Sup guys?
I just recently got into a relationship with this girl... I've been a long time lurker here (although haven't come to this site in months) and posted under different aliases. My game is pretty tight right now and have multiple plates on my hands.
I haven't been in a relationship in years so its an adjustment for me... and that's where you guys come in. I need some advice. My problem is I don't trust her yet, but I do really like her... Until I fully trust her, I will be still spinning plates. I got not problem committing, but I need to trust her first.
Here's a little background information. I don't know much about her because we only have 1 mutual friend. She's a really nice and caring person.. and has trouble saying no. I give her plenty of freedom which includes going to parties, drinking, smoking weed, etc. The only thing I don't want her doing is hanging out with guys alone, smoking cigarettes around me (she's a social smoker) and getting drunk to the point of doing something stupid or that she'll regret. She has an equal amount of guys and girl friends, and she's always texting on her phone (we text a lot everyday)... Lately it has gotten better because I have confronted her about it. She tells me a lot of things like when this one guy messaged her on twitter for her number and how this other guy was flirting with her. She also asks me permission to do things like drink, to go clubbing, to wear certain clothing to parties, etc. She admits to me having a slutty phase after she broke up with her ex boyfriend and things she's done at parties. She's also told me the situation with her dad and her family. She's only slept with 6 guys (I'm pretty sure this is accurate because she initially told me 2 before we were dating). She's always out either hanging out mostly hanging out with people and sometimes working.
So the other day, we were smoking weed and she just got a tongue ring... so naturally i want her to go down on me, but her tongue was still swollen, and I kept trying to convince her. Anyways, these words come out of her mouth: i already tried and it hurt. So right away, I confront her about it... She tells me she doesn't know why she said that and that it wasn't true and was apologetic. This is where I have a hard time believing her... I mean it's not just something you blurt out. It seems to me like she said it without thinking in her intoxicated state of mind and than realized what she had just said... This all happened at a time where she wasn't sure if we would work out because she didn't feel we were in an actual relationship - because I would go some days without talking to her.
Am I over thinking this guys? Thanks for the inputs !!
I just recently got into a relationship with this girl... I've been a long time lurker here (although haven't come to this site in months) and posted under different aliases. My game is pretty tight right now and have multiple plates on my hands.
I haven't been in a relationship in years so its an adjustment for me... and that's where you guys come in. I need some advice. My problem is I don't trust her yet, but I do really like her... Until I fully trust her, I will be still spinning plates. I got not problem committing, but I need to trust her first.
Here's a little background information. I don't know much about her because we only have 1 mutual friend. She's a really nice and caring person.. and has trouble saying no. I give her plenty of freedom which includes going to parties, drinking, smoking weed, etc. The only thing I don't want her doing is hanging out with guys alone, smoking cigarettes around me (she's a social smoker) and getting drunk to the point of doing something stupid or that she'll regret. She has an equal amount of guys and girl friends, and she's always texting on her phone (we text a lot everyday)... Lately it has gotten better because I have confronted her about it. She tells me a lot of things like when this one guy messaged her on twitter for her number and how this other guy was flirting with her. She also asks me permission to do things like drink, to go clubbing, to wear certain clothing to parties, etc. She admits to me having a slutty phase after she broke up with her ex boyfriend and things she's done at parties. She's also told me the situation with her dad and her family. She's only slept with 6 guys (I'm pretty sure this is accurate because she initially told me 2 before we were dating). She's always out either hanging out mostly hanging out with people and sometimes working.
So the other day, we were smoking weed and she just got a tongue ring... so naturally i want her to go down on me, but her tongue was still swollen, and I kept trying to convince her. Anyways, these words come out of her mouth: i already tried and it hurt. So right away, I confront her about it... She tells me she doesn't know why she said that and that it wasn't true and was apologetic. This is where I have a hard time believing her... I mean it's not just something you blurt out. It seems to me like she said it without thinking in her intoxicated state of mind and than realized what she had just said... This all happened at a time where she wasn't sure if we would work out because she didn't feel we were in an actual relationship - because I would go some days without talking to her.
Am I over thinking this guys? Thanks for the inputs !!