I completely agree. as a matter of fact, i would be SHOCKED if this wasnt the case.
but you and joe are forgetting the most important thing...
IF this is all it takes for her to cheat, lie, whatever, then so be it.
he plants little seeds in her head and she runs for the hills? Why is this my problem?
i think i thought this way for a long time, but her being a bartender i realized awhile ago that it is a waste of my time to concern myself with what people say, do, or act in regards to any gf of mine. i have NO CONTROL over what ppl say to her, plant in her head, or in this case...GIVE HER.
For example:
a guy walks into the bar. charming, good looking, money. hes a doctor. he sees my gf and starts throwing comments at her, blah blah blah. asks about me and belittles my career, my suitability, blah blah.
how do i prevent this? i cant. its not for me to prevent. if thiis is all it takes for her to move on, then she did me a favor. i dont want to waste my time on someone like this.
now.. she may find this "doctor" attractive, she may like the fact he provides financial wealth and can give her whatever she wants and desires. She likes the way he dresses, she thinks he smells wonderful
then she starts to think, my bf doesnt look THAT good in his suit. he isnt making THAT kindve money.
..but at the end of the day, he is not ME. and if she or any gf loses sight of that and cheats, then I AM the one who benefits.
