Hey guys, new to the forum, but not the process. I've been doing a lot of thinking lately, and I've decided that I will dedicate a better portion of my free time to this new hobby of mine, becoming a PUA. I am not doing this because of my immediate need to hump things frat-boy like, I am doing it because I want that self-confidence, that feeling you get when you really make a connection, and I want those positive vibes to filter into other areas of my life. BTW if anyone has any solid e-books on approach and trust building, I'd love to see them.
I honestly believe that life is a series of moments and you have to create those moments to be happy.
I made myself approach 6 different girls today, and I talked to two in the coffee shop, 1 at target, and 3 in the mall. One of them stood out and this is what happened -
I was browsing for dress shirts (can never have enough of those..) and this very cute Latina with black eyeshadow wearing a miniskirt asked me if I needed help. Now, things are much easier to assess here, sitting within the confines of my living room, then as they unfold, but I'll try my best. I fully understand that she was getting paid to help me, but I was the only person in the section of the department store and she came over to me 4 times in 10 minutes.
I could tell there was some attraction there as she made eye contact, smiled a lot, and started asking me questions not pertaining whatsoever to clothing. She even hinted as to her whereabouts during the week (she dropped that she goes to happy hour on Wednesday evenings).
Now, I am not going to be hard on myself, as it is day 1 and the 5+ approaches alone were enough for me to get my feet wet, but this is something I feel that we as a community can use.
She had a tattoo on her left wrist, and I asked her about it (So, what's the story behind that?). Tattoos almost always have a story behind them. She commented fluff back, but the killer line I thought up on the ride home (it's always later.. always damnit!) was: "I'd like to hear more about your other tattoo (she had a small one on her upper left arm too), but now's not the time. I know you probably get hit on all the time being super cute and all [said while smiling/laughing], but I'm not going to ask you for your number, instead I'm going to give you mine, and the next time you are going to happy hour send me a text and I will meet you for 1 drink for 20 minutes. All I can promise you is good conversation".
That would have been ideal, but that did not happen. I ended up chickening out, but at least the wheels are spinning and I am seeing progress. I think by the end of 3 months (I set myself a goal that I'd approach women everyday for 3 months...), I think that I will be very happy with my success.
Thoughts?
I honestly believe that life is a series of moments and you have to create those moments to be happy.
I made myself approach 6 different girls today, and I talked to two in the coffee shop, 1 at target, and 3 in the mall. One of them stood out and this is what happened -
I was browsing for dress shirts (can never have enough of those..) and this very cute Latina with black eyeshadow wearing a miniskirt asked me if I needed help. Now, things are much easier to assess here, sitting within the confines of my living room, then as they unfold, but I'll try my best. I fully understand that she was getting paid to help me, but I was the only person in the section of the department store and she came over to me 4 times in 10 minutes.
I could tell there was some attraction there as she made eye contact, smiled a lot, and started asking me questions not pertaining whatsoever to clothing. She even hinted as to her whereabouts during the week (she dropped that she goes to happy hour on Wednesday evenings).
Now, I am not going to be hard on myself, as it is day 1 and the 5+ approaches alone were enough for me to get my feet wet, but this is something I feel that we as a community can use.
She had a tattoo on her left wrist, and I asked her about it (So, what's the story behind that?). Tattoos almost always have a story behind them. She commented fluff back, but the killer line I thought up on the ride home (it's always later.. always damnit!) was: "I'd like to hear more about your other tattoo (she had a small one on her upper left arm too), but now's not the time. I know you probably get hit on all the time being super cute and all [said while smiling/laughing], but I'm not going to ask you for your number, instead I'm going to give you mine, and the next time you are going to happy hour send me a text and I will meet you for 1 drink for 20 minutes. All I can promise you is good conversation".
That would have been ideal, but that did not happen. I ended up chickening out, but at least the wheels are spinning and I am seeing progress. I think by the end of 3 months (I set myself a goal that I'd approach women everyday for 3 months...), I think that I will be very happy with my success.
Thoughts?
