Phoenix_of_the_ashes
Master Don Juan
Hi, Id like some input on this situation, Ive been thinking about it but I cant seem to get my mind around it.
Theres a chick that Ive known for around three years. I got to know her at university and I always had the feeling that she was somewhat attracted to me. I however was in a relationship at this time and I pretty much have been keeping to myself and my studies these last years anyway, so my contact to this chick remained restricted to small talk.
After one year I decided to switch my major, so for a pretty long time I only would rarely see this chick. I always still had the feeling though that she was attracted because in those rare instances in which we did coincidentally meet she would really go out of her way to come towards me and chat. Of course I never pursued, I was still in my relationship.
Around a year ago i ended my relationship. Ive started to work in a lab so I also switched the library in which I normally do my studying everyday, which also happens to be the same one that this chick frequents. We sort of restarted the contact between each other, actually she did. I was studying and she walked up to me and said 'hi', I had noticed her but I thought she had forgotten about me after so long.
So in the last few weeks we have been talking more and I asked her for her messenger adress(messenger seems to be the main medium for primary communication these days). She tells me that she doesnt have internet at the moment because she had just moved, but she still writes down her messenger, email and her phone number on a piece of paper which she hands me. Again I see this as a good sign, she seems to take the initiative, she could have just given me the messenger and told me to wait until she gets internet.
I wait a few days and on Thursday I send her a message, i ask her how her studys are going and if she wants to have lunch on Saturday. She answers me that she is happy I sent her a message, but she regrets that during the weekend she will be visiting her family. This is genuine, its not an excuse, Italian students often visit their familys on the weekends and I have seen her with her suitcase.
I waited another week and on the next Friday I send her a message if she wants to maybe go see a movie on Sunday. She answers me that she would love to, she told me she would return from her family around 7, we could meet after that. On saturday we talk over messenger(she is with her family) and we try to decide which movie to watch. All the movies sucked, so we decide just to have a drink somewhere. Later on she says that instead of meeting sunday it might be better to just have a drink after studying on monday. I agreed.
On monday she then sends me a message in which she tells me that she has to go home between 5 and 8 pm because there is a public transportation strike(this is also true, ****ing country this is). After work that day I went to the library, she was actually just getting ready to leave. I suggested we have a coffee, which we did. We talked for around 45 minutes, then I told her I still have to go study a bit, so we parted ways.
Later that night I sent her a message that I enjoyed talking with her. Yeah call me a chump. She answered, she said she also enjoyed it and well see each other tomorrow. I havnt seen her during the entire last week and I wont be seeing her for the first three days of this next week either because I have to stay home.
It seems to me that she isnt interested in me. It seems wierd though because she always seemed pretty enthusiastic when I say her. It would also seem as if she sort of torpedoed our date, but then again the problems which caused that were actually real, so it makes it hard for me to decide what to think.
The bottom line though would seem that if she were actually interested she would make the next move. Ive tried to organize two dates now and they both failed, I would feel like an idiot asking her out again.
I would just like some input from you guys about how to interpret the situation and if you have any ideas about what I should do.
Theres a chick that Ive known for around three years. I got to know her at university and I always had the feeling that she was somewhat attracted to me. I however was in a relationship at this time and I pretty much have been keeping to myself and my studies these last years anyway, so my contact to this chick remained restricted to small talk.
After one year I decided to switch my major, so for a pretty long time I only would rarely see this chick. I always still had the feeling though that she was attracted because in those rare instances in which we did coincidentally meet she would really go out of her way to come towards me and chat. Of course I never pursued, I was still in my relationship.
Around a year ago i ended my relationship. Ive started to work in a lab so I also switched the library in which I normally do my studying everyday, which also happens to be the same one that this chick frequents. We sort of restarted the contact between each other, actually she did. I was studying and she walked up to me and said 'hi', I had noticed her but I thought she had forgotten about me after so long.
So in the last few weeks we have been talking more and I asked her for her messenger adress(messenger seems to be the main medium for primary communication these days). She tells me that she doesnt have internet at the moment because she had just moved, but she still writes down her messenger, email and her phone number on a piece of paper which she hands me. Again I see this as a good sign, she seems to take the initiative, she could have just given me the messenger and told me to wait until she gets internet.
I wait a few days and on Thursday I send her a message, i ask her how her studys are going and if she wants to have lunch on Saturday. She answers me that she is happy I sent her a message, but she regrets that during the weekend she will be visiting her family. This is genuine, its not an excuse, Italian students often visit their familys on the weekends and I have seen her with her suitcase.
I waited another week and on the next Friday I send her a message if she wants to maybe go see a movie on Sunday. She answers me that she would love to, she told me she would return from her family around 7, we could meet after that. On saturday we talk over messenger(she is with her family) and we try to decide which movie to watch. All the movies sucked, so we decide just to have a drink somewhere. Later on she says that instead of meeting sunday it might be better to just have a drink after studying on monday. I agreed.
On monday she then sends me a message in which she tells me that she has to go home between 5 and 8 pm because there is a public transportation strike(this is also true, ****ing country this is). After work that day I went to the library, she was actually just getting ready to leave. I suggested we have a coffee, which we did. We talked for around 45 minutes, then I told her I still have to go study a bit, so we parted ways.
Later that night I sent her a message that I enjoyed talking with her. Yeah call me a chump. She answered, she said she also enjoyed it and well see each other tomorrow. I havnt seen her during the entire last week and I wont be seeing her for the first three days of this next week either because I have to stay home.
It seems to me that she isnt interested in me. It seems wierd though because she always seemed pretty enthusiastic when I say her. It would also seem as if she sort of torpedoed our date, but then again the problems which caused that were actually real, so it makes it hard for me to decide what to think.
The bottom line though would seem that if she were actually interested she would make the next move. Ive tried to organize two dates now and they both failed, I would feel like an idiot asking her out again.
I would just like some input from you guys about how to interpret the situation and if you have any ideas about what I should do.
