ccdeville
Don Juan
When i use the word ignore i use it in the sense that in the beginning of getting to know a woman you should not shower all of your attention on her. You don't have to do all the chasing. I learned this about women a long time ago
When I was 19 my mother used to babysit this cute little 5 year old girl we nicknamed Muffin. Now of course everyone loves little girls and everyone is always telling them how cute they are, pinching thier cheeks and showering all kinds of attention on her. It was no different for little Muffin.
Myself, not being so impressed with young children, I used to come home interact with my family, eat dinner and eventually go to my room hardly acknowleging Muffins presence. And when i did speak to Muffin I spoke to her as if she were an adult. Not making little baby sounds and pinching her cheeks like everyone else did. Amazingly she would follow me all over the house just to see what i was doing. She would ask me all kinds of questions in her own childish way and wanted to spend time with me, even though everyone else was paying her the attention. One day after being annoyed at Muffin constantly trying to be my shadow, I asked my mother why this little girl wouldn't leave me alone. And mom answered "It's because everyone else showers her with attention and you ignore her". After about a year of my mom babysitting for her I made a deal with Muffins mother to babysit and take her to school because I needed the money. Since she was now my responsibility I began to care for her more. She became like the little sister I never had and are friends to this day (shes 20)
The point is that women don't change much. By the time a girl grows up shes already accustomed to being the center of attention. She expects it, especially from men. And as with anything, when you expect it, you usually take it for granted.
As a DJ you have to break the pattern that she expects. When you talk to her, talk as if you would to anyone else, almost as if to say 'I get along with everyone'. Don't call her everyday and shower attention upon her right away. Force her to come to you by not doing what every other poor sap has already done. You stand out by being different.
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When I was 19 my mother used to babysit this cute little 5 year old girl we nicknamed Muffin. Now of course everyone loves little girls and everyone is always telling them how cute they are, pinching thier cheeks and showering all kinds of attention on her. It was no different for little Muffin.
Myself, not being so impressed with young children, I used to come home interact with my family, eat dinner and eventually go to my room hardly acknowleging Muffins presence. And when i did speak to Muffin I spoke to her as if she were an adult. Not making little baby sounds and pinching her cheeks like everyone else did. Amazingly she would follow me all over the house just to see what i was doing. She would ask me all kinds of questions in her own childish way and wanted to spend time with me, even though everyone else was paying her the attention. One day after being annoyed at Muffin constantly trying to be my shadow, I asked my mother why this little girl wouldn't leave me alone. And mom answered "It's because everyone else showers her with attention and you ignore her". After about a year of my mom babysitting for her I made a deal with Muffins mother to babysit and take her to school because I needed the money. Since she was now my responsibility I began to care for her more. She became like the little sister I never had and are friends to this day (shes 20)
The point is that women don't change much. By the time a girl grows up shes already accustomed to being the center of attention. She expects it, especially from men. And as with anything, when you expect it, you usually take it for granted.
As a DJ you have to break the pattern that she expects. When you talk to her, talk as if you would to anyone else, almost as if to say 'I get along with everyone'. Don't call her everyday and shower attention upon her right away. Force her to come to you by not doing what every other poor sap has already done. You stand out by being different.
[This message has been edited by ccdeville (edited 03-21-2002).]
[This message has been edited by ccdeville (edited 03-21-2002).]
