chosenfew22
Don Juan
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My soon to be ex-wife ran out on me in January after I caught her having questionable conversations with men on her phone. We have two kids (one is 2 - mine, the other is 11 - from a previous marriage). When I caught her I told her that we were going to sprint tomorrow to look at the phone records the next day.
The next day I went out to watch UFC fight with the guys. When I came back, her car (which I had gotten running the day prior) was gone. Mind you her license was in my car, there was no tag on the car and no insurance on it. I went inside and the kids were gone with not even a note. I was worried she might have been pulled over or wrecked so I rode up and down the street all night and the next morning. Figures the day before I have to go back to work from vacation she leaves (I'm military so I can't just not report)
4 days later, I found out from a family "friend" that she went to their house during the UFC fight and claimed that I hit her and she had to go bc she was scared. No report was filed. Her dad (a felon) had came from NY all the way to NC and had picked her up and snatched my 2 yr old daughter before the UFC match had even ended. I had no contact from anyone in her family for 4 days despite numerous tries. Finally, she responded to an email and told me where she was.
Blocked all of my bank accounts, lawyered up and revoked all of her power of attorneys. Tried to write a separation agreement but apparently she wants to walk away from this AND get everything she wants. Upon her leaving I found an old diary that tells the story of her and her son's father (which i was told was a one night stand) and find out they were in a relationship for 2 years!
She changed her pic on FB at the beginning of Feb hugging up on some guy so apparently she had a bf 3 weeks after she left (or before) since she had been making trips to NY every other month for the past year.
The first month and a half I was in f*cking shambles. They even dropped me from taking the Special Operations Combat Medical Course I was slotted to take in Jan (which is slowing my career) because they said I would not be able to focus. I am not butthurt about losing her bc our relationship sucked ass anyway, but I want to protect myself legally and financially and get this ***** out of my life so I can focus on my daughter (who I have not been able to see in 3 months bc of my job, the distance she took her and I know if I go up there I'll probably end up flipping the f*ck out and going to jail). She even once tried to go to see her "family" in NY with my kids during a blizzard EVEN WHEN I WAS SENT TO THE HOSPITAL THAT NIGHT..my boss was in the hospital trying to convince her it was not only dangerous for the kids but ****ed up morally.
The mortgage is in her name only and the deed is in both of our names. The house is upside down so I don't want it. I am currently living in our marital home. She has no job or income other than VA benefits ($751/month). I have been giving her $400 a month for my daughter and sending it certified mail. Have paid all of the bills on the house (which are in her name up to date).
Right now I am filing for temporary custody and am in the process of getting affidavits filled out. In NC you have to be separated for 1 year and in NY one party has to be a resident for 6 months before you can file for a divorce.
Can I just pack my **** up and leave and walk away from this house or will that endup f*cking me over in court if it gets foreclosed ?
Little help and insight guys...
The next day I went out to watch UFC fight with the guys. When I came back, her car (which I had gotten running the day prior) was gone. Mind you her license was in my car, there was no tag on the car and no insurance on it. I went inside and the kids were gone with not even a note. I was worried she might have been pulled over or wrecked so I rode up and down the street all night and the next morning. Figures the day before I have to go back to work from vacation she leaves (I'm military so I can't just not report)
4 days later, I found out from a family "friend" that she went to their house during the UFC fight and claimed that I hit her and she had to go bc she was scared. No report was filed. Her dad (a felon) had came from NY all the way to NC and had picked her up and snatched my 2 yr old daughter before the UFC match had even ended. I had no contact from anyone in her family for 4 days despite numerous tries. Finally, she responded to an email and told me where she was.
Blocked all of my bank accounts, lawyered up and revoked all of her power of attorneys. Tried to write a separation agreement but apparently she wants to walk away from this AND get everything she wants. Upon her leaving I found an old diary that tells the story of her and her son's father (which i was told was a one night stand) and find out they were in a relationship for 2 years!
She changed her pic on FB at the beginning of Feb hugging up on some guy so apparently she had a bf 3 weeks after she left (or before) since she had been making trips to NY every other month for the past year.
The first month and a half I was in f*cking shambles. They even dropped me from taking the Special Operations Combat Medical Course I was slotted to take in Jan (which is slowing my career) because they said I would not be able to focus. I am not butthurt about losing her bc our relationship sucked ass anyway, but I want to protect myself legally and financially and get this ***** out of my life so I can focus on my daughter (who I have not been able to see in 3 months bc of my job, the distance she took her and I know if I go up there I'll probably end up flipping the f*ck out and going to jail). She even once tried to go to see her "family" in NY with my kids during a blizzard EVEN WHEN I WAS SENT TO THE HOSPITAL THAT NIGHT..my boss was in the hospital trying to convince her it was not only dangerous for the kids but ****ed up morally.
The mortgage is in her name only and the deed is in both of our names. The house is upside down so I don't want it. I am currently living in our marital home. She has no job or income other than VA benefits ($751/month). I have been giving her $400 a month for my daughter and sending it certified mail. Have paid all of the bills on the house (which are in her name up to date).
Right now I am filing for temporary custody and am in the process of getting affidavits filled out. In NC you have to be separated for 1 year and in NY one party has to be a resident for 6 months before you can file for a divorce.
Can I just pack my **** up and leave and walk away from this house or will that endup f*cking me over in court if it gets foreclosed ?
Little help and insight guys...