About a week ago I lost my virginity to my girlfriend of about a month. I'm 20 years old and I had been set on losing my virginity for about a year now (I changed my views on chastity and its relationship with being a christian.) I was never really good with girls in high school so I came to this to learn how to attract women well (without the intention of having sex with them).
Sosuave.com, its articles, and the dj bible really helped me exude confidence but I kept ignoring everything telling me to improve my life in other aspects than women. So with minimal success at the whole attraction game i gave up for a while. Instead I focused my life on playing drums and getting in shape. About half a year later I noticed a bunch of girls giving me all these signs that I used to look for as IOI's (i think that's the term lol...well interest is what I'm saying). It turns out a lot of the girls had crushes on me, even though i wasn't on a football team, athletic or remotely good looking. They saw purpose in my life, something I was wanting to achieve besides getting in a girls pants. I enjoyed my time on top of the world in high school my last two years to say the least.
Then I got to college...and me being a retard chose engineering for a major. Bad grades really dropped my confidence, led to drinking and partying, and being lazy. I felt like I was a failure at life and the girls went away after my freshman year. Sophomore year the same...I did a little better at school, but still only saw minimum results at parties (making out with random girls every once in a while).
Junior year I decided I would make a change. I would get better grades, play drums more and get in better shape. And what do ya know, the girls came back. I gained the confidence and finally lost my virginity.
Guys that are still virgins, don't put so much pressure on yourselves. I was drastically disappointed in what I thought sex would be like. I don't feel any more of a man from doing it, I don't see the world differently, I feel the same as before (well except without all the un-needed pressure I put on myself).
If you want to succeed with women, you need to succeed in your life. Think of your goals you want to achieve (besides the sex for once). And put your focus on those for a while, stick with it, and reward yourself once you achieve them. Make short term and long term goals (I'm trying to get a six pack by summer right now using p90x, look it up it really works). You'll feel great that you're making progress to your girls and girls will notice this.
I extremely recommend your goals be ones about improving your body. Nothing exudes more confidence than being strong and in shape.
