Luke Skywalker
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I have a long-distance relationship with a girl who is teaching in North Manitoba who is coming down here during the summer.
Basically, I can not support her because I'm lost in life and am living at home and just not established, and she doesn't have any job either. I'm in Real-Estate sales and haven't made a deal since December.
I do not want to inherit any more trouble in my life than I have to deal with myself.
She is Black and really has accentuated Black features (wide nose, thick lips, wide eyes) and speaks with a thick French accent and has a certain simple naivity about her that I believe people pick on her and give her a hard time. I like her expressions towards me don't feel anything strongly inside but feel something is slowly growing into me towards her although it has not taken up root yet.
She has studied extensively in University, but is unable to establish herself as a teacher with a permament job because she is Black. She ended up in North Manitoba because it was an Indian reserve and it would have been short-staffed if she didn't go there and she had no other options.
Now, they told her she has to go. The thing is, at this Reserve, 90% of teachers do not return back there because of the harsh winter. So, they are firing this only loyal teacher there and it happens she is the only Black teacher there. I told her to make a complaint to the Human Right's commission. She is planning to transfer to another place, but is unsure of getting placement. I get this sinking feeling inside my gut that I'm not sure if this can work out, especially if I'm not established myself in life and I can't even help her.
We had plans for this summer where she would be coming down and we would be going to various places to have fun together here in Toronto. Now, given the fact she may not be returning back or going away from Toronto at the end of the Summer, leads me to ask this important fact, what am I really doing, or what are my intentions with her? I had some certain comfort of knowing she would be going back away at the end of August.
I wanted to go places with her too, or didn't mind doing that, but after all of that is said and done, and that summer-fling is finished, and reality strikes, where is this really going?
This is another thread that was recently written here:
http://www.enotalone.com/forum/showthread.php?t=285476
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=160638
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=160286
I do not want to break-up with her or do anything like that while she is down like this now, and I don't know about having all these fun dates with her if I'm not totally settled inside about having a relationship with her and marriage -- as the above thread indicates I'm not settled at all.
So, rather than having two miserable people together with hard lives, it is therefore better to remain single, and look for someone who either can help me, or I can help them, or we can help each other, or it can't work? How should I approach this without being selfish?
Another thread is written on enotalone and copies on here for contrast.
Basically, I can not support her because I'm lost in life and am living at home and just not established, and she doesn't have any job either. I'm in Real-Estate sales and haven't made a deal since December.
I do not want to inherit any more trouble in my life than I have to deal with myself.
She is Black and really has accentuated Black features (wide nose, thick lips, wide eyes) and speaks with a thick French accent and has a certain simple naivity about her that I believe people pick on her and give her a hard time. I like her expressions towards me don't feel anything strongly inside but feel something is slowly growing into me towards her although it has not taken up root yet.
She has studied extensively in University, but is unable to establish herself as a teacher with a permament job because she is Black. She ended up in North Manitoba because it was an Indian reserve and it would have been short-staffed if she didn't go there and she had no other options.
Now, they told her she has to go. The thing is, at this Reserve, 90% of teachers do not return back there because of the harsh winter. So, they are firing this only loyal teacher there and it happens she is the only Black teacher there. I told her to make a complaint to the Human Right's commission. She is planning to transfer to another place, but is unsure of getting placement. I get this sinking feeling inside my gut that I'm not sure if this can work out, especially if I'm not established myself in life and I can't even help her.
We had plans for this summer where she would be coming down and we would be going to various places to have fun together here in Toronto. Now, given the fact she may not be returning back or going away from Toronto at the end of the Summer, leads me to ask this important fact, what am I really doing, or what are my intentions with her? I had some certain comfort of knowing she would be going back away at the end of August.
I wanted to go places with her too, or didn't mind doing that, but after all of that is said and done, and that summer-fling is finished, and reality strikes, where is this really going?
This is another thread that was recently written here:
http://www.enotalone.com/forum/showthread.php?t=285476
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=160638
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=160286
I do not want to break-up with her or do anything like that while she is down like this now, and I don't know about having all these fun dates with her if I'm not totally settled inside about having a relationship with her and marriage -- as the above thread indicates I'm not settled at all.
So, rather than having two miserable people together with hard lives, it is therefore better to remain single, and look for someone who either can help me, or I can help them, or we can help each other, or it can't work? How should I approach this without being selfish?
Another thread is written on enotalone and copies on here for contrast.