Anonymous56
Don Juan
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Ok let me give a little backround about myself. I grew up being a very anxious person. I have had social anxiety my whole life and only the last year or two have I started to accept it and do the things I want to do. I didn't really start going out or meeting girls until this year (my sophomore year of college). I actually met 3 girls in about 3 months and the 3rd one is my current girlfriend of 3 months.
This girl was actually in one of my classes my freshman year and apparently she has liked me since that day (we were casually friends). So I found this out and took it upon myself to go and get her. The first month we started seeing eachother was AWESOME. She always made moves on me. I got constant BJ's all the time, we had sex every opportunity we could. The second month (may), the BJ's, minus the pre-sex BJ's, were pretty much gone but we were still having pretty good sex. As in she was still making moves on me etc.. June things started to slow down a bit...we still had sex but 99 percent of the time I initiated everything. Im not going to say I had to beg for it, but it seemed it took a lot more work to get it.
What I am going to tell you next is going to make most of you laugh. Ok there is something I need to explain. Having social anxiety is the constant stream of useless, negative thoughts that run through your head. Trying to get rid of them or reason yourself out of them just feeds them. I just started seeing a psychiatrist about this yesterday, and he gave me some methods to help. The problem is, I didn't know these methods before I made the mistakes with her that I did. The only method I knew for curing these thoughts was getting reassurance from her that her interest was still there. This led to me getting really really gay and always questioning her interest. Are you even attracted to me anymore? Why don't you like me as much anymore? These are the questions I actually asked her.
Now in July, we still see eachother all the time. She still calls me all the time, but its little things that are bothering me. She doesn't get as excited to see me. We used to kiss all the time; now its like a struggle just to get a kiss. And it seems like I am over there to ENTERTAIN her. So the relationship seems to be about her and not us.
Now I know the reason for all of this is that she liked me for a year so she showed great interest in me to GET ME. Well now she knows she got me so she is definatately slowing down. It was my fault during the last month to actually express any kind of romantic feelings toward her.
Im not saying our relationship is going down the ****ter. We still get a long, we still hang out all the time, she still calls me all the time. I just want her to get really excited to see me again. I want her to initiate the sex. I want her to beg for me to come over like she used to.
What do I do, without coming off like I don't like her anymore, to get this back? I know a method is to show a lack of interest, but I don't want to come off as not liking her because I really do.
This girl was actually in one of my classes my freshman year and apparently she has liked me since that day (we were casually friends). So I found this out and took it upon myself to go and get her. The first month we started seeing eachother was AWESOME. She always made moves on me. I got constant BJ's all the time, we had sex every opportunity we could. The second month (may), the BJ's, minus the pre-sex BJ's, were pretty much gone but we were still having pretty good sex. As in she was still making moves on me etc.. June things started to slow down a bit...we still had sex but 99 percent of the time I initiated everything. Im not going to say I had to beg for it, but it seemed it took a lot more work to get it.
What I am going to tell you next is going to make most of you laugh. Ok there is something I need to explain. Having social anxiety is the constant stream of useless, negative thoughts that run through your head. Trying to get rid of them or reason yourself out of them just feeds them. I just started seeing a psychiatrist about this yesterday, and he gave me some methods to help. The problem is, I didn't know these methods before I made the mistakes with her that I did. The only method I knew for curing these thoughts was getting reassurance from her that her interest was still there. This led to me getting really really gay and always questioning her interest. Are you even attracted to me anymore? Why don't you like me as much anymore? These are the questions I actually asked her.
Now in July, we still see eachother all the time. She still calls me all the time, but its little things that are bothering me. She doesn't get as excited to see me. We used to kiss all the time; now its like a struggle just to get a kiss. And it seems like I am over there to ENTERTAIN her. So the relationship seems to be about her and not us.
Now I know the reason for all of this is that she liked me for a year so she showed great interest in me to GET ME. Well now she knows she got me so she is definatately slowing down. It was my fault during the last month to actually express any kind of romantic feelings toward her.
Im not saying our relationship is going down the ****ter. We still get a long, we still hang out all the time, she still calls me all the time. I just want her to get really excited to see me again. I want her to initiate the sex. I want her to beg for me to come over like she used to.
What do I do, without coming off like I don't like her anymore, to get this back? I know a method is to show a lack of interest, but I don't want to come off as not liking her because I really do.