Let me ask some of you who have had multiple long term relationships (I have only had one) what you find most common in making the relationship work. After some meditating on the issue in the past, and seeing some other person post about LTR, and I am curious.
I think for me, I was and continued to be alpha in my relationship. I didn't know any other way to be. I wasn't a prick, but I also never let a woman walk over me, ever.. I would stand for what I believe in, and took control of the situation, and the ex-wife used to say she loved it. But then she would also contradict herself and say that she was not used to having a man in such control because all the men in her family were hyper-beta men who let the women walk all over them, and I mean in a bad way. I think these guys eventually grew vaginas. She also seemed to have a longing for a bit of that emasculated man. And no, I am not thinking about ex-wife, she's a cheating whoor, just the relationship in general and how to improve the next one.
Anyhow, what kind of balance do you guys strike? I know I can't become a little beta man in a relationship, it is not in me to do so. I could not fake that. I just remember growing up and seeing my father as a mega-alph male, lol. He was a big dude, 250 lbs. german who was not fat, had an 80's mustache, smoked cigarettes, a cool - calm confident type. And the only thing I could ever think is I would get a slap in my face from my father and he would turn in his grave if I acted any way but the way I am :trouble: . That is not something I could change, it's not who I am, so perhaps I wasn't cut out for LTR? Any thoughts and experience from the older Don Juan's on this.
I think for me, I was and continued to be alpha in my relationship. I didn't know any other way to be. I wasn't a prick, but I also never let a woman walk over me, ever.. I would stand for what I believe in, and took control of the situation, and the ex-wife used to say she loved it. But then she would also contradict herself and say that she was not used to having a man in such control because all the men in her family were hyper-beta men who let the women walk all over them, and I mean in a bad way. I think these guys eventually grew vaginas. She also seemed to have a longing for a bit of that emasculated man. And no, I am not thinking about ex-wife, she's a cheating whoor, just the relationship in general and how to improve the next one.
Anyhow, what kind of balance do you guys strike? I know I can't become a little beta man in a relationship, it is not in me to do so. I could not fake that. I just remember growing up and seeing my father as a mega-alph male, lol. He was a big dude, 250 lbs. german who was not fat, had an 80's mustache, smoked cigarettes, a cool - calm confident type. And the only thing I could ever think is I would get a slap in my face from my father and he would turn in his grave if I acted any way but the way I am :trouble: . That is not something I could change, it's not who I am, so perhaps I wasn't cut out for LTR? Any thoughts and experience from the older Don Juan's on this.
