Guitar_Whizz
Master Don Juan
Ok guys, as many of you know, I've been getting into direct game lately. Well today I finally field tested a really direct opener - and I COMPLETELY crashed 'n' burned!
I went into town about 3pm and walked around for a bit. Not too much AA but wasn't too bothered about approaching as I had a few things to do in town....but then I decided I would DEFINITELY do at least one really direct approach, whatever the outcome, just to conquer the fear and to see what happened.
Anyway, around 4.30pm I went in McDonalds for a chicken wrap, and there were no sets (well every girl was way too young). Finally, just as I'd finished eating, in walked a decent (and legal!) 2 set, HB7s, and they sat at a table near me. I went to the toilets and then approached them as I was on my way out....well let's just say, this was a complete ****ing disaster!! Here is what happened:-
I walked over to their table. There were people on tables nearby who saw and heard everything I did/said, but I didn't let that bother me. I kept alpha body language, stood still, no figety movements, looked the girl I liked in the eyes and....
Me: (Looking at one of the girls) 'Excuse me....this might seem a bit random, but I was just walking past and I think you're incredibly cute...I just wanted to come over and meet you'.
Her: 'Ok'
At this point she had a completely disinterested vibe and had a blank expression on her face, and I could tell my opener had gone down like a lead balloon Sad There was a VERY awkard silence, so I said 'Are you friendly?' Her friend immediately ****blocked me with 'no'.
I then said 'Ok I thought you were kinda cute but I wondered if you were an interesting person'. My target and her friend just blanked me (they actually turned away) and my target went bright red in the face, so I said 'oh, you're blushing'. The target said 'I've got a boyfriend'. I could tell she was extremely uncomfortable and she did not know how to react.
I then sat down on an empty seat that was at their table, but as I did, the ****block said 'we don't know you' and they both immediately got up and moved to the next table! I was really taken aback by this and I felt very uncomfortable, so I ejected.
Wow, talk about a crash and burn! I'm glad I finally did a direct approach, but this did NOT go well. I've had a think about what went wrong and I've come to the conclusion that perhaps the way they reacted was just the way they were 'conditioned' to act on such a direct approach. Also, approaching a 2 set with this opener was not such a great idea - I think I'd be better opening a lone wolf with this opener.
Or maybe I just wasn't her type....oh well.
The thing is....I'm over the fear of approaching with direct openers, but now I have another fear. My other fear is the 'awkard vibe' that happens immediately after I've said my direct line. I mean, I'm really putting a girl on the spot with this opener, and it's almost as if they don't know how to react and they just say 'ok' in a kind of unsure, meek sort of way. I hate the feeling I have at this point in the sarge, and if the vibe at the beginning of the sarge is 'awkward' then it doesn't exactly set things off the right way....
I am going to field test this direct approach a good 20 or 30 more times in the daytime and see what the general reaction from girls is. If in general I'm getting bad reactions I may resort to situational, indirect methods (no canned routines though). I want to see if this direct approach works or not - my thought is that generally it'll generate a lot of rejections due to the girl's 'preconditioned' automatic response, but if enough approaches are done, will generate a few interested girls.
Finally, I will say that even though I crashed and burned, I got a HUGE thrill from doing such a direct approach. I felt HORRIBLE when I got such a point blank response though!
I went into town about 3pm and walked around for a bit. Not too much AA but wasn't too bothered about approaching as I had a few things to do in town....but then I decided I would DEFINITELY do at least one really direct approach, whatever the outcome, just to conquer the fear and to see what happened.
Anyway, around 4.30pm I went in McDonalds for a chicken wrap, and there were no sets (well every girl was way too young). Finally, just as I'd finished eating, in walked a decent (and legal!) 2 set, HB7s, and they sat at a table near me. I went to the toilets and then approached them as I was on my way out....well let's just say, this was a complete ****ing disaster!! Here is what happened:-
I walked over to their table. There were people on tables nearby who saw and heard everything I did/said, but I didn't let that bother me. I kept alpha body language, stood still, no figety movements, looked the girl I liked in the eyes and....
Me: (Looking at one of the girls) 'Excuse me....this might seem a bit random, but I was just walking past and I think you're incredibly cute...I just wanted to come over and meet you'.
Her: 'Ok'
At this point she had a completely disinterested vibe and had a blank expression on her face, and I could tell my opener had gone down like a lead balloon Sad There was a VERY awkard silence, so I said 'Are you friendly?' Her friend immediately ****blocked me with 'no'.
I then said 'Ok I thought you were kinda cute but I wondered if you were an interesting person'. My target and her friend just blanked me (they actually turned away) and my target went bright red in the face, so I said 'oh, you're blushing'. The target said 'I've got a boyfriend'. I could tell she was extremely uncomfortable and she did not know how to react.
I then sat down on an empty seat that was at their table, but as I did, the ****block said 'we don't know you' and they both immediately got up and moved to the next table! I was really taken aback by this and I felt very uncomfortable, so I ejected.
Wow, talk about a crash and burn! I'm glad I finally did a direct approach, but this did NOT go well. I've had a think about what went wrong and I've come to the conclusion that perhaps the way they reacted was just the way they were 'conditioned' to act on such a direct approach. Also, approaching a 2 set with this opener was not such a great idea - I think I'd be better opening a lone wolf with this opener.
Or maybe I just wasn't her type....oh well.
The thing is....I'm over the fear of approaching with direct openers, but now I have another fear. My other fear is the 'awkard vibe' that happens immediately after I've said my direct line. I mean, I'm really putting a girl on the spot with this opener, and it's almost as if they don't know how to react and they just say 'ok' in a kind of unsure, meek sort of way. I hate the feeling I have at this point in the sarge, and if the vibe at the beginning of the sarge is 'awkward' then it doesn't exactly set things off the right way....
I am going to field test this direct approach a good 20 or 30 more times in the daytime and see what the general reaction from girls is. If in general I'm getting bad reactions I may resort to situational, indirect methods (no canned routines though). I want to see if this direct approach works or not - my thought is that generally it'll generate a lot of rejections due to the girl's 'preconditioned' automatic response, but if enough approaches are done, will generate a few interested girls.
Finally, I will say that even though I crashed and burned, I got a HUGE thrill from doing such a direct approach. I felt HORRIBLE when I got such a point blank response though!
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