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Don Juan
Hey guys,
I am trying to overcome a ton of hurdles in regards to picking up. I really need some advice to turn these negatives into positives. I am enduring a huge moment of weakness. Like for the whole past month.
Here are my stumbling blocks:
1.)There just aren't enough places where I live to meet girls. I have the beach ( I can't swim) the one danceclub ( I don't dance and I hate the music) and one sports bar ( I hate sports). I also have grocery stores, libraries and the like, but I don't often have a reason to go to these places if I'm not shopping. And should a 33 year old really still be approaching girls in stores and malls? Last phone number I got was from a 19 year old. Turns out her dad is 35 and I actually know him from high school. Awkward.
2.) When I go to places and approach women they often STILL don't give me their numbers despite me having done a number of things recommended on this site such as workout, watching my body language, quitting smoking and dressing better while at the same time working on my speech and my topics of conversation.
3.) Alot of the girls my age are either single moms or have issues. They don't go out as much as the younger ones either. The ones younger than me (specifically 25 and under) seem to have sh!tty personalities. Y-generation girls are kind of self-centered, arrogant (even the ugly ones) and immature and I can't NOT tell them off when they are being self-righteous. The only problem with that is that in my town, everyone knows everyone and so once I tell one b!tch off they all hear about it.
4.)I'm like a woman-repellant it seems. Everyone tells me to stop going after "hot girls". It's like they are trying to tell me the hot ones are out of my league. My own sister tells me to go for fat girls or less attractive girls because they would be easier for me..."at least then you'd have a chance" she says. My brother said the same thing, basically that I am setting myself up for disappointment. Often, I find that he is right.
5.) I'm a "rock" guy mostly. I hate rap, I hate the whole "cookie-cutter" crowd: people wearing the token Abercrombie and Fitch, American Eagle clothes or Polo shirts, drinking lite beers and listening to the typical "radio rock" and basically all trying to clone each other....I don't like this crowd. They don't like me. Never have. Alot of the advice I have read in terms of dating is to become part of this whole crowd in order to gain women. I hate these people, in Canada they are referred to as Jocks or Preps and THEY are the ones who get girls. Simply by becoming like everyone else around them...
...So as you can see I need some genuine advice. Maybe I am just overthinking everything.
Its weird though because in March and April, I let my friends dress me up in American Eagle clothes, hat sideways and all, and I went out to a bunch of clubs and I was able to score a few numbers. This month and last, when I went back to my normal clothes and went out, its been pure rejections. Do I really have to conform in order to pick up quality women? Or should I just be myself and stick to the fat ones because they are easier? I suck at this dj game.
When I was being fake I posted on how succesful I was doing but now that I am back to who I really am I am not getting anywhere...
I am trying to overcome a ton of hurdles in regards to picking up. I really need some advice to turn these negatives into positives. I am enduring a huge moment of weakness. Like for the whole past month.
Here are my stumbling blocks:
1.)There just aren't enough places where I live to meet girls. I have the beach ( I can't swim) the one danceclub ( I don't dance and I hate the music) and one sports bar ( I hate sports). I also have grocery stores, libraries and the like, but I don't often have a reason to go to these places if I'm not shopping. And should a 33 year old really still be approaching girls in stores and malls? Last phone number I got was from a 19 year old. Turns out her dad is 35 and I actually know him from high school. Awkward.
2.) When I go to places and approach women they often STILL don't give me their numbers despite me having done a number of things recommended on this site such as workout, watching my body language, quitting smoking and dressing better while at the same time working on my speech and my topics of conversation.
3.) Alot of the girls my age are either single moms or have issues. They don't go out as much as the younger ones either. The ones younger than me (specifically 25 and under) seem to have sh!tty personalities. Y-generation girls are kind of self-centered, arrogant (even the ugly ones) and immature and I can't NOT tell them off when they are being self-righteous. The only problem with that is that in my town, everyone knows everyone and so once I tell one b!tch off they all hear about it.
4.)I'm like a woman-repellant it seems. Everyone tells me to stop going after "hot girls". It's like they are trying to tell me the hot ones are out of my league. My own sister tells me to go for fat girls or less attractive girls because they would be easier for me..."at least then you'd have a chance" she says. My brother said the same thing, basically that I am setting myself up for disappointment. Often, I find that he is right.
5.) I'm a "rock" guy mostly. I hate rap, I hate the whole "cookie-cutter" crowd: people wearing the token Abercrombie and Fitch, American Eagle clothes or Polo shirts, drinking lite beers and listening to the typical "radio rock" and basically all trying to clone each other....I don't like this crowd. They don't like me. Never have. Alot of the advice I have read in terms of dating is to become part of this whole crowd in order to gain women. I hate these people, in Canada they are referred to as Jocks or Preps and THEY are the ones who get girls. Simply by becoming like everyone else around them...
...So as you can see I need some genuine advice. Maybe I am just overthinking everything.
Its weird though because in March and April, I let my friends dress me up in American Eagle clothes, hat sideways and all, and I went out to a bunch of clubs and I was able to score a few numbers. This month and last, when I went back to my normal clothes and went out, its been pure rejections. Do I really have to conform in order to pick up quality women? Or should I just be myself and stick to the fat ones because they are easier? I suck at this dj game.
When I was being fake I posted on how succesful I was doing but now that I am back to who I really am I am not getting anywhere...