that happened when we met a day or two later, make a lil witty small talk via text, and then say we should get coffee/a bite to eat (sometimes do this a few days later after the first text convo).
Typically the girl says "sorry i can't because blah blah" and I'll just say no worries and leave it at that (occassionally counter offer). A few days later I'll ask again and the same thing happens. I usually give up after one more try unless the girl seems to have a high level of interest.
Background on me: I'm a decent looking guy and ridiculously confident at bars (big ego and swagger combine well with alcohol :woo
If I see a girl available to be hit on I usually just do it. I think I may be a little too forward and high energy at times, but that's just who i am - I like to think of it as being charismatic.
So any advice? I just want to meet these girls for coffee or lunch to see if they're worth pursuing but rarely get the chance to do so. Most are college girls so maybe thats part of the problem.I feel like maybe I'm coming off as too much of player or the girl feels our interaction was too forced and disingenuous. It seems if I don't get the date within a week or two after meeting them they lose all interest and any hope of a date is lost. Honestly this is the most common series of events after i get a number. Wtf? It's driving me crazy!
Obviously night game has its problems but I've had some solid encounters with girls who display high interest. I'll get the digits, text a joke about something that happened when we met a day or two later, make a lil witty small talk via text, and then say we should get coffee/a bite to eat (sometimes do this a few days later after the first text convo).
Typically the girl says "sorry i can't because blah blah" and I'll just say no worries and leave it at that (occassionally counter offer). A few days later I'll ask again and the same thing happens. I usually give up after one more try unless the girl seems to have a high level of interest.
Background on me: I'm a decent looking guy and ridiculously confident at bars (big ego and swagger combine well with alcohol :woo
If I see a girl available to be hit on I usually just do it. I think I may be a little too forward and high energy at times, but that's just who i am - I like to think of it as being charismatic.So any advice? I just want to meet these girls for coffee or lunch to see if they're worth pursuing but rarely get the chance to do so. Most are college girls so maybe thats part of the problem.I feel like maybe I'm coming off as too much of player or the girl feels our interaction was too forced and disingenuous. It seems if I don't get the date within a week or two after meeting them they lose all interest and any hope of a date is lost. Honestly this is the most common series of events after i get a number. Wtf? It's driving me crazy!
