Never had an orgasm from a BJ

[Buzz]

*No immature audiences please, graphic sexual content*

So I'm 23 and started having sex at 16... I've gotten pretty good at my end of the equation (meaning my part in pleasing her) and I've had great sex before, but I never came from a BJ (or handjob) unless I finished it in her mouth for her w/ my hand. I just had a birthday and for some reason im wanting to do a bunch of stuff I haven't ever done before (i'm old!!!). My girlfriend is (and all of the previous ones really have been) up for the challenge but none of them have really been that good at BJs soooo.....

Is there some kind of website I can direct them to or something? Should I not jack off for like X period of time or something?

Thanks
Buzz

 

[sexy_kuta]

just do it like its your first time when you were young..

learn on your own,

i think it wouldnt the same if you did reasearch and what not

just do it like you would at the age 16 and
practice. learn your mistakes

 

[gimmeyofonenumba]

Ya well thats because we werent intended to have sex inside of a women's mouth or sex with her face. Its easily understandable if you have trouble climaxing during a bj...you simply dont like it as much as poon.

 

[MacAvoy]

I think you jerked off too much prior to gettin laid for real. Secondly I bet it probably doesn't feel as close as the real thing which is why you aren't getting off. There are no websites that are going to teach her, its all about you. Its in your head, if your good, you should be able to make yourself come based on what she is doing.

I went through the same thing. Getting BJ's was great but I always wanted the real thing to finish off. Also one of the first girls I had was a little rough on my tip so that kinda turned me off it a bit. But I love getting head.

If you really want to start coming from her giving you head or a hand job. Don't jerk off for a couple weeks, don't have sex either. Then after your really horny, have her give you head, I'm sure you'll come then.

Just remember, anything worthwhile takes work, lots and lots of work, or effort at least. In this case, the effort to leave you man juice in your pants for a while.

 

[TheRelic]

Guess it depends on the girl... I never did either, until I ran into some girl at the beach at night over the holidays in a time gone by. Sucked like a f*cking whirlwind... amazing.

 

[Tomatoes]

I have never come from a BJ. Its a discussion me and my mates were having the other day. 3 had 2 hadnt. Its not that uncommon. I have had many girls "try" and only end up with a sore jaw and a tired tongue.

I might try not wanking or anything for ages then see if a girl can make me *** from one. I dont hold high hopes thow. It feels really good....but diffrent.....in my opinion anyways.

 

[Fash]

Guy, i have (used to have) the same problem too.

However, I overcame it in an LTR with a girl.

I went on holiday for a week, in my AFC days, and although I tried, I didnt get any. So I hadnt had it for a week when I got home to my LTR.

I think that what helped it. But also, here is how I continued to climax during BJs:

1. Make sure you are relaxed. Lie on your back, rest your head and relax.

2. Concentrate. Close your eyes and think of the most erousing memories you have. Remember the times you have had really amazing sex.

3. Tell her to go at a constant speed. This is key! The most important factor. She must continue at the same pace, at the same speed.

4. Dont bother with asking her to rub your balls or cup them, because the ALWAYS tend to squeeze too hard and that will send you back to square one.

5. Make sure she ties her hair back if she has long hair. You dont want any distractions.

6. She may need to keep going for around 15 minutes, so make sure she is prepared for it.

Believe me guys, the orgasms I have had from BJs are 5x more powerful than any othe means.

Good luck!

 

[KarmaSutra]

This is one of the best threads I've seen. I had already succumbed to the fact that there was something wrong with ME! because I couldn't have an orgasm from oral sex or a handjob.

This has brightened my day a bit


I assumed it was because I didn't feel enough of a connection with any of my conquests on a deeper emotional level until I met my (now ) ex-wife. My ex-wife tried and tried and tried but still couldn't do it. Shot that theory all to hell.

I'm curious now to find out what the commonality amongst us is . . .

Thanks brother Buzz for getting this out in the open.

 

[newbie81]

My ex-gf was able to make me orgasm everything by giving head. She liked giving head a lot, climax always happened in hear mouth, she swallowed.

Prior to me she had 4 year LTR wih a guy who liked to watch porn with her.

I know that that same guy ex-gf also liked giving head & swallowed.

For me it's clear: both of them learned it with the guy. So yes it can be learned, they simple have to learn it.

My current gf has gagging problem when giving head, therefore it doesn't feel that good.

Haven't experienced deepthroat yet, but I think that feels even better.

There are e-books about how to give head/deepthroat properly.

Got one on my hd at home, need to check the names.

 

[flyinshark]

I know it feels good to see that you are not the only one in a certain situation, so let me also contribute by saying that i have never climaxed from a bj or a hj either.

I believe this has to do with us being used too much to one type of stimulation (often, our own hand), and any new stimulation just doesn't seem to get us turned on enough. Yes, it feels good to receive a bj and we really WANT to climax, but damn we just don't reach that point when we know we'll reach orgasm.

So, we have our blame because we have some kinda mental thing blocking us from going all the way, but i also believe the girl's skill is key. A talented girl should be able to get us to climax. Finding her is another story...

Lastly, i believe that this is one of those things that needs to be "unlocked" in us. What i mean is that once we finally get to climax from a bj, we will then be free from that burden and it will become much easier to climax again from the same thing.

 

[Shiftkey]

I've only climaxed from head once, so I can relate to your pain. I think the biggest factor is how much the woman enjoys it. If she just wants to get it overwith, you're not going to ***.

 

[italostud]

Tell her to pinch your nipples.

 

[AC/DC]

I bust every time.

 

[SmoothTalker]

Hmm, I never realized this was such a common problem. I couldnt get off from head the first 2 times I got some. I don't know why exactly.. I was nervous, she was out of practice, and I'm sure there were many other reasons. Don't get me wrong it still felt great.. but I could never come, and in fact I'd eventually just go soft. I mostly blame the nerves. The first time she got me to come from, in any manner, we just had a Lot of time, and I was horny, so she gave me head and jacked me off for like half an hour until I came.. After that it got a lot easier.

What I found helped was really relaxing and just enjoying the sensations. Also if your girl will let you, I enjoy just having my hands on the back of her head. Heh, don't push her, just move with her. Also it became much easier to *** when she started swallowing every time, so I think part of it for me was just worrying about what's going to happen at the great moment.

 

[Ever onward]

believe this has to do with us being used too much to one type of stimulation (often, our own hand), and any new stimulation just doesn't seem to get us turned on enough. Yes, it feels good to receive a bj and we really WANT to climax, but damn we just don't reach that point when we know we'll reach orgasm.

I used to get head a lot when I was in my late teens and I would come everytime. Then I went through a huge dryspell and masturbated like crazy. Fast foward a few years to my mid 20s and it is almost impossible for me to come from head at this point.

I think too much masturbation can harm the part of the penis that feels sensation.

I dunno, I'm off masturbation now to see what happens.

 

[doctoroxygen]

My girlfriend can deepthroat at will. Her favorite evening activity is giving me head, then baking cupcakes for me. I nut every time.

Hopefully that helps you.

 

[SmoothTalker]

Haha Doctor Oxygen, I'm assuming that was at least partly a parody of my post? Alright so perhaps I bragged a bit, but I was also trying to help, just included a bit of backstory with it.

 

[doctoroxygen]

Originally posted by SmoothTalker
Haha Doctor Oxygen, I'm assuming that was at least partly a parody of my post? Alright so perhaps I bragged a bit, but I was also trying to help, just included a bit of backstory with it.

Haha, no offense was meant. I didn't really even read this thread. I just like bragging.

 

[MacAvoy]

Well I think most of us agree that not busting most likely comes from too much masterbation at a young age prior to getting head ... or some version of that.

That being said I'm on Day 2 of the no masterbation thread, my goal is to not masterbate until I see my LD-LTR, and not fvck her till she makes me cumm from giving head.

My only form of cumming between now and then will be from any freelance activity that I happen to run into.