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Don Juan
Any advice or input is more than appreciated!
Tuesday, Week 2
I had my first conversation this morning with a stranger and it felt extremely atypical. The air never seemed to lighten up for me, maybe because of how odd I found this guy's personality. I commented initially on how the weather is a lot cooler than it has been, and he went right into talking about how he hasn't been outside much because of studying in the library for an after grad program. I found some interest in the area so I pursued the subject. He wasn't reluctant to just keep talking about trivial things happening in his life. It made me feel eager to be done talking to him, and I found myself trying very hard to act interested. I kept the conversation going, I introduced myself with a strong handshake which seemed to loosen the awkwardness, and I found out where he's from. He answered the basic questions of how he likes it here by himself and I learned much more than I wanted to know. The conversation lasted from the bench at the bus stop to where I had to interrupt so I could get my ass off the bus and not be stuck listening to more. I have a feeling I won't be so nervous with the next person I converse with, but hopefully they're more interesting. The 3-second-rule was by far easier when starting conversation with a geeky guy, but I think I should project more authority and confidence.
I'm going back on the bus soon and then to another class, then to the gym later. I'm going to try and do different conversational openers and ideas from the text.
Monday, Week 2
I read my material tonight. I went to the grocery store, but that's not really the place to have long conversation. I used my eye contact and confidence from week 1, but I need an opportunity to talk to more people. Maybe I can talk to the people walking around selling things on campus tomorrow. I have a feeling that the only places I'll be able to meet people are on the bus or from class. I have no choice but to go out and do cold approaches by using the persons surroundings to start conversation. I want to be able to meet women in situations where they're busy doing other things, because I'm very good at meeting women in preset social situations like class and at parties. I don't find the caliber I want, but I see them walk by. I have to prove to myself I can do this. Oh, it's very important that I begin listening to comedy in the morning or reading things that make me more optimistic for the coming day.
Week 1 -- I have a renewed confidence. My week one had to go a bit longer than expected before I was able to begin the next week but I easily hit 50 eye contacts and hi's. I can't stress how inspiring Pook's "Be a Man" post is to my life. It helps me remember who I am and reminds me of my identity as a man. I could go into detail on particular instances, but it isn't necessary as I am just beginning to write on week 2.
Tuesday, Week 2
I had my first conversation this morning with a stranger and it felt extremely atypical. The air never seemed to lighten up for me, maybe because of how odd I found this guy's personality. I commented initially on how the weather is a lot cooler than it has been, and he went right into talking about how he hasn't been outside much because of studying in the library for an after grad program. I found some interest in the area so I pursued the subject. He wasn't reluctant to just keep talking about trivial things happening in his life. It made me feel eager to be done talking to him, and I found myself trying very hard to act interested. I kept the conversation going, I introduced myself with a strong handshake which seemed to loosen the awkwardness, and I found out where he's from. He answered the basic questions of how he likes it here by himself and I learned much more than I wanted to know. The conversation lasted from the bench at the bus stop to where I had to interrupt so I could get my ass off the bus and not be stuck listening to more. I have a feeling I won't be so nervous with the next person I converse with, but hopefully they're more interesting. The 3-second-rule was by far easier when starting conversation with a geeky guy, but I think I should project more authority and confidence.
I'm going back on the bus soon and then to another class, then to the gym later. I'm going to try and do different conversational openers and ideas from the text.
Monday, Week 2
I read my material tonight. I went to the grocery store, but that's not really the place to have long conversation. I used my eye contact and confidence from week 1, but I need an opportunity to talk to more people. Maybe I can talk to the people walking around selling things on campus tomorrow. I have a feeling that the only places I'll be able to meet people are on the bus or from class. I have no choice but to go out and do cold approaches by using the persons surroundings to start conversation. I want to be able to meet women in situations where they're busy doing other things, because I'm very good at meeting women in preset social situations like class and at parties. I don't find the caliber I want, but I see them walk by. I have to prove to myself I can do this. Oh, it's very important that I begin listening to comedy in the morning or reading things that make me more optimistic for the coming day.
Week 1 -- I have a renewed confidence. My week one had to go a bit longer than expected before I was able to begin the next week but I easily hit 50 eye contacts and hi's. I can't stress how inspiring Pook's "Be a Man" post is to my life. It helps me remember who I am and reminds me of my identity as a man. I could go into detail on particular instances, but it isn't necessary as I am just beginning to write on week 2.
