yungpadawan
Don Juan
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Hi all, I've been lurking around this site and I've found it to be an excellent way of improving your own mindset so that you can reach your potential in the game. I have been especially impressed by Naughty Ninja's advice and analysis so I'm hoping he (with his signature bold font) or anyone else that is willing to provide advice, can help me.
Situation:
I knew this girl from high school, didn't really talk to her that much during HS or afterwards. A few years later (post college), I see her at a friend's party. I chilled with her and a few days later she added me to her IM list. A month afterwards, I contact her, hang out with her and k-close her. 2nd date goes the same way plus make-out. At the end of the date, I attempted to escalate and she told me she wants to take it slow. I tried to initiate the 3rd date but she flaked on me a few hours before saying she was tired. I called her and she texted me back saying she fell asleep. I tease her and make fun of her about it and she asked if we could reschedule. I said sure and she said thanks for understanding but she didn't set a specific day or time (a subtle different that I've picked up from reading these forums). Between dates on the weekend, we barely text and if we do, I'm the one contacting her. Her phone is sorta busted so I don't really call. Instead we text. Maybe I misplayed that.
I braced myself for the likely possibility that she's not that interested. I haven't fully moved on or else I wouldn't be here. So is the solution to spin more plates? Or do I initiate again until I get a flat out no. A DJ doesn't get played but he also doesn't next the girl right away or else you don't get the girl you wanted and you aren't really a DJ.
Also, I've had a thing with her friend a few years back but I never escalated because I just wasn't interested.
Judging by her actions and not her words, if she doesn't reschedule for this weekend, should I just NC her? I haven't spoken to her since the day of the flake last weekend.
Advice?
Situation:
I knew this girl from high school, didn't really talk to her that much during HS or afterwards. A few years later (post college), I see her at a friend's party. I chilled with her and a few days later she added me to her IM list. A month afterwards, I contact her, hang out with her and k-close her. 2nd date goes the same way plus make-out. At the end of the date, I attempted to escalate and she told me she wants to take it slow. I tried to initiate the 3rd date but she flaked on me a few hours before saying she was tired. I called her and she texted me back saying she fell asleep. I tease her and make fun of her about it and she asked if we could reschedule. I said sure and she said thanks for understanding but she didn't set a specific day or time (a subtle different that I've picked up from reading these forums). Between dates on the weekend, we barely text and if we do, I'm the one contacting her. Her phone is sorta busted so I don't really call. Instead we text. Maybe I misplayed that.
I braced myself for the likely possibility that she's not that interested. I haven't fully moved on or else I wouldn't be here. So is the solution to spin more plates? Or do I initiate again until I get a flat out no. A DJ doesn't get played but he also doesn't next the girl right away or else you don't get the girl you wanted and you aren't really a DJ.
Also, I've had a thing with her friend a few years back but I never escalated because I just wasn't interested.
Judging by her actions and not her words, if she doesn't reschedule for this weekend, should I just NC her? I haven't spoken to her since the day of the flake last weekend.
Advice?
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