Rollo Tomassi
Master Don Juan
I thought I'd relate a story about my nephew here since it seems like it may help someone else considering this in the same situation.
Last May I attended the graduation ceremony of my 21 year old nephew Martin. He's my sister-in-law's son and everyone flew into town to see him graduate. I like the guy, a lot and after his father died I tried to relate to him as a man a bit more since he's entering an age where he needs masculine guidance in a bad way. Martin had a girlfriend named Rachel.
After meeting Rachel and seeing how the two interacted socially I could tell that it was a bit of a one-sided relationship. He needed her more than she needed him and this was apparent to me. Martin had a well paying job lined up and so did Rachel. Martin was (and is) very independent in most other areas of his life, but women isn't one of them.
At the graduation party Martin's grandparents, aunts and uncles (and his mother's new boyfriend), including my wife all covertly talked about them getting married and what a lovely girl she was and what a perfect match they were. I was the lone voice in the wilderness in all of this and told my wife, "They'll be broken up before the end of the year." Suddenly I'm an asswhole for being the prophet of doom. "How could you say something like that?" I was repeatedly asked. Boy was she pisssed, but I could see in her body language, mannerisms and what she talked about that Rachel wasn't interested in settling down any time soon. In fact I got the distinct impression that she would soon be splitting up with my nephew.
But I was vilified for even thinking this. "Things aren't always what you think they are mister. You don't know everything, stop over-analyizing this and let love take it's course."
Yesterday, my wife informed me that her mother called to say that Martin had proposed to Rachel and she turned him down. They are apparently splitting up as of this week. And like a good husband I kept my "told you so's" to myself and the wife pretended like I'd never said it would happen, but actually I was glad that this had finally happened because now I have the liberty to tell Martin what I've wanted to for almost a year, that he is an AFC and he needs to get back on track.
Martins is a good looking guy, he has good prospects and a good job and a lot of ambition, thank God Rachel had the foresight and strength to put him off under the pressure I'm sure her parents and Martins family have no doubt implied for quite some time now.
Just something to think about.
Last May I attended the graduation ceremony of my 21 year old nephew Martin. He's my sister-in-law's son and everyone flew into town to see him graduate. I like the guy, a lot and after his father died I tried to relate to him as a man a bit more since he's entering an age where he needs masculine guidance in a bad way. Martin had a girlfriend named Rachel.
After meeting Rachel and seeing how the two interacted socially I could tell that it was a bit of a one-sided relationship. He needed her more than she needed him and this was apparent to me. Martin had a well paying job lined up and so did Rachel. Martin was (and is) very independent in most other areas of his life, but women isn't one of them.
At the graduation party Martin's grandparents, aunts and uncles (and his mother's new boyfriend), including my wife all covertly talked about them getting married and what a lovely girl she was and what a perfect match they were. I was the lone voice in the wilderness in all of this and told my wife, "They'll be broken up before the end of the year." Suddenly I'm an asswhole for being the prophet of doom. "How could you say something like that?" I was repeatedly asked. Boy was she pisssed, but I could see in her body language, mannerisms and what she talked about that Rachel wasn't interested in settling down any time soon. In fact I got the distinct impression that she would soon be splitting up with my nephew.
But I was vilified for even thinking this. "Things aren't always what you think they are mister. You don't know everything, stop over-analyizing this and let love take it's course."
Yesterday, my wife informed me that her mother called to say that Martin had proposed to Rachel and she turned him down. They are apparently splitting up as of this week. And like a good husband I kept my "told you so's" to myself and the wife pretended like I'd never said it would happen, but actually I was glad that this had finally happened because now I have the liberty to tell Martin what I've wanted to for almost a year, that he is an AFC and he needs to get back on track.
Martins is a good looking guy, he has good prospects and a good job and a lot of ambition, thank God Rachel had the foresight and strength to put him off under the pressure I'm sure her parents and Martins family have no doubt implied for quite some time now.
Just something to think about.
