LostAndConfused
Master Don Juan
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Well I know I'm in a unique situation with this but....dämn. If anyone can help, I'd be surprised (and thankful!)
How am I supposed to improve as a DJ if there are no girls to game? At my high school, there are fairly attractive women, but there are NONE who are worth me spending the effort to go up to and start a conversation...plus I'm seen as a loner with alot of friends...by this I mean I haven't gotten stuck into a specific social circle like everyone... that unfortunately also means that I don't get too attached to anyone but I am pretty much acquaintances at least with everyone in the school so I can easily find someone to "chill" with. The HB7+ girls have personalities so bad that even if you can find something of common interest (which is nearly impossible...they only watch football), you won't stand a chance anyways unless you play football, or have found your way into their circle. The HB5-6s are all weird...eccentric, annoying, or just depressing to talk to.
Plus, I have a bad rep for being a major sexist at my school who doesn't give a s*** about women.
But I do have alot of friends, and MANY of my older friends tell me stuff like, "Dude, the girls are going to be ALL OVER YOU just wait until college" "Just wait until college" "just you wait man, you'll get so much pu$$y in college," "Man, you'll be the biggest player in your whole college so don't worry!"
See theres two problem with waiting until I graduate to just "burst out" and become a DJ at whatever college I plan on going to.
1.) I'll be behind in the game. Now my experience here has told me what to do around women. I'm fairly good at talking to women now, thanks to you guys. But what is that experience when you've never tried it out? I'll end up depressing myself in college because the only classy girls I could get are like HB5. But I feel that personally I'd lack the social skills to step it up when I move on out of HS. When I actually WOULD get into a close interaction with a girl (and of course its gonna happen), I would totally mess up from lack of experience. Girls would see through any facade I put up as an innocent little boy. I'd have to rely on getting girls drunk, which takes out all the fun in being a DJ and at that point, you might as well just get a f***ing hooker.
2.) I don't really know if I can take waiting any longer to finally start hitting on women. Every wasted month makes me less confident, and reading Pook and other enlightened user's articles will only work for so long until I subconsciously realize that since I haven't been putting them into motion, they are of no point, and my confidence falls drastically because of this. Even reflecting internally on my own skills will be invain
.
Now I DO go out, the problem is I either go out with such a large group of guys that pickups are impossible. If I were to leave them to talk to a girl, the girl would obviously see 5+ other guys watching our interaction, and it would make us both feel awkward. Yes, I see girls eyeing me while their boyfriends are holding them in his arm, yes, I see the girls in their groups checking me out, but I'm not into the PUA sh1t. I can't see myself being like Strauss or Mystery and walking over to a huge group and wasting my time showing fücking magic tricks entertaining them for god knows how long until I isolate the hot babe...if that even works. HOWEVER, I CAN see myself DJing that lone wolf, or maybe with a friend who also DJs picking up a set of 2+ girls. The problem? Whenever I'm with a smaller group, we've got parents along with us. My parents are always interested in doing whatever the hell I want to do, whether its go see a movie with a small group of friends or go to the mall to "chill" (i.e. sarge), and there is no greater c*ckblock than having your mum right next to you. Lame.
I'm not really into the "practice" deal (That some of my natural DJ friends do) with HB5's and lower at my school because they're the type who will either think I'm joking when I hit on them or they take it really seriously and get too interested in me. Plus, when I don't have the initial attraction I subconsciously stop even caring to talk to that woman. My body automatically puts up a "do not want" mechanism that raises my standards too high to even consider boning such a girl. I don't know how to lower my standards, mainly because I feel like I CAN pick up that HB7 or HB8. Just haven't had the opportunity.......
How am I supposed to improve as a DJ if there are no girls to game? At my high school, there are fairly attractive women, but there are NONE who are worth me spending the effort to go up to and start a conversation...plus I'm seen as a loner with alot of friends...by this I mean I haven't gotten stuck into a specific social circle like everyone... that unfortunately also means that I don't get too attached to anyone but I am pretty much acquaintances at least with everyone in the school so I can easily find someone to "chill" with. The HB7+ girls have personalities so bad that even if you can find something of common interest (which is nearly impossible...they only watch football), you won't stand a chance anyways unless you play football, or have found your way into their circle. The HB5-6s are all weird...eccentric, annoying, or just depressing to talk to.
Plus, I have a bad rep for being a major sexist at my school who doesn't give a s*** about women.
But I do have alot of friends, and MANY of my older friends tell me stuff like, "Dude, the girls are going to be ALL OVER YOU just wait until college" "Just wait until college" "just you wait man, you'll get so much pu$$y in college," "Man, you'll be the biggest player in your whole college so don't worry!"
See theres two problem with waiting until I graduate to just "burst out" and become a DJ at whatever college I plan on going to.
1.) I'll be behind in the game. Now my experience here has told me what to do around women. I'm fairly good at talking to women now, thanks to you guys. But what is that experience when you've never tried it out? I'll end up depressing myself in college because the only classy girls I could get are like HB5. But I feel that personally I'd lack the social skills to step it up when I move on out of HS. When I actually WOULD get into a close interaction with a girl (and of course its gonna happen), I would totally mess up from lack of experience. Girls would see through any facade I put up as an innocent little boy. I'd have to rely on getting girls drunk, which takes out all the fun in being a DJ and at that point, you might as well just get a f***ing hooker.
2.) I don't really know if I can take waiting any longer to finally start hitting on women. Every wasted month makes me less confident, and reading Pook and other enlightened user's articles will only work for so long until I subconsciously realize that since I haven't been putting them into motion, they are of no point, and my confidence falls drastically because of this. Even reflecting internally on my own skills will be invain
.Now I DO go out, the problem is I either go out with such a large group of guys that pickups are impossible. If I were to leave them to talk to a girl, the girl would obviously see 5+ other guys watching our interaction, and it would make us both feel awkward. Yes, I see girls eyeing me while their boyfriends are holding them in his arm, yes, I see the girls in their groups checking me out, but I'm not into the PUA sh1t. I can't see myself being like Strauss or Mystery and walking over to a huge group and wasting my time showing fücking magic tricks entertaining them for god knows how long until I isolate the hot babe...if that even works. HOWEVER, I CAN see myself DJing that lone wolf, or maybe with a friend who also DJs picking up a set of 2+ girls. The problem? Whenever I'm with a smaller group, we've got parents along with us. My parents are always interested in doing whatever the hell I want to do, whether its go see a movie with a small group of friends or go to the mall to "chill" (i.e. sarge), and there is no greater c*ckblock than having your mum right next to you. Lame.
I'm not really into the "practice" deal (That some of my natural DJ friends do) with HB5's and lower at my school because they're the type who will either think I'm joking when I hit on them or they take it really seriously and get too interested in me. Plus, when I don't have the initial attraction I subconsciously stop even caring to talk to that woman. My body automatically puts up a "do not want" mechanism that raises my standards too high to even consider boning such a girl. I don't know how to lower my standards, mainly because I feel like I CAN pick up that HB7 or HB8. Just haven't had the opportunity.......
