Why not give up?
I sat there and I had flashbacks of my life. I just thought about all the negative things of my life and how much better it would be if I gave up now. I didn't seem to care. I had thought I tried everything I could to stay motivated (getting laid). But why? Couldn't I LIVE WITHOUT girls?! Why do I need girls so badly?! Was I BORN an AFC? I thought to myself.
After this one girl dumped me I had this terrible instinct to go out with her again. I couldn't believe that I'm still interested in her. Sometimes a girl can just get to you. Now common sense would tell you when this happens, there is something different between the two of you than usual right? In my head when I thought of this I knew my head ****ed with me. I knew it was just my imagination turning every thing she said to me into signs of interest.
And why does my imagination do that?
Why is my brain changing all the information she says into her liking me?!
If this happens to you it's either : A) Your brain see's a pattern.
B) At some point in time, she had some degree in interest (now?) and your brain realizes you still NEED her.
For me it was B.
You learn something from every relationship
If you're stuck on a girl it's because you didn't learn what you were suppose to from that relationship. Every single relationship you have, can teach you something... your brain realizes that she still has something to teach you, she is still there to complete a part of you. Look you can flirt with every woman you see, date most of them and it would be satisfying and entertaining, but it won't be complete because there will be that one girl who has to teach you something. How can you learn that something if she dumps you before you learned it? Be friends with her after and you can. I'm not telling you to be needy. I'm telling you to learn what you need and move on. See you think you're over them...but their face does it again. See that seduction method says this, that one says that, and well this was the one missing piece of information you need to know.
Jealousy
That girl I was talking about before that for some reason I want(wanted not sure yet) she's now really interested in my best friend. It bothers me every time I see them together... I told my best friend that I don't mind too much if they date but it still kind of bothers me. So he tries to not hit on her when I'm around. But there in the process of becoming boyfriend and girlfriend. And it bothers me, because I'm not over her yet. Days later I learned from my friend on this site doublediamonds that it has NOTHING to do with the friend. HE IS YOUR INTRUDER IN YOUR PARADIGM OF REALITY
And lately because of this and other negative forces in my life. I've been out of the game.
Being out of the game
Recently before I started making my life better something happened to me. I just stopped caring, I didn't try at all in school, and I didn't know why. I knew it wasn't because of the girl. The girl just bothered me. I was having some sort of mid teenage crisis. My friend told me in three words: hit rock bottom. I asked him why and he replied: Well, man this year I had one day that changed my life for the best. Best day of my lief, it was a tuesday. That monday was one of the worst days I've had in a long time. You have to know that you'll come out of it. You know all those negative questions when that are running through your head when you feel like ****? Answer them. Go deeper. Keeping asking them until you can't keep your eyes open. You have to win man. What you're doing here is you're understanding more about you. You're uncovering the hidden problems that make you angry, depressed, or unmotivated during the day. You learning why you just want to throw in the towel and say " **** this I don't care anymore." And once you figure this out. You fix it. After you understand the reason for your answer you will feel free and happy once again. You will be back in the game.
Stay Motivated
When you're feeling down realize where your life is going. You know that if you don't try for girls. You won't get the girls. Cause and effect. You don't go anywhere in life for free buddy, that's a sure one. You want to be a computer programmer go for it, you want to be an athlete you need to practice and same goes for girls. You want to get laid you have to realize that you actually HAVE TO TRY if you want to get laid and end up being a 35 year old virgin. Every time you're starting to not care just remember where the direction of your life is going. Don't go through life blind folded. People can show you the road to salvation, but cannot walk it for you.
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I would like to thank Doublediamonds for helping me and teaching me a lot of these things. Thank you.
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Pt. 2 is out. Scroll down a bit until you see the heading "EASIER SAID THAN DONE." sorry for making this a reply instead of an edit.
I sat there and I had flashbacks of my life. I just thought about all the negative things of my life and how much better it would be if I gave up now. I didn't seem to care. I had thought I tried everything I could to stay motivated (getting laid). But why? Couldn't I LIVE WITHOUT girls?! Why do I need girls so badly?! Was I BORN an AFC? I thought to myself.
After this one girl dumped me I had this terrible instinct to go out with her again. I couldn't believe that I'm still interested in her. Sometimes a girl can just get to you. Now common sense would tell you when this happens, there is something different between the two of you than usual right? In my head when I thought of this I knew my head ****ed with me. I knew it was just my imagination turning every thing she said to me into signs of interest.
And why does my imagination do that?
Why is my brain changing all the information she says into her liking me?!
If this happens to you it's either : A) Your brain see's a pattern.
B) At some point in time, she had some degree in interest (now?) and your brain realizes you still NEED her.
For me it was B.
You learn something from every relationship
If you're stuck on a girl it's because you didn't learn what you were suppose to from that relationship. Every single relationship you have, can teach you something... your brain realizes that she still has something to teach you, she is still there to complete a part of you. Look you can flirt with every woman you see, date most of them and it would be satisfying and entertaining, but it won't be complete because there will be that one girl who has to teach you something. How can you learn that something if she dumps you before you learned it? Be friends with her after and you can. I'm not telling you to be needy. I'm telling you to learn what you need and move on. See you think you're over them...but their face does it again. See that seduction method says this, that one says that, and well this was the one missing piece of information you need to know.
Jealousy
That girl I was talking about before that for some reason I want(wanted not sure yet) she's now really interested in my best friend. It bothers me every time I see them together... I told my best friend that I don't mind too much if they date but it still kind of bothers me. So he tries to not hit on her when I'm around. But there in the process of becoming boyfriend and girlfriend. And it bothers me, because I'm not over her yet. Days later I learned from my friend on this site doublediamonds that it has NOTHING to do with the friend. HE IS YOUR INTRUDER IN YOUR PARADIGM OF REALITY
And lately because of this and other negative forces in my life. I've been out of the game.
Being out of the game
Recently before I started making my life better something happened to me. I just stopped caring, I didn't try at all in school, and I didn't know why. I knew it wasn't because of the girl. The girl just bothered me. I was having some sort of mid teenage crisis. My friend told me in three words: hit rock bottom. I asked him why and he replied: Well, man this year I had one day that changed my life for the best. Best day of my lief, it was a tuesday. That monday was one of the worst days I've had in a long time. You have to know that you'll come out of it. You know all those negative questions when that are running through your head when you feel like ****? Answer them. Go deeper. Keeping asking them until you can't keep your eyes open. You have to win man. What you're doing here is you're understanding more about you. You're uncovering the hidden problems that make you angry, depressed, or unmotivated during the day. You learning why you just want to throw in the towel and say " **** this I don't care anymore." And once you figure this out. You fix it. After you understand the reason for your answer you will feel free and happy once again. You will be back in the game.
Stay Motivated
When you're feeling down realize where your life is going. You know that if you don't try for girls. You won't get the girls. Cause and effect. You don't go anywhere in life for free buddy, that's a sure one. You want to be a computer programmer go for it, you want to be an athlete you need to practice and same goes for girls. You want to get laid you have to realize that you actually HAVE TO TRY if you want to get laid and end up being a 35 year old virgin. Every time you're starting to not care just remember where the direction of your life is going. Don't go through life blind folded. People can show you the road to salvation, but cannot walk it for you.
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I would like to thank Doublediamonds for helping me and teaching me a lot of these things. Thank you.
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Pt. 2 is out. Scroll down a bit until you see the heading "EASIER SAID THAN DONE." sorry for making this a reply instead of an edit.
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