"long distance" relationship - did I mess up yet?

[jwei44]

Awwwwww! You're adorable sweets.

So you play guitar.. Better play me something if we meet.. =)
pretty please?

My day was pretty crappy at the start. But you totally made me feel better after i saw your pics. You are so adorable. I bet you would loook amazing with spiked hairrr.

How was your dayy?


xoxo

~Christine

I'm on the righttt.  I hope i don't look too bad.. :x


-----Original Message-----
From: Jonathan Wei <jonathanwei88@yahoo.com
Sent: Sun, Jan 3, 2010 8:20 pm
Subject: Re: Heyy...

Hello Christine,

Well, I'm from The Bay. Fremont, CA to be exact. I don't have a job, but I plan on applying to Taco Bell. LOL. And I will try to talk as much as I can during school. I got honors and stuff so It's pretty hectic. But I'll think of you and talk as much as possible.  

So how was your day?

Yours trulyy
Jwei
--- On Sun, 1/3/10, she wrote:

From:her
Subject: Re: Heyy...
To: jonathanwei88@yahoo.com
Date: Sunday, January 3, 2010, 8:03 PM
 
She wrote

Heyyy Jwei =)  I went out to the city with my friends and family todayyyy. I love Frisco.

1. My name is Christine Dunn.
2. I'm from Cupertino, CA. you?
3. I have worked for about 6 months. Since summer.
4. My real birthday is February 13, 1992
5. I will be. You?
6. I would say Thanks! And i love talking to you too.. :]

Hope to ttyl then.
P.S.: *smiles*

xoxo~Christine


-----Original Message-----
From: Jonathan Wei 
Sent: Sun, Jan 3, 2010 10:37 am
Subject: Re: Heyy...

Hey. Sorry if this is too much but Yahoo's being really stupid right now. I'm not sure if my messages got through. lol

But could I ask you a few questions? I'll answer some if you'd like...

1. My full name is Jonathan Wei. How about you?
2. Where are you from?
3. How long have you worked?
4. When is your actual birthday?
5. Will you still be able to talk when you start school?
6. What would you say if I said I enjoyed talking to you?

Thanks Christine. I'm starting to think we were meant to meet. Like I don't think friends like you come by everyday

P.S. I still can't get over the fact I met someone like you over Omegle. It's amazing 

She wrote....

Why pills?!?! =(...

Wow. you woke up when i was on my lunch break.. You lucky ducky.... =)

I try to work as much as I can. my boss is really really nice and he lets me work whenever i can. so i don't really have a set schedule. i come and go whenever i want. as long as i work for at least 2 hours per time.

:x. i am still a virgin..


-----Original Message-----
From: Jonathan Wei 
Sent: Sat, Jan 2, 2010 8:48 pm
Subject: Re: Heyy...

I actually had to take some pills. Two sleeping caps. :O. But it was great. Woke up at like 3:30. Lol. What days you work though? And about that abortion story. Wasthat true? :X. Lastly, what's up?

Sent from my iPod

On Jan 2, 2010, at 8:44 PM, she wrote

I had reallly good sleep last nightt =)

i slept like a baby?
did you sleep okayyy?

My day was awesome.. I went to work for half a day today. I thought about you and i smiled. *smiles*

Jwei... hehe.

~Christine


-----Original Message-----
From: Jonathan Wei 
Sent: Sat, Jan 2, 2010 3:45 pm
Subject: Re: Heyy...

Aww. How'd you sleep? And I understand the insecurity thing. So yeah. Let's just put the lies behind us. So how was your day? And as for nicknames go, you can call me jwei. How about you?

Sent from my iPod

On Jan 2, 2010, at 3:32 PM, she wrote

Hey Jonathan.. =)

Any nickname you want me to call youuuu? Jonathan sounds so formal.. hehe.

Sorry. i am just insecure about myself sometimes.... I fell asleep last night.. sorry.
Okay then. We are still talking. hehe.

*mwah*

~Christine. 


-----Original Message-----
From: Jonathan Wei 
Sent: Sat, Jan 2, 2010 12:55 pm
Subject: Re: Heyy...


Hey. I don't know if I made you mad by asking why you lied but sorry. Maybe you went to sleep and didn't reply but I don't know. So sorry if this message is annoying but I just want to know if we are still talking. . 

Jonathan 


Sent from my iPod

On Jan 1, 2010, at 11:17 PM, she wrote

Lets email for a while now.. Then i'll add you on AIM and all that later.. =)

Sorry for the confusion huns. I work.. But i work at safeway... I restock the aisles and all that. Everything pretty much but the cashier and the shopping cars.
aww you aren't mad? thanks...

xoxo!!!

<3 Christine.. =)


-----Original Message-----
From: Jonathan Wei 
Sent: Fri, Jan 1, 2010 11:07 pm
Subject: Re: Heyy...

Okay. Uhmm where to start. 

 I forgive you. I'm not too mad or anything. And of course we can continue talking. But is there an easier way? Do you like have aim? And where do you work then? I'm not mad. Don't worry. 

Sent from my iPod

On Jan 1, 2010, at 11:03 PM, she wrote

Alright Jonathan..

I kinda lied that i was 20..

I'm really 17 and eleven months... My birthday is in february of 92.

I feel bad..
and I really live in the United States...Not UK. But i really do go to work..

i hope you can take my truth.. if you are mad at me, then we can stop talking..

sorry...

xoxo?

~Christine


-----Original Message-----
From: Jonathan Wei 
Sent: Fri, Jan 1, 2010 10:57 pm
Subject: Re: Heyy...

Oh dear. Sure go ahead. Don't make it too harsh please. :-/

Sent from my iPod

On Jan 1, 2010, at 10:54 PM, she wrote

Awww! You're too cute..

I feel kind of guilty for being a total lie to you..

Can i tell you something....? =[

xoxo
Christine


-----Original Message-----
From: Jonathan Wei 
Sent: Fri, Jan 1, 2010 10:51 pm
Subject: Re: Heyy...

Aww. I am sorry to hear that!  When do you get off work anyway? Lol. And my day was well boring. I got up at like 2 and stayed in front of the tv all day. Lol. My friends came over and we played some music but yeah. Part of me looked forward to talking to you and well here we are. . 

Sent from my iPod

On Jan 1, 2010, at 10:46 PM,she wrote 

Work was tough today... My boss scolded me.. I cried a bit but im okay now.. My day was pretty busy too.
How about you? =)


-----Original Message-----
From: Jonathan Wei 
Sent: Fri, Jan 1, 2010 10:41 pm
Subject: Re: Heyy...

Ohh. Hii. So how was your day? How was work?

Sent from my iPod

On Jan 1, 2010, at 10:34 PM, she wrote

It's me Christine from yesterday..


 Send back a message if you still wanna talk. =)


--Christine






So if I didn't mess up yet, how would I proceed? Thanks guys

 

[Recon]

Awwwwww! You're adorable sweets.

So you play guitar.. Better play me something if we meet.. =)
pretty please?




So if I didn't mess up yet, how would I proceed? Thanks guys

Hey buddy. I'm glad to see your not still following that other chick you posted about. I'm not a big fan of long distance relationships, but you need to realize that what you two are doing is in no way a relationship.

You've only spoken to her for a couple of days.

Did you see what I highlighted? Relationships are in essence when people enjoy spending time together. You two have never met, and from the looks of it she is going to blow you off and then send you apology messages and tell you she loves you. From the way you posted and responded to her I'm sure you will take the bait.

However, I am only making generalizations since you have only known her for a few days but this is what I came up with from your message.


1. She self-admitted low self esteem.
2. She lied to you, (even though it was small)
3. No plans have been made to ever meet in person
4. The word friend was mentioned. (I'm not sure if it was you or her)
5. She started tossing out the word love, within days of meeting you (she is probally saying this to you and a bunch of other guys)
6. Abortion story?? wtf?


Okay here are some questions that would be great if you can answer.

How did you meet?
Does she attend school?
Abortion story?


My best advice now is to proceed with caution.

I posted things that I saw as RED FLAGS. Do not get attached to her. She could easily just walk out of your "talking sessions".

Ask her to meet up with you, even if you can't, just to see what her reaction is. Even though that won't tell you if you'll truly meet up or not because she could easily flake the day of. Just mention it in passing and let me know what her response is.


Again, I'm glad your at least pursuing other girls after the fiasco with the last one.

 

[jwei44]

We met on www.omegle.com
She told me she had an abortion on that site, but came clean after I asked her. And yeah, she goes to school in Cupertino so we ARE NOT in the same school. And I mentioned friend. Like as in "met a friend like you". Those were my words. So your saying, tread lightly?

 

[Recon]

We met on www.omegle.com
She told me she had an abortion on that site, but came clean after I asked her. And yeah, she goes to school in Cupertino so we ARE NOT in the same school. And I mentioned friend. Like as in "met a friend like you". Those were my words. So your saying, tread lightly?

Well that means she lied about something else, though I have NO idea why she would lie about having an abortion...?

How far is Cupertino from where you live?

Yes, tread lightly I dont want you to get wrapped up with this girl because I've read some disturbing things about online relationships.

I'm pretty sure some guy here made a thread about how he fell in "love" with some girl online and never met him, and she broke up with him.


So yeah, just be on your toes. Use this girl as confidence to approach other girls in real life.

Anyway, if Cupertino isn't to far from you...SET UP SOMETHING ASAP.

Also check to see if any of your friends might have mutual friends at her school just to check her out.

Have you seen what she looks like?

 

[jwei44]

Yeah I have. And Cupertino and Fremont are about 20~30 miles apart. But I can't drive. So either i should start learning or take bus/bart...lol. And when we met, she had told me she was 20 and everything because I told her one of my deep secrets.

 

[Recon]

so you've met her in person?

 

[eaglez1177]

Look man, I hate to ruin things for you, but long distance relationships just dont work. They really dont. Trust me man, dont waste your time on this, its not worth it at all. Theres SO many more fvcking girls that are literally all around you and close to you. Go for them instead.

 

[jwei44]

@Recon

No we have not. I hope to meet her soon

 

[Brighty]

Never do these kinds of things. This will crash and burn I guarantee you.

 

[Recon]

@Recon

No we have not. I hope to meet her soon

Well as you can see, other members have echoed what I outlined above.

Answer these questions as well as you can. thanks.

Have you made any definite plans with her?

Have you tried to find out any info on this chick? Facebook maybe?

Anyway, like I said before use her sweet messages to boost your confidence because if she likes talking to you, IM SURE tons of other girls at your school will too. Thats the type of mindset I personally like to use.

 

[Arts]

Omegle? Seriously? I wouldn't trust anyone from that site, lol. Go there and you'll see why.