not allowed to watch tv how can i dj this way

[chitownboi]

My name is Benny and this is the reason why i cant dj. Please do not laugh at me or point fingers.

I usually watch tv late at night like once a day for about an hour or so. My dad or mum wake up everytime when im watching and ask what im watching and i tell them my daily show. My dad stays there until 2 commercial brakes to see if its any sort of porn or such thing. I simply watch it for enjoyment and theres no porn on tv even if they have kissing stuff they make me turn it of. They think im watching porn on tv everynight.

They wake up at night when im on the computer and make me click on all my pages incase im looking up bad stuff.

Tonight i was watching my shows and my mum gets up and pretends she is doing something near the tv but she is spying on me. I decide to go to the bathroom and listen to what she does. She tip toes on me and quickly sees what i was doing i had the door open. She goes in the kitchen and i could hear here walking in circles pretending shes doing work while she is waiting for me to go back and watch tv so she could spy more. I come out of the bathroom and she quickly pretends shes doing something.

I couldnt take it anymore and just went into my room. Im 18 years old i no longer have friends because of my parents and i think im depressed. I used to be the happiest guy and now dont know. Im still very happy somehow but very depressed in another. Iv never thought ill be the depressed type in my whole life. They tell me to meet new people and be interactive but im scared because they want to live my life. why should i meet people when they are going to be spying on me.

They tell me to join clubs but then i hear them overtalk about me geting influenced by bad kids. I was always the popular kid in highschool but they have killed my life and they dont know.

No one knows what im going through i just smile to everyone. I was a good kid and now i see my self yelling at my parents and swearing i dont like that but they really push me and they dont know it. I just cried when they checked up on me been on the computer that night. I had feelings iv never felt before.

I dont work and have no money moving out ill be homeless. With all this going on how can i be a dj. I have no one to talk to in real life about this and i cant keep it all inside.

They say i have problems but they have turned me this way.

Please help what should i do.

 

[maranathaman]

Keep looking for a job until you get-one, then move-out.
Parents are like that to varying degrees.
I'm freakin 42 and my Mom still treats me like a kid!

 

[taqueso]

Move out. I'm serious, get a couple people together and rent a place. Trust me, you will have a ton of fun. You will be able to have as many people over as you want, and you can watch as much porn as you want It may be tough at first (bills, job, etc), but YOU CAN DO IT! Get whatever crappy job you can at first. Clean under the tables at McDonald's if you have to. Do not say you can't find a job if you aren't willing to take one that is "below you".

 

[Austin Allegro]

Yes, move out. My parents stopped checking up on what I was watching on TV when I was about 13, and you're 18 for God's sake!

 

[Ser_i]

dude! this sounds extreme.. okay... if you have the gutts.. this is what you need to do... find a day that both your parents are away from home so you can prepare you're trap... Grab as many porn magazines, pictures.. pages.. what ever movies you can find... spread them out all over the living room.. kitchen I MEAN EVERY GOD DAMN place where you can stick a page .... flood the house with porn... infact add some nasty news reports.. put on a porn movie on the tv.. get your computer a slutty background a girl giving head or being hammered in the pipe line...

then get a big piece of paper or carton(spl?) big marker!

wright something down like.. "EVER HEARD OF OPPRESSIVE PARENTS?! STUDIES SHOW THAT TEENS DO EXACTLY THAT WHAT PARENTS DON'T WANT THEM TO!" and find a psychological book or somethign like that that refers how to raise a child... or what kind of affect their behaviour has on you.... and place that near that paper you write that down on.

That's me! I'd do soemthing like that if It was me....

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but you could also like try to talk with your parents and not be a woos.. say your mind, and force you're parents to let you speak out your mind.

 

[Hedgehog]

18 is good time to start being a man. If you let your parent be like that you will grow up in a bad way, you will be spineless.
Talk to a professional councelor, in school or whatever. Get a key to your room and lock it. Tell your parents that you are doing whatever you want to do in your room if they ask.
Try to make the changes slowly if you can.

 

[Knicknack]

it's time to get the hell out of there...

 

[Dirtheart]

I know the feeling of oppressive parents. I was once in bed with a woman and got a call from my mum wanting to know where I was and to make sure I was safe. It was totally embarrassing, killed the moment and the woman assumed I was a dependent mummy's boy and lost interest.

The porn is not the issue here. What your parents are doing to you might seem right to them, but what they are doing is enforcing their ideals and barring you from essential learning experiences and making you AFC.

This is very detrimental to you! If you don't stand upto your parents, you won't be able to stand upto a woman and I see a lot of heartache in your future.

There's a post on this board called "The world wants you to be an AFC" (or similar title) which I highly suggest you read.

 

[Pro]

I don't watch any tv. I still dj. I watch the occasional movie, but other than that I am way to busy to fill my mind with that drama. I think tvs were made for girls.

Let hot girls be your tv, so get to it, go check them out!

 

[Coolage]

you have to confront them.

 

[Julian]

Jeez man im reading this thread about crazy parents, then read the thread about the religious fanatic parents. No wonder our generation is so fucced up.

Dude, a couple months ago i was on some website that shows people getting killed and animal attacks etc and there was a porn pop up. My mom walks into my room. The thing is it popped up right as i turned my head to greet her, so i didnt know it was up.

Next thing ya know she has a wierd look on her face, i turn back and see some big tittied naked chick staring back at me. Im trying to explain to her its just a pop up, she just laughs and says its ok and leaves the room.


Dude if my parents tried pulling some devious sh1t on me like yours do i would have snapped a very very long time ago, especially at the age of 18!

 

[GaryNas]

I sort of know what you're going through. I'm still in school so I live at home with my crazy parents. I'm 25, but they still ask where I'm going ALL THE TIME. When I tell them it's none of their business they tell me to move out (but I can't because I wouldn't be able to pay for school). When I'm watching TV he ALWAYS asks what I'm watching. When he comes to see what I'm watching I turn the TV off and ask what he wants. If he wants to know what show it is I usually make up something ridiculous just to mock him.

Keep asking them questions when they're around. Like when your mom looking in at you don't pretend you didn't see it. Ask what she wants...

 

[b's nuts]

i had a friend who was only allowed to watch pbs, man that kid was wierd. Your 18, legaly you can do whatever you want. Get a job and move out, if you don't make enough, collect wellfare checks till you can handle your own. Pack up your ****, get a friend to help you load it all up, and when they ask what your doing say "FVCK YOU MOM AND DAD, HAHAHAH". Start smoking.

 

[alboh]

Here are your options: 1) Continue letting your parents torture you, and end up that much more spineless in the rest of your life. 2) Confront them -- either tell them to f*** off and stop being facists (yell if you have to) or move out if you can manage it (if you get a bunch of people to rent out a house its usually pretty cheap).

It's amazing how much our relationships with out parents affect our lives. I've noticed, for example, that every girl I know who sleeps around with tons of guys has divorced/separated parents (I'm sure there are exceptions, that's just a generalization). Your parents are going to turn you into a wimp. Sum up your courage and tell them to f*** off!!

 

[Crank_It_Up]

Originally posted by chitownboi
...I dont work and have no money moving out ill be homeless. With all this going on how can i be a dj. I have no one to talk to in real life about this and i cant keep it all inside.

They say i have problems but they have turned me this way.

Why don't you work?

What problems do they say you have?

 

[Ice Cold]

You have to rephrame your parents view on your privacy.

Walk into their bedroom with a playboy and start mastrubating.

Then yell: "What the fukk are you gonna do about it?"

 

[chitownboi]

Just started looking this year and its very hard finding any let alone a decent one you can live off with. It will be very hard for me to move out and pay bill my self cause its a first timer but i have to be a man and do it. They wont even let me stay out after 12 which makes not even go out. They will never know what they are doing wrong.

Im waiting for the last straw and thats when ill really start going crazy. I just want to know why do they always get the credit since they are parents. If i do something wrong like yell at them they will be the victim and ill just be the crazy kid. No one will know where im coming from and everyone wont just talk to me.

All my life they set me back and made em unconfident yet they ask me everyday why im so uncofident and have low self esteem and i just dont say anything. They did everything possible wrong to me.

I hate blaming but i think this really is true. I think ill just pack not even pack just leave take a walk and never come back see where i end up.

Being over protective wont protect a child it will lead him the opposite way.

 

[taqueso]

Don't just "run away". Make a goal and plan things. Figure out how you are going to be able to afford a place. Get a job. Find a roommate or two. Then move out. Drive yourself to do this right. Prove your parents wrong. Show them you have the confidence to do your own thing. Don't give it a half-assed try and then have to come crying back to them.

Do not fall into the trap of thinking that they "made you unconfident". You need to start taking responsibility for yourself. You ARE IN CONTROL. You have to be the best person you can be, and no-one else will make you do it.

 

[Dirtheart]

All my life they set me back and made em unconfident yet they ask me everyday why im so uncofident and have low self esteem and i just dont say anything.

Here is your problem. You don't say anything. You don't have to shout, go crazy, throw a tantrum or make any dramatic point. That's childish and you'll be responded to as a child.

You really need to talk to them on a level. Be mature and reasonable and just say something like, "I'm 18 now. I appreciate you are my parents and you're looking out for me, but I feel like I need more privacy than I'm being given".

I think a problem a lot of people have with their parents is they see a big status gap and never try to communicate with them as adults.

If you can't do that with your own parents, I certainly don't think women will be your thing.

 

[Life-Trainee]

Oh boy, i know where you're coming from. Definately confront your parents and try to talk reason into them. I've constantly confronted my parents when they were giving me hard time. I might have damaged my relationship with them to some degree but I got what i wanted. Few of the common issues that I had to deal with the usual things like curfew and personal privacy. With curfew I just broke it repeatedly, got into arguments and eventually my parents gave up on that.

I'm still in college so i'm living what is hopefully my last months with parents.
Recently I had to confront them on barging into my room like they own the place I tried saying things like "Would you mind my privacy and knock?". They would give me BS like "Well, it's my apartment and you're not paying rent". Poor justification for violation of privacy right? Well, with my second attempt I said to them "You should knock otherwise you might see things that you might not want see me do" and I drew a nice picture in their minds of me either jerking off or whatever. That seemed to work. I'm 22 years old and i have to put up with this crap. Less so than when I was 15, what a "fun" time that was.