Girls seem to smell incongruency from a mile away. A lot of the gurus say "fake it 'til you make it", but I think I've been plagued with Nice Guy Syndrome from the start. Within five seconds of meeting me, somewhere in the back of their minds, b*tches diagnose me with it. They all seem to speak to me in a patronizing tone of voice, especially the hotter ones. I've heard that if a girl really digs you, she'll playfully make fun of you a lot, maybe even seeming resentful of you if you she really likes you. She'll constantly sh** test you. When I try to act the 'bad boy', the girls see right through my facade and throw sh*t test at me to break it down. At this point, I start acting the fool.
I can't seem to get past this sticking point. I need confidence. I need congruency with a "player"-type of persona. But I don't seem to be making progress. I feel like I'm destined to be a dreaded nice guy for a while. I have changed my thought patterns, but girls still see me as an AFC?
In the movie Hitch, Will Smith says if you're nice guy, play the nice guy. If you're a bad boy, act accordingly. Am I trying too hard to be something I'm not? Should I change my personality? Or should I merely just "try harder?"
I can't seem to get past this sticking point. I need confidence. I need congruency with a "player"-type of persona. But I don't seem to be making progress. I feel like I'm destined to be a dreaded nice guy for a while. I have changed my thought patterns, but girls still see me as an AFC?
In the movie Hitch, Will Smith says if you're nice guy, play the nice guy. If you're a bad boy, act accordingly. Am I trying too hard to be something I'm not? Should I change my personality? Or should I merely just "try harder?"