If a girls tells you “I’m breaking up with you because…”
We’re different religions
Long distance isn’t going to work out
I have too much school work to do
I’m having family issues
I got this awesome dildo and I don’t think I’m going to need Men anymore
What she’s really saying is “My interest level in you is NOT high enough to overcome _______ ”
NEVER focus on specifics, it will only cloud your judgment and make it harder for you to make rational decisions. Nothing in a relationship matters besides a girls interest level, and the more you think in terms of ONLY interest level, the better choices you’ll make. Here’s an example,
Say your girlfriend breaks up with you because her parents don’t accept you. There’s two ways to view this
(a) Focus on the specific situation and try and solve it. Her parents don’t accept you so you kiss their asses. You Call her 20 times and say you’re sorry for who you are and that you love her and you want her back. You try and qualify yourself to her parents over and over again. She ends up feeling sympathy for you because of your desperate behavior. But simultaneously, your desperation and neediness kills ALL attraction she feels for you. Even if she attempts the relationship again with you, you’ll look so pathetic and lose so much power to her, she won’t respect you or see you as a dominant male. I am 100% positive almost EVERY guy can relate to this scenario.
(b) Focus on INTEREST level. It doesn’t matter why she broke up with you. You need to increase her INTEREST LEVEL, not try and solve some specific problem. So what increases a girls interest level? You try and move on and talk to other girls. You don’t call her, instead, you focus on your own life. This drives her crazy because she WANTS you to feel bad that you guys broke up. She WANTS you to be broken and apologize a thousand times but instead you refuse and accept that some things just aren’t meant to work out. Now it’s a win-win for you. Her interest level gets driven back up and she wants you back. OR, you’ve gotten over her and moved on so even if you DON’T get back together, you’re still able to maintain a positive mentality.
I only mention this scenario because one of my friends has recently been in this situation. He first saw his break up via outlook (a) which caused his girlfriend’s interest level to drop further and further and drove him almost insane with desperation and loss. It wasn’t until he shifted to seeing it in the other way that everything changed for him and he ended up having the option of either getting back with his girlfriend who came back crawling to him OR moving on to a different girl who I thought was a better option for him.
We’re different religions
Long distance isn’t going to work out
I have too much school work to do
I’m having family issues
I got this awesome dildo and I don’t think I’m going to need Men anymore
What she’s really saying is “My interest level in you is NOT high enough to overcome _______ ”
NEVER focus on specifics, it will only cloud your judgment and make it harder for you to make rational decisions. Nothing in a relationship matters besides a girls interest level, and the more you think in terms of ONLY interest level, the better choices you’ll make. Here’s an example,
Say your girlfriend breaks up with you because her parents don’t accept you. There’s two ways to view this
(a) Focus on the specific situation and try and solve it. Her parents don’t accept you so you kiss their asses. You Call her 20 times and say you’re sorry for who you are and that you love her and you want her back. You try and qualify yourself to her parents over and over again. She ends up feeling sympathy for you because of your desperate behavior. But simultaneously, your desperation and neediness kills ALL attraction she feels for you. Even if she attempts the relationship again with you, you’ll look so pathetic and lose so much power to her, she won’t respect you or see you as a dominant male. I am 100% positive almost EVERY guy can relate to this scenario.
(b) Focus on INTEREST level. It doesn’t matter why she broke up with you. You need to increase her INTEREST LEVEL, not try and solve some specific problem. So what increases a girls interest level? You try and move on and talk to other girls. You don’t call her, instead, you focus on your own life. This drives her crazy because she WANTS you to feel bad that you guys broke up. She WANTS you to be broken and apologize a thousand times but instead you refuse and accept that some things just aren’t meant to work out. Now it’s a win-win for you. Her interest level gets driven back up and she wants you back. OR, you’ve gotten over her and moved on so even if you DON’T get back together, you’re still able to maintain a positive mentality.
I only mention this scenario because one of my friends has recently been in this situation. He first saw his break up via outlook (a) which caused his girlfriend’s interest level to drop further and further and drove him almost insane with desperation and loss. It wasn’t until he shifted to seeing it in the other way that everything changed for him and he ended up having the option of either getting back with his girlfriend who came back crawling to him OR moving on to a different girl who I thought was a better option for him.