Shivastorm_88
Senior Don Juan
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She basically told me everything about our relationship is perfect, except two things.
One, I'm too agreeable
Two, I'm not emotionally present for her
On number one, it doesn't mean that I'm backbone-less. I have called her out when she did stuff I didn't like, and she has never done them again. In fact, she told me the time she felt most attracted to me (even though I made her cry) is when I told her never to double book me again, forcing to change plans. I also pretty much set the pace of our relationship, and take charge most of the time.
No, rather what she means by that is I don't challenge her ideas enough. This point is, for me, easily fixable. I love playing the devil's advocate. I don't know why I never did it with her, it's odd, but I love doing that. It's natural for me.
However, point number two is more of an issue. I simply do not open up to her. I have a very hard time opening up. She has tried in the past, and I have just (without realizing it) shut her out.
I care very much for this girl, and I want to keep her for the long haul. However, I am aware that with what I am giving her right now, long-term wise it isn't enough for her. She craves an emotional connection.
It isn't something that I don't want with my SO, I just seem to have a hard time doing it.
Ironically, SS has given me so much in the past, but I also think it has made me guard my emotions and feelings a bit too much.
Let's hear it guys, what do you suggest/think?
One, I'm too agreeable
Two, I'm not emotionally present for her
On number one, it doesn't mean that I'm backbone-less. I have called her out when she did stuff I didn't like, and she has never done them again. In fact, she told me the time she felt most attracted to me (even though I made her cry) is when I told her never to double book me again, forcing to change plans. I also pretty much set the pace of our relationship, and take charge most of the time.
No, rather what she means by that is I don't challenge her ideas enough. This point is, for me, easily fixable. I love playing the devil's advocate. I don't know why I never did it with her, it's odd, but I love doing that. It's natural for me.
However, point number two is more of an issue. I simply do not open up to her. I have a very hard time opening up. She has tried in the past, and I have just (without realizing it) shut her out.
I care very much for this girl, and I want to keep her for the long haul. However, I am aware that with what I am giving her right now, long-term wise it isn't enough for her. She craves an emotional connection.
It isn't something that I don't want with my SO, I just seem to have a hard time doing it.
Ironically, SS has given me so much in the past, but I also think it has made me guard my emotions and feelings a bit too much.
Let's hear it guys, what do you suggest/think?