Interceptor said:
L and C,
are you just going to keep b*tching, or are you dong something about your situation?
Be honest. I would appreciate it, man.
At this point I honestly just don't know man. There is a HUGE double-standard here and on all seduction sites of epic proportions that are messing up with my mind.
***On one hand, they say "Focus on improving yourself and becoming a man, work on your physique, work on your education, work on your confidence, work on a successful career (the most outrageous of all of these), etc."
You don't want to come off as desperate to women, you want them to be confused as to if you are interested in them or not, you want to be the
great catch.
***On the other hand, if that all above is true, how come Fluffy and I can never have a girlfriend, even if I make sure to NEVER come off as desparate, always try to exude my sexuality towards women by flirting, and ALWAYS never look like an AFC? What situation is there to improve? I put myself first....almost to the point of seeming selfish (the selfish guys get girls too though). But when you aren't going for girls, when you work on yourself, the girls do nothing. They have other c0cks to shove up their @ss. If I don't approach girls (chasing girls at a small scale), then when am I EVER going to get in a relationship? An attractive girl isn't just going to fall into my lap, you should know this.
Thus I find myself at a stalemate. Don't act interested, yet approach women. Hm. See the conflict here? Its obvious you are interested all the way from the opener. Otherwise, why talk to them when you've got other male friends who can entertain you with more hearty discussions? Seeing myself there, the idea automatically springs up:
"LostAC, you've got it! Eureka! Find a happy medium between working on yourself, and approach girls! Only ugly girls will approach you (you aren't a high school varsity football player), you don't want them, and if you spend all your time chasing girls, given your past failures, you'll end up lonely AND unsuccessful! When the opportunity arises, spit game at a girl, but don't get caught up doing it! Put yourself first: work on graduating high school, work on mind, body and spirit."
But alas, this has always what I have strived to do, yet it has never worked. With every month of not having successful experience with women, I feel more and more distant to women, with every month of not having experience, I am less able to successfully game women. NLP doesn't work. "Thinking you are the great catch" only works when you know how to maintain interest through conversation, able to keep the conversation going, as the women I talk to never seem to have any interest in keeping the conversation alive. They depend on me to keep the conversation going. My conversations consist of asking them questions in which they answer, over and over again, with the few couple of negs thrown in. Girls at my school don't react well to my kino. They look at my weird when I pat them on the upper arm/shoulder. Its even worse when I try to give them hugs. The only reason why they don't leave me hanging when I hold up a high-five is that they don't want to look like a b1tch. Am I at all desparate?
Hell No! I only talk to the girls anyway when they enter my vicinity. Otherwise, I make sure to focus on my own life and ambitions. It seems natural anyways. The alphas do it. The football players focus on their own dämn thing, when a girl crosses their path, they chat them up, the girls respond great to their kino.
See the problem? In relation to the OP, relationships are great, as you get experience in talking to women in general, plus you never feel lonely and you establish a soulful connection as long as it isn't a ONS.
Its like theres a gene. A gene that men can't witness visibly, but women can see from afar. Its the gene that tells them that a guy would be good to talk to and good to be in a relationship with and good to fvck.
I don't have such gene. And I think, and know that I'm better than these football players at my school. Girls don't see that though.
